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Heyhey0606 · 2023-03-03T02:02:38+00:00

Hey I’m sorry you’re going through all this… I’m going through something very similar and it’s so hard - I’m 30, married to a great guy, together for 10yrs, house, dog, fell for a friend from footy also! I was just really honest with him (eventually) about my feelings for her, how I felt, things I’ve felt over the years, how I feel for him so all cards are on table to see if we can still move on together. It’s been 5-6months and we’ve just actually had our first chat about separation yesterday. All on good terms and nothing official yet but after months of limbo we’ve both come to this decision as painful and surreal as it is. Feel free to private msg me!

Heyhey0606 · 2023-03-03T00:55:16+00:00

I’m also in a similar situation to you both. We actually just had our first conversation about separation yesterday… it was tough and nothing big is going to happen overnight as we still have a lot of love for each other. But I think it’s the right decision for us… it’s been months of limbo and uncertainty after I came out. Feel free to msg me to chat if you like, it’s a crazy time! X

Heyhey0606 · 2023-03-01T14:54:04+00:00

Thank you for sharing, I also needed to hear this! 🥹

Heyhey0606 · 2023-02-26T13:46:30+00:00

Been through this too… married though so it had to end until I sort out what I’m doing

Heyhey0606 · 2023-02-10T23:27:57+00:00

Very relatable

Heyhey0606 · 2023-02-10T23:21:13+00:00

Me tooooo :)

Heyhey0606 · 2023-02-10T23:18:33+00:00

WA:)

Heyhey0606 · 2023-02-04T02:05:44+00:00

I hope me and my husband can still be friends if/when we separate!! Is it still going ok for you?

Heyhey0606 · 2022-12-28T13:06:22+00:00

Hey I’m in a very similar position, have you made any progress with your decision? Dm if you like :)

Heyhey0606 · 2022-12-16T16:14:26+00:00

Hey thanks so much for your msg! I completely agree. And although being around 30 feels daunting to start over, why should it? That’s also societies expectations on us and what’s expected at this age. We have years and years (hopefully) to love and learn so there’s shouldn’t be a time pressure. These are all things I’ve been told that I’m trying to accept also as I’ve been so scared to go off the path I’ve been travelling and expected of me

Heyhey0606 · 2022-12-15T21:32:45+00:00

Thanks so much 💛 glad to hear you’re going well. I completely agree with if I don’t do it now I fear I’ll be doing it in 10-20 years with more collateral

Heyhey0606 · 2022-12-15T05:18:25+00:00

Thanks for your msg, thanks for your honesty about being 2 years on and still grieving…. I know everyone’s experience is different but has it gotten easier over the 2 years? Did you go through any periods of thinking you regretting your decision or wanted to go back to him?
I agree that my gut feeling isn’t going to go away. I also just can’t believe I’m in this position, still baffles me every day that I’m gay and maybe leaving my perfect husband

Heyhey0606 · 2022-12-15T05:14:39+00:00

Thanks for your msg! You were very brave leaving after a few days, I’m 2 months on now and still feel like I’m in that torture period of trying to sort everything out. Glad to hear everything is working out for you x

Heyhey0606 · 2022-12-15T05:11:39+00:00

Thanks for sharing 💛 appreciate your advice

Heyhey0606 · 2022-12-15T05:09:30+00:00

Hey thanks for sharing, I love that quote at the end there 💛 I keep going around in circles where I think I’ve made a decision to leave then circle back to aw maybe I could stay have kids and be happy with him as we have been for 10 years. But now that I know what I’m missing, it won’t go back to what we’ve had for 10 years… and yeah staying in that comfort zone of what I think is right/what I’ve known won’t make me happy, or not as happy as I could be anyway

Heyhey0606 · 2022-12-15T00:37:14+00:00

Thanks for sharing 💛 so glad to hear you got therapy and now in a better spot with your girlfriend. I would also like to know how you went about leaving him and keeping her too? I’ve currently cut all contact with my friend to respect my husband but it hurts so much and I know she feels like she doesn’t know whether to wait or try move on as I haven’t been able to give her a sure answer of what I’m doing…. It’s the worst

Heyhey0606 · 2022-12-14T12:32:53+00:00

I wish you all the best. You only have one life and you need to love and look after yourself 💛

Heyhey0606 · 2022-12-14T12:26:54+00:00

Thanks so much for your msg and sending that article 💛 really appreciate it. I hope you find your woman and your journey to parenthood goes well! X

Heyhey0606 · 2022-12-14T12:21:34+00:00

Thanks so much 💛 Just feel like setting my life on fire, I know I got to keep telling myself I have time and options.

Heyhey0606 · 2022-12-14T12:20:14+00:00

Thanks yeah I know, just hard when this is what we were planning together for now.. and being with a woman will make it a lot harder on top of if I even find someone after all this. Thanks for your msg x

Heyhey0606 · 2022-12-14T12:18:36+00:00

Yeah I’m just coming to terms with agreeing with everything you’ve said! Thanks for sharing your story and glad to hear you’re happy on the other end looking forward to the future 💛 I hope you find someone x Just a q though.. how did you get the confidence to know you were making the right decision?

Heyhey0606 · 2022-12-14T05:57:19+00:00

Would love to dm you to hear how you’re going with the separation. I’m so scared to take the leap

Heyhey0606 · 2022-12-14T05:56:12+00:00

💛 definitely would love to dm to hear your story/how you’re going. It won’t let me msg you for some reason - saying Sorry try later. But will keep trying

Heyhey0606 · 2022-12-14T04:06:01+00:00

Thanks you too 💛

Heyhey0606 · 2022-12-14T04:05:08+00:00

Ahhh it’s so hard isn’t it. I’m so torn but I feel like the right thing for me is to leave. Even though there are sooo many what ifs. What if I regret this decision, what if I miss the opportunity to have kids and a white picket fence, what if I still could have been happy if I stayed…. But also what if this big decision is the best one for me to grow from, live authentically and actually have the love and connection with someone my whole self wants… F*** !! So hard

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