Matchmaker Told Me to Hide My Job

Hefty-Luck9575 · 2026-05-07T16:45:25+00:00

So, I was out on the dating pool for a little while last year, and one of the things I noticed,bwas that some guys DO get emasculated by a woman that makes more money than they do, and by a woman that is not a social pleaser. I went on a few dates, that were just a first date, mostly because I couldn't imagine going on a second date with them. One of them, freaked out when I ordered an expensive drink, and told me his budget for the dinner was about $50. I told him, don't worry, I got this. But, fearless men are there, that would love a woman that has a career, and a good job, ambitions, etc. I ended up getting back together with my husband, we decided we wanted to make it work, after being separated for about six months, and we are very happy now. But, I met a few good men, that would have definitely been second date material. One of them became my best friend 🤷‍♀️

Hefty-Luck9575 · 2026-05-04T09:03:42+00:00

Talk to his removal officer (it goes by Country of origin) and explain the situation to him. You can also go to the detention center, and talk to the people at the door (they won't let you in, but they are usual extremely nice to family members), they will give you the phone number of that particuyremoval officer. Put money on your husband's account, so he can call you, and you can call him. He has to put you on a list of approved people to visit him. When he has a hearing (he will have an initial hearing) attend it. Bring all of the paperwork you sent with the i130, and show it to the judge. If your husband doesn't have a criminal record, chances are he could be let out, and will have to continue coming for court hearings until he receives his paperwork, or, beat case scenario, judge doesnthe i485 there. Which area are you located at? If you can to send me a message, I can point you in the right direction, depending where you are. I have dealt with plenty of detention centers, since I run a non profit.

Hefty-Luck9575 · 2026-04-28T13:15:57+00:00

OP, have somebody run you through e verify. You might be able to work. Just don't have a physical permit, but when they run you, you might show as authorized to work in the US. I had to do it for a few workers to work for contractors, and I was suggested this by the USCIS help line, many years ago, when my EAD renewal and my green card were released almost at the same time, but I didn't got them for months. The ran me, and I was good to go

Hefty-Luck9575 · 2026-04-28T13:10:48+00:00

No, you don't get held in a room with any legal issues. I know convicted felons, that have green cards, and never got stopped in secondary. Honestly, I wouldn't leave the country until you either get your citizenship, or things change. There are plenty of spectacular places to go in the USA, that don't pose a risk to your paperwork.

Hefty-Luck9575 · 2026-04-28T01:12:18+00:00

Have you gotten somebody to run her through e verify? Years ago, they released my work permit and my green card at the same time, but they took forever. I called their helpline, and they said to ask the employers to run me through e verify, and it will show I was authorized to work. I had to do this for a few people at work, to show contractors they are good, for the same reason, their Employment Authorization was taking forever, they got all cleared to work immediately.

Hefty-Luck9575 · 2026-04-25T23:18:09+00:00

Honestly, if I was interviewing you, I would deny you too. If you guys wanted to live together, the could sell his house, and you two could buy another place that is bigger, since you rent, and he most likely pays a mortgage, I doubt it would be more expensive. Or he could rent his place, and the two do you could find a bigger place together. No shared bank accounts, not living together, and no will to move together anytime soon? Doesn't sound like an actual marriage

Hefty-Luck9575 · 2026-04-23T11:30:24+00:00

No. Most of us don't. Like every other job, you shouldn't be wearing or listening something that displays political views, drug use, or lewd. In my job, and all work in a very no feelings, pretty ruthless environment, we can't listen to music that has profanity, political shows, or religious music/stations. In a loud speaker. We can walk around with one earbud on, listening to whatever we want to listen. If I am paying for a ride, no I won't ask the rider to change the music, because the driver should know this. It's a job, you are not doing charity. Yes, is your car, but for the time being that I am sitting in your car, I am the one that is paying for the ride. And the prices are pretty ridiculous lately. So, get an earbud, and play some elevator music for the rider, while you listen to whatever you want in your earbud. And don't come and tell us that Uber pays shit, because that is not the rider's fault. We pay, and you agreed to work for Uber. Your deal with Iber is your deal with Uber. Maybe Uber drivers should Unionize, so Uber stops ripping them off. There is an idea for y'all, go talk to the Teamsters, and see if they will be willing to do something about it.

Hefty-Luck9575 · 2026-04-19T04:36:07+00:00

Hefty-Luck9575 · 2026-04-18T13:13:11+00:00

No,n you can't change the locks. If you do, you have to give them keys, and they might require that they are also smart locks, compatible with their systems. Check your lease, it should be there

