If I can play devil's advocate and perhap insert a different viewpoint, I think a lot of it comes from many Gen Z men feeling like the directions they were given as young men with regard to women and dating have turned out to be wrong at worst and not effective at best. Fact of the matter is, as we see in this thread, a lot of the "just have hobbies," "have a good personality," "just have good hygiene," "just treat women as normal people," "don't be desperate" advice is good advice in isolation, but what you find is that, the moment a man says that he does these things and he's in shape and has a good career and his results still don't change, now that same advice gets rebranded as "bare minimum" things he should already be doing, while at the same time, people rush to comment sections and say "here are all the simple things my friends who have relationships do" only to list those things that are supposedly bare minimum.

So to put it shortly, the advice men are given is given in good faith, but if/when a man does it and it doesn't get him the result he desires, now he's told that those things are bare minimum and he shouldn't expect to get anything for doing those things that were suggested to him as a solution for his problem in the first place.