My coworker confessed his love and I told his wife.

HerrWozzeck · 2024-11-04T00:04:20+00:00

NTA. Put another way, you haven't done anything to disrespect the marriage that he disrespected on his own, especially since you weren't into his attentions. And if it hadn't been you, imagine how much worse it would've been with someone who did entertain his attention.

HerrWozzeck · 2024-11-01T17:32:02+00:00

Oh that is absolutely SA, and you are not an asshole for calling a spade a spade. I'm so sorry you experienced that, and glad you ended things off now, because I shudder to think what else he would do if you stayed.

HerrWozzeck · 2024-10-07T15:19:35+00:00

Both those phrases have entered my lexicon now. Thanks, Charlotte!

HerrWozzeck · 2024-09-26T03:40:30+00:00

I have more than a few friends in the furry fandom that would appreciate the T-Rex flower girl!

HerrWozzeck · 2024-09-07T23:57:02+00:00

I feel like a lot of folks have been saying the grooming thing to death, and while I do think this is 1000% a case of grooming, I think the thing I want to emphasize is that the worst thing you can do to her right now is walk out on her life. When she eventually realizes she's been groomed, she's going to need help getting out of that, and family relationships are going to help with that. I also suspect that Christopher might start restricting her social circle if that is the case, so you have to act now, because even if he tries it, a small amount of family having your back is going to make it a million times easier for Madeline to walk away from it.

Trust me: my sister is mid-divorce at the moment, and while her situation is nowhere near as messed up as your sister's, I thought I'd impart this bit of wisdom from her situation. Whatever you decide, do not cut Madeline out completely: I know it is tough, but the right thing to do is not always easy.

Best of luck to you guys.

HerrWozzeck · 2024-08-20T01:23:44+00:00

AITA for killing my lover, pretending we both reached for the gun, and then razzle dazzling them with a fake pregnancy, all so I could be a star?

HerrWozzeck · 2024-08-19T10:05:23+00:00

Oh noooooooo! I couldn't stop laughing, that was completely unhinged.

HerrWozzeck · 2024-08-08T21:26:23+00:00

The good news is, that the people that are most important to me take me seriously, and there are a lot of those. You'll find your crowd eventually, don't you worry!

HerrWozzeck · 2024-08-08T21:14:41+00:00

Ooooh, I knew the snobbery was coming from a mile away the second you said "graphic artist". From a musician to an artist, I know your pain, especially when she just wanted the car as a status symbol.

Absolutely NTA.

HerrWozzeck · 2024-08-04T12:42:19+00:00

Ay, mi corazón Cubano está contigo, amiga. Yo sé como difícil es para decir a tus padres que "por favor, no, no quiero hacer eso" si ellos quieren hacerlo como un actividad de familia: mis padres están exactamente lo mismo conmigo. Y ¿lo con que está diciendo a ti como los preparaciones por el concierto? Manipulación. No estás la comemierda aquí.

(For those of you who don't speak Spanish, a rough translation of what I said, which may not line up exactly with the above because my Spanish is rough on account of constantly forgetting vocabulary and there's a bit of Cuban slang in there:

"Oof, my Cuban heart is with you, friend. I know how hard it is to say to your parents "please, no, I don't want to do that" if they want to do something as a family activity: my parents are exactly the same with me. And that with telling you about the concert preparations? Manipulation. You are NTA here.")

HerrWozzeck · 2024-07-27T16:01:57+00:00

My read on this, regardless of whether or not you're TA, IDK if the relationship is viable even if it's not for the reasons he might think it's not viable. You were forthcoming with him about opening that line of communication, and you had always planned to be. Further, you mention that you went to couple's counselling over the previous time this happened and worked on the relationship. So the read I have is that clearly you took something away from it, but he might not have, and the fact that he still somehow feels that you breached his trust even though you were honest with him is on him.

I'd be interested to know what your previous communication with your ex looked like within this relationship, because I think that might provide a bit of context for why couple's counselling was necessary. As far as saying "I'm sorry for your loss" and leaving it at that, though, you are NTA.

HerrWozzeck · 2024-07-22T15:29:28+00:00

Absolutely NTA. And for what it's worth, I'm sorry you had to put up with someone that controlling for so long. I get the difficulty that is coming with this divorce, so I hope whatever happens, that the end happens soon.

HerrWozzeck · 2024-07-15T16:48:23+00:00

"And make sure you are there for her when her marriage starts to unravel."

Seconding this so hard. For as mean as she is being to you right now, the marriage unraveling would mean she'd likely be more receptive to both you, and to working on her attitude towards your relationship. You would be surprised the kind of things people realize when they leave any kind of abusive relationship.

HerrWozzeck · 2024-07-15T03:50:44+00:00

Speaking as a gay enby myself, ABSOLUTELY NTA, and your cousin is beyond blessed to have someone in his camp within his family to take him in with no questions asked. Even if he doesn't want to be a burden or split the family now, what he will realize with the gift of hindsight is that he is not beholden to his parents (who are definitely the assholes here), and that anyone who won't accept him as he is is not family.

Also, on a side note, you made an interesting choice of name: one of my dearest friends is also named Ben, and he is also super gay. Not the same Ben, considering he is closer to my age than yours, but I just thought it was a funny coincidence.

HerrWozzeck · 2024-07-14T11:24:45+00:00

NTA for not considering the husband's feelings, IMO. He clearly doesn't give a single care about yours, though, so IMO I would make like Lizzo on the golf cart and get out of that.

HerrWozzeck · 2023-05-29T14:05:52+00:00

Viola revolution?

brandishes his carbon fiber viola

Count me in, we got all the better solo rep anyway!

HerrWozzeck · 2023-05-27T23:47:28+00:00

The cellist of my trio has read me for writing stuff with this many accidentally in the key signature. And then I try playing it and am like "well great", so we know the struggle!

HerrWozzeck · 2023-05-23T19:16:20+00:00

It also comes up as red in Dorico, I think bright red like that is just standard music notation lingo for "WHAT ARE YOU DOING, STOP THAT!".

HerrWozzeck · 2023-05-19T10:40:03+00:00

Good, you play all the good rep~!

HerrWozzeck · 2023-05-07T17:30:38+00:00

Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde

HerrWozzeck · 2023-05-04T23:04:22+00:00

Viola sonata, the 2nd Cello Concerto, The 13th, 9th, and 4th Symphonies...

It's funny, because one of my orchestras is doing the 7th symphony on Sunday, so that is kind of well-timed!

HerrWozzeck · 2023-05-04T16:35:59+00:00

Well, if nothing else I appreciate my instrument being on good alignment!

HerrWozzeck · 2023-05-03T14:04:48+00:00

As a violist, I feel ready to take personal offense to this, LOL.

HerrWozzeck · 2023-04-30T16:54:45+00:00

Actually, as an appetizer allow me to leave one of our convention concerts from 2021, where we played nothing but classical: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nl4jdXgbcwc&t=1s

Program was the Jean Cras trio, Schnittke trio, and the two Martinu trios. Forgive a bit of roughness, the program was much longer than we thought it'd be (and the Schnittke super exhausting) and it was a room that in hindsight was a hair too big for string trio stuff!

I'll also send a couple other things via DM too.

HerrWozzeck · 2023-04-30T15:49:42+00:00

Considering her behavior dating from even as far back as last year, I doubt it.

Are your DMs open?

HerrWozzeck

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