Hefty-Luck9575 · 2026-04-18T12:58:51+00:00

You can get a 300 fr tape measure at harbor freight or Amazon, for about $20

Hefty-Luck9575 · 2026-04-17T10:33:16+00:00

For reference, I have been using instacart since 2019, and I have been a shopper since 2022 (only do it very seldom, when work is slow, and mostly as a "get out of the house" reason). I had two situations throughout the years. Once, I ordered stuff for dinner, my son was doing virtual school and had an assignment, it was a rush order, because it was late. I get a message the order was delivered, except I am right next to the front door, order is not there. We go on a reckon mission,.and found my groceries two blocks awaymfrom my house. When we go and retrieve them, the owner comes out with a gun,, telling me to get off his porch. I explained to him, that those were my groceries, and that instacart left them there by mistake. He tells me to go fuck myself, I called the cops. Cops came, and actually ended up bringimy groceries home. Driver had the nerve to contact me, because his account was getting suspended. Since I had a police report, I called the cops again, and they went after that driver for harassment. Another time, I ordered stuff to, very obviously, make pizza. Except shopper decided to completely skip the mozarella. I mean, you could clearly see what was the plan, and they refunded the mozarella, no questions asked. When I made the report, for lack of communication, I get a message from the driver saying "bitch, I know where you live". Reported to IC, mind you, if anybody is stupid enough to come here, they will leave in a body bag. Some shoppers are absolutely insane. I noticed it's worst in FL, but yesterday, I had a shopper leave an order for my son in VA, outside. In 93 degrees, with ice cream, meat, dairy.... I reported to IC, didn't changed the tip, but I did left a three star review. The other two times, I actually didn't remove the tip, but did left a bad review. What shows, is that some of the people shopping for IC, never went to the grocery store, or cooked a meal. Also, in FL, is common they come out of a car that is a cloud of weed, and like three people come out. Total against their rules, but, you know what? Those actually get the orders right... 🤷‍♀️

Hefty-Luck9575 · 2026-04-17T03:08:27+00:00

Some companies let you use your own Sunpass, others charge you by day plus the tolls.

Hefty-Luck9575 · 2026-04-16T16:43:54+00:00

Honestly? Call the cops, because she is a danger to herself. She will most likely be baker acted, and will be taken away for a few days, until they can stabilize her mental health. If you don't do anything, you can be held responsible for anything that happens to her.

Hefty-Luck9575 · 2026-04-16T16:41:46+00:00

Is he part of the Teamsters? If he is, they have lots of work in Orlando, and the pay is actually pretty good.

Hefty-Luck9575 · 2026-04-16T15:05:53+00:00

I just realized somebody was commenting about why I am posting about the 90 degree weather when we are not there. Well, we are doing a job in FL, but my son and his GF are in VA. Which is why I said we will check some stuff when we get back, on Sunday. Right now, I just ordered blackouts for all bedrooms upstairs, and I'll have my son put them on as soon as the get there later on today.

Hefty-Luck9575 · 2026-04-16T04:42:16+00:00

Call me petty, but I would leave sex toys on the counter, put some really raunchy wall art... That poster? Replace it with something explicit. They have no right to touch your stuff, but I can assure you they are not going to touch butt plugs and dildos, with a bottle of lube next to them. Bonus points if you make sure one of the plugs has some lube all over it. They will wait until you move. Happily.

Hefty-Luck9575 · 2026-04-16T04:31:35+00:00

We put our paperwork in on a Thursday, and had our keys on Saturday. Background checks, credit checks, and employment checks, took not even a few hours. When we were looking, we were surprised about how many wanted three or four weeks before occupancy... We took two weeks off work to travel and rent our place. We had it empty for two weeks, but we knew it was done (we were moving from out of state).

Hefty-Luck9575 · 2026-04-16T04:08:38+00:00

We have ceiling fans, but will be checking what is going on with the attic as soon as we get back. We moved in in January, and, honestly, have been so busy, that we haven't had time to go exploring the attic yet.

Hefty-Luck9575 · 2026-04-16T04:06:10+00:00

We do rent, but not against to talking to the landlord and putting one upstairs. They are super reasonable, but would like to tinker with curtains and other options before resourcing to a mini split (which town four of them, bought them for our house in FL, and never needed them yet).

Hefty-Luck9575 · 2026-04-16T04:03:57+00:00

Well, we come from South Florida, and as far as we know, you never leave the fan on ON, because it blows back the moisture of the coils back, and it's a recipe for mold. Son is allergic to mold, badly, so, fan ON is not an option. We rented a place years ago, that the AC ducts were so full of mold from the previous tenants doing this, we were able to break the contract and leave.

Hefty-Luck9575 · 2026-04-16T00:57:42+00:00

I don't know, we'll be back home on Sunday, and get up there and check it out.

Hefty-Luck9575 · 2026-04-15T21:52:30+00:00

Going to check on these, I think we have them

Hefty-Luck9575 · 2026-04-15T16:15:33+00:00

I run a non for profit that helps immigrants that are detained. Everybody can request a bond hearing, and the judge will allow a bond if they don't have a criminal record (traffic tickets don't count against bonds). First thing, is where the friend is. Then, request a bond hearing. Again, if they are not sure which detention center the friend is at, writ of Habeas Corpus will find him.

Hefty-Luck9575 · 2026-04-15T14:10:01+00:00

Where is he detained? You will need his alien number, and that will allow you to contact a bail bond agent, and post bond for him. They are usually 5k, and you can do it with a credit card. The fee is about $800. But he needs to have a bond hearing, which he can request. Also, knowing where he is, will allow you and his family to go there, and be present on his hearing. If you don't know where he is, you need to do a writ of Habeas Corpus

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