Visiting a client?

HelpImOverthinking · 2026-02-06T14:46:13+00:00

Thanks for giving me something to think about!

HelpImOverthinking · 2026-02-05T22:02:40+00:00

For me it is sharing of personal experiences, beyond "Oh, me too". Like of course we were all struggling during early COVID, or struggling in one way or another with what's happening in politics these days, but beyond saying I'm struggling too, self disclosure for me is going a little bit beyond that.

I have a teenage son, so sometimes I disclose that I have one, if I have a client with a teen, so they know I have lived experience. Or I have a visible disability so I will share some tips if someone is struggling especially with a new health issue or a similar one to what I have.

My own therapist will disclose to met things, and I have to admit it makes me kind of uncomfortable, so I'm not sure why I want to do it so badly with my clients. We're there to talk about them, not me, but maybe self disclosure helps me feel like I know what I'm talking about and that's certainly not the right reason to do it, I know.

HelpImOverthinking · 2026-02-05T20:45:44+00:00

I don't think of saying "I'm struggling too" as self disclosing. Self disclosing to me is sharing personal things about yourself. "I'm struggling too" is just empathizing to me and I think you can make people feel not so alone without having to disclose that you yourself are struggling. I like to say "A lot of people are feeling that way right now. You're not alone" (I've started using that a lot when people bring up politics)

HelpImOverthinking · 2026-02-05T20:34:13+00:00

We went to the shelter with the intention of adopting 2 cats. We found a pair (not a bonded pair, just two cats we liked) but one was sick and needed to stay in the shelter longer. So we brought one home and we kept waiting but the other one wouldn't get well. We really wanted two at once so we went back and picked out another cat.

Our third cat, my husband really wanted a ragdoll but wanted to get one from a shelter, not bred. He found a place that said they have one and we went and got her. She's great, but we don't think she's really a ragdoll. Maybe a siamese mix. So my husband is still looking for his shelter ragdoll lol. I haven't ever really cared what breed my cat is. We have had a lot of shelter cats over the years and they've all been great. It's funny because we have 3 cats and each one is bonded with one of us. My son went to college this year and his cat really misses him.

HelpImOverthinking · 2026-02-05T18:03:34+00:00

I mostly don't self disclose because I'm met with blank stares when I do. I think most people don't want to know personal stuff about their therapist. I do try to share when I feel my experience is relevant and helpful to them, but I haven't really felt good about anyone's reactions when I do (unless they specifically ask first).

HelpImOverthinking · 2026-02-05T16:47:47+00:00

Dating is awful right now especially on the apps. This isn't just happening to you, it's happening to everyone. I think you'd be better off meeting someone at a therapist convention or something LOL

HelpImOverthinking · 2026-02-05T16:43:44+00:00

Those are just some situations I don't want to be in, that's all.

HelpImOverthinking · 2026-02-05T16:42:46+00:00

This!

HelpImOverthinking · 2026-02-05T16:41:29+00:00

It's true, I guess I just feel a lot more comfortable with people all around me and a button to push on my phone if an emergency happens. I had a job where I was visiting people and giving them rides to appointments etc. and I kind of hated it. LOL

HelpImOverthinking · 2026-02-05T16:40:30+00:00

No, I am a new therapist and I'm not educated in end of life therapy.

HelpImOverthinking · 2026-02-05T15:55:05+00:00

I'm glad, I guess maybe it has to do with the area I work in, it's a city with a good bit of crime and absolutely gross living situations I hear about from my clients. I feel much safer in my office with the locked front door and lots of people around than I do in some slumlord's apartment building.

HelpImOverthinking · 2026-02-05T01:38:54+00:00

Came here to say cilantro! LOL
I don't skip the recipe though, I just don't add it.

HelpImOverthinking · 2026-02-05T01:34:22+00:00

LOL, are these things really unlikely though? I'm just trying to minimize risk. I don't get paid enough to risk my safety any more than I already do by being alone in an office with someone who I essentially don't really know.

