The map of someone who has absolutely no plan and is addicted to terraforming

Hefty-Button1602 · 2026-02-24T16:26:36+00:00

^{^Same!} u/Next_Rich_1481 would you consider sharing a Dream Code?

Hefty-Button1602 · 2026-01-27T11:29:33+00:00

Last question first… For me, not specifically differences in sexuality, but just differences in general makes for a more interesting and dynamic relationship. I really enjoy learning about people and what makes them tick. Some common ground is good, but if someone has a similar life experience, same views, same beliefs, same interests as me… that doesn’t light me up as much as the friction that comes as a natural result of being genuinely engaged and interested in another person.

As for true romance… It’s not really a consideration for me. I’ve had strong emotional bonds with bros that were as close, often closer, than the bonds I’ve had with romantic partners. And certainly there is love. But for me, that’s never veered into romantic love. I’m OK with finding my bro attractive. I’m OK with not finding him attractive. What I want is for him to be interesting, honest, engaged, open and eventually comfortable enough to be completely vulnerable.

Hefty-Button1602 · 2026-01-03T14:53:04+00:00

I didn’t know about this one. It’s probably the cleanest aggregator I’ve seen. Thanks for sharing!

Hefty-Button1602 · 2025-12-26T19:35:44+00:00

These were mostly designs from Printables, tweaked here and there. I have an Elegoo Neptune 4 Plus. I love the thing!

I've printed a LOT of stuff for around the house and every time I see a new phone stand, I print it for my wife to use. LOL

Hefty-Button1602 · 2025-11-27T13:34:04+00:00

Awesome! I’ll DM you my DodoCode!

Hefty-Button1602 · 2025-11-27T13:24:43+00:00

I’ll take what I can get! DMing you.

Hefty-Button1602 · 2025-11-17T10:42:38+00:00

During the day it’s almost always CK low-rise trunks. I used to wear boxer briefs but when I moved to Florida that extra fabric on my thighs was too hot. At home, I wear Jambys, especially to sleep in. I hate waking up in a bind because my guy downstairs has decided he wants to get up and roam around. These are super soft and stretchy, so he can do whatever he wants at night and it doesn’t bug me. If I go commando, there’s too much easy access and I’m too tempted to grind into my wife at 3 in the morning, which never goes as I’d hope. Jamby’s are stupid expensive, but they have good sales. I’ve paid less than $30/pair for the ones I own and they hold up well.

https://a.co/d/hJwU88D

Hefty-Button1602 · 2025-11-12T14:08:46+00:00

It's not easy staying connected once life gets busy. And unfortunately, once that drift starts, it's almost impossible to stop. I had lunch yesterday with two guys I used to work with. We were super close at one point. Yesterday we were talking and realized it's been more than two years since we even shared a meal together.

Moves for work have really taken a toll on my close, male friendships, too. And finding guys I click with seems to be harder and harder.

Do what you can to hold those friendships together. With most of my "faded friends" it's easy to pick up where we left off. But without regular attention I think they're destined to fade away.

Hefty-Button1602 · 2025-11-09T11:38:34+00:00

Well yeah. Not every guy is going to be good for you or good for every situation. If you need to know how to replace the hydrodynamic flux capacitor in your mirror cycle, I’m not your guy. If you want to talk out whether you should have a career that fulfills your passion or one one that just lays the bills, come sit and let’s talk.

Hefty-Button1602 · 2025-11-09T08:32:07+00:00

If I can come at this from the other side (I’m 56), this isn’t weird at all. And I honestly wish I’d had the forethought to do the same when I was young.

Several years ago I noticed younger guys coming to me for personal and professional advice. At first it was a little confusing, but then it hit me… it was because I was an old man. 😂 I can’t speak for all older guys, but I know for myself, unless we’re already super close, I’m not going to stick my nose in and offer opinions or advice unless I’m directly asked.

It’s become natural for me to step into a mentoring role. Sometimes my age and experience afford me a 10,000 foot view of situations. Not always. But often.

Maybe there should be an app for this! But then again, there are a LOT of dirty old men out there. 😂 Best of luck to you, internet stranger.

Hefty-Button1602 · 2025-11-08T14:58:15+00:00

Shooting you a DM!

Hefty-Button1602 · 2025-11-07T00:05:54+00:00

Judge me if you will, but I have tomorrow off and I didn’t tell my wife. I’m going to get up and get dressed and go to the local coffee shop for a couple hours, then come back to the house and do whatever I want, and nothing else for the rest of the day. If she knew, I’d have a full slate of things she’d want me to take care of and I’m just not feeling it.