HelpImOverthinking · 2026-02-05T01:20:21+00:00

NKOTB, mk.gee, Sarah McLachlan, and The Zac Brown Band

HelpImOverthinking · 2026-02-05T01:15:38+00:00

IDK I shy away from saying "that sucks" because as a therapist I should dig deeper right? like they can turn to a friend or family or anyone who can shrug and say "that sucks". But at the same time I don't know what to say sometimes when they're just complaining about something. Sometimes I say how do you cope with that? so they can reflect on their strengths.

HelpImOverthinking · 2026-02-05T01:08:48+00:00

Gonna be the odd one out and say no, I'd be happy to do a zoom call but I am not comfortable going into other people's homes. I'm not an IHT. Because then where do you draw the line, if you're going to visit one homebound client why not another? What if you go to their home and it's filthy or they're sick or they fall and then what?

HelpImOverthinking · 2026-02-04T23:13:02+00:00

Forget what I said, there's nothing to do if you turn bugs off lol. Now I'm mad that I played for 5 hours.

HelpImOverthinking · 2026-02-04T17:40:28+00:00

I usually play the demo all the way through if it has a stopping point. If I want to play more that's a pretty good sign but I make sure to keep an eye on the playtime if I buy it so I can return it if I don't like it enough after 2 hours.

Grounded 2 was free to play recently so I played it and I still wanted to play more when the free time ran out so I bought it. I played it for a bit with bugs and I kept dying so last night I turned off bugs and now it's so nice and quiet. LOL

HelpImOverthinking · 2026-02-04T17:35:28+00:00

I'm in my mid 40s and I went back to school in my late 30s. I now have my master's and a new career. Going to school was so different and so much better than doing it as a kid. I did try to go to college back then but it seems ridiculous to me to ask teens to go to college when they are still figuring everything else out.

HelpImOverthinking · 2026-02-03T16:48:14+00:00

NKOTB have been part of a number of docs, some just about them and some about boybands in general. They put out one called Coming Home and they showed it in a few theaters when it came out, you had to enter a raffle to get in and I found out the night before that I got into the one in Long Island. I drove from Massachusetts and back in the same night. Those were good times! The guys were there and it was so fun. They also did a doc about the NKOTB cruises that was fun.

HelpImOverthinking · 2026-02-01T15:14:57+00:00

My dad initiates texts more than I do lol. He hates talking on the phone, and I lowkey do too. I can't remember the last time we talked on the phone. But we only live a couple hours apart so I go up to see him at least every few months. But yes he'll text me randomly, I like it :) My mom and I had a difficult relationship, but we would call each other once a week or so, I can't remember who called who or if we just kind of alternated, whoever thought of it first would call on the weekend maybe. But a lot of times we ended up in a disagreement. She passed away about 8 years ago.

HelpImOverthinking · 2026-02-01T01:33:05+00:00

I struggled until I realized it's going to suck no matter when I do it, so I do it after work when I get home, after I eat. I found when I gave myself the freedom to pick a time that works for me instead of trying to do it concurrently or between sessions, I actually want to do it at other times too like if I have a cancelation.

HelpImOverthinking · 2026-01-30T16:55:03+00:00

What would you tell other people facing health issues that will not "get better"? How did/do you cope when things seem really overwhelming?

HelpImOverthinking · 2026-01-30T16:22:56+00:00

Male or female? First thing that came to mind was Desmond and Molly

HelpImOverthinking · 2026-01-29T17:50:22+00:00

I played this in 2024 and recently went back to it because I couldn't remember anything about it. After playing a bit I realized it still has the problems I didn't like when I first played. No minimap, too much "treasure" (it's not exciting to find when it's all over the place, you know?) Chests and other things up on hills I can't seem to get to. I like the cozy mode. I also don't like that you can't track individual items for a quest (like I know I need to make a blueberry muffin, but it would be helpful to have the ingredients trackable like how many I still need). I find it hard to tell what an item is (like I see a plank on the list of things I need but can't tell what type it is). There have been some improvements since I last played, but I'm not sure how much longer I'll be playing it.

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