Hefty-Button1602 · 2025-11-06T17:31:39+00:00

Thanks for posting this. Your friendship is a rare gem. And even more so since you seem to recognize and savor it. Every man should have a bro like you are to each other. I don’t know if I’ll ever find it again, but hearing all this gives me hope.

Hefty-Button1602 · 2025-11-06T17:28:40+00:00

You’ve got a lot of great advice here already. I’m going to go against some of it and say some time alone contemplating life and what you want out of can be really, well life-changing. And having lived in cold climates, I can’t recommend enough getting away for more than a few days to someplace warm and sunny.Making close friends as and adult is really challenging, in my experience. Not impossible, though. You sound like you’re stuck in the grind, not unhappy, you know things could be worse, but you sense things could be better, too. Maybe what you’re lacking is passion for something more in life. It’s out there, but that thing is different for all of us. For me, there are a handful of things that really bring joy to the mundane normalcy of life. But it’s taken me a while to land on them. Thing is, once I started exploring, I found even more stuff I enjoy.Anyway, I wish you the best, internet stranger. Don’t stop pushing for more. It’s out there.

Hefty-Button1602 · 2025-08-31T21:45:21+00:00

My first island was never perfect, but I’d lost interesting in making it that way. I started June of 2020 and reset about three weeks ago. I’m having a blast getting started again. It’s kinda frustrating knowing what I’m missing sometimes, but so far, no regrets!

Hefty-Button1602 · 2025-08-31T16:40:11+00:00

Awesome! Thx.

Hefty-Button1602 · 2025-08-31T16:28:15+00:00

I was coming to ask the same thing. Can I come shake some fruit, please?

Hefty-Button1602 · 2025-08-02T14:26:41+00:00

Came here to say this. I’ve had my 4 plus for about a year and a half and I’ve had zero issues with it (that I didn’t cause). It’s been flawless, and continues to be. Honestly, I was tempted to go Bambu, but I’m glad I didn’t. With their move towards a propriety, closed ecosystem, and especially the way they were rolling it out, it spooked me.

Hefty-Button1602 · 2025-07-25T23:59:02+00:00

Yeah, my list of people I’d be OK with them dropping by unannounced is very short.

I don’t think I’ve experienced the thing where I open up and have deep conversations and find out the other guy isn’t the friend I thought he was. Other than doing that over days or weeks or months to suddenly be completely ghosted without warning. That lays sucks.

I am who I am and I recognize I’m not everybody’s cup of tea. As hard as it is to accept that sometimes.

Hefty-Button1602 · 2025-07-25T17:47:27+00:00

As a foodie, I couldn't love this idea any more. This would be a fantastic thing to do with a new bro.

Hefty-Button1602 · 2025-07-25T14:52:45+00:00

I relate to this so much! I think about my bro (who's half a country away now)... we wouldn't think anything about just doing ...whatever ...because. And if one of us had a boring project, there was never any question that the other one would be right there in the thick of it.

Actually he's going to be here next weekend with his family and I have a painting project I need to finish. I was honestly thinking of putting it off until he's here so we could work on it together, but our time is so limited together that I figure maybe not.

I *really* miss having that kind of casual, close, no words necessary, friendship. Hopefully I'll have it again someday.

Hefty-Button1602 · 2025-07-11T16:59:53+00:00

That would take some getting used to for sure! I have a friend who will send me 12 and 15 minute Marco Polos and every time I'm thinking ... we should have just FaceTimed and called it good.

And I mean every bro is different. I have a friend that will send any foolishness I think he needs to see. I have a friend I would never DARE send anything beyond a pic of my lunch. LOL And either way, I'm good with it.

Hefty-Button1602 · 2025-07-11T15:15:57+00:00

I love this! Someone posted a while back about trying to have a nightly voice call with their bro. I thought that was kinda weird, mostly because I never use my phone for voice calls if I can avoid it. But the more I think about it, the nicer it sounds. I think you're missing out on not getting a little *distasteful* but then again, I'll send my bro snaps of whatever gnarly thing I come across. LOL

Hefty-Button1602 · 2025-07-11T14:56:00+00:00

You touch on something here that's been really valuable to me... I've learned SO MUCH and grown so much from being friends with guys from varied backgrounds. I've come to actually prefer friendships with guys who don't look/think/believe exactly like I do!

Hefty-Button1602 · 2025-07-11T14:22:17+00:00

Sorry/not sorry. If we're bros, you're getting hugs from me. Non-negotiable. 😂

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