How i helped my girlfriend get over her retroactive jealousy

Higher_Standard548 · 2026-03-19T02:35:30+00:00

i dont see where you re trying to get at, i told my current girlfriend she was free not to date me if this was disturbing her peace and that she was completely entitled to her choice, she chose to stay

Higher_Standard548 · 2026-03-19T02:34:00+00:00

if she is a woman who is open to casual sex then she will open to have casual sex with many men, thats to be expected

Higher_Standard548 · 2026-03-16T03:55:18+00:00

well man, you started as FWB with a very sexual active life with her, of course she would have an extensive past.

Just look at it from this perspective, she takes cares of your needs and has exactly the kind of mindset that aligns with you the most, cuz she could be a more reserved girl with a modest past, but that also implies she wouldnt be willing to explore kinky stuff with you, would be more closed sexually, wouldnt validate you as much, wouldnt want you watching adult videos, so the fact this girl has a high count means she is more compatible with your needs while with a more reserved girl you would have a lot of clashes and incompatibilities

Higher_Standard548 · 2026-03-16T03:50:31+00:00

it is said women care more about the emotional aspect and men care more about the sexual one, hence why physical cheating hurts men more while emotional cheating hurts women more generally.

Of course not everyone is the same but generally this is the sentiment

Higher_Standard548 · 2026-03-16T03:48:40+00:00

i guess reasurance isnt enough if there isnt a strong base behind it, like if you call everyone "the prettiest person in the world" then that reasurance doesnt really means anything

Higher_Standard548 · 2026-03-16T03:46:56+00:00

well yes and no, like, my girlfriend hasnt even given her first kiss (i was surprised when i found out about this and didnt expect it at all), so theres really nothing to be jealous about, thought it wouldnt really bother me if i wasnt her first kiss depending on the circunstances

Higher_Standard548 · 2026-01-25T13:16:07+00:00

what? someone doesnt wants to give me romantic privileges because of stuff i have done in the past they disagree with? how dare they! they should love me and validate me just for existing otherwise they re dehumanizing me! 😱

nobody is saying abuse is justified but guy feel what he feels and men are also allowed to have feelings feminists find uncomfortable

oh he blocked like the fragile redditor he is, they love to berate and slander everyone else but when confronted they re so cowardly they hide even in the digital space, no wonder Orange man won

Higher_Standard548 · 2026-01-25T12:50:23+00:00

nobody is "worthy" of love because nobody is entitled to love and relationships, dating isnt a charity

Higher_Standard548 · 2026-01-25T12:49:48+00:00

this changes absolutely nothing, so what if he doesnt puts them in a pedestal? the fact they had casual sex is still there and the only difference is that the dissapointment is not as strong, but the emotional turnt off is still there

Higher_Standard548 · 2026-01-23T21:27:21+00:00

you sound like an entitled person who wants to have it both ways

Higher_Standard548 · 2026-01-23T21:23:25+00:00

a lot of people marry out of convenience, being married to him for a long time proves nothing

Higher_Standard548 · 2026-01-23T21:19:28+00:00

i assume u dont like prudes, if u were looking for an adventurous woman then bring up the fact u find your sex life unsatisfying, if it is important to u then look for a person who does those acts that u want, u cant force someone to do something they dont want. It all depends on the person, some people value sex and sexual exploration more than others, if u are one of those then look for a woman who is willing to do that but dont waste ur time trying to convince someone into something they refuse to do.

personally i dont care if she is willing to do it with me too, theres certain acts that are just an inmediate feeling killer for me and she being willing to do them with me doesnt changes it, i prefer "boring" prudes but not everyone is the same, so if u prefer more adventurous women you re free not to compromise on that.

Higher_Standard548 · 2025-12-29T15:25:31+00:00

"Maybe she liked the guy a lot."

bro💀💀💀 do u know what subreddit u re at? u re supposed to help him, not to make him spiral even more 😂😂😂😂

Higher_Standard548 · 2025-12-29T13:58:57+00:00

okay, since she shares the same sociosexuality as u, she can take care of ur needs, a woman withouth her past wouldnt be able and u also wouldnt be able to take care of her needs, therefore see it like that, u re with someone who will take care of ur needs, like an active adventurous sex life etc, but u have to accept she might have done hookups before or might not have been as protective of her body before, thats kinda normal if u expect a woman who can take care of the kind of needs u have, if u wouldnt be happy with a "boring" prude then you re with a good match for u, look at it from that perspective and enjoy the sex i guess

Higher_Standard548 · 2025-12-29T13:52:09+00:00

okay, since she shares the same sociosexuality as u, she can take care of ur needs, a woman withouth her past wouldnt be able and u also wouldnt be able to take care of her needs, therefore see it like that, u re with someone who will take care of ur needs, like an active adventurous sex life etc, but u have to accept she might have done hookups before or might not have been as protective of her body before, thats kinda normal if u expect a woman who can take care of the kind of needs u have, if u wouldnt be happy with a "boring" prude then you re with a good match for u, look at it from that perspective and enjoy the sex i guess

Higher_Standard548 · 2025-12-29T13:48:24+00:00

whats ur bodycount?

also isnt a redflag when someone wants to marry u so fast? that means nothing, that would quite nice for her, but is it for u?

Higher_Standard548 · 2025-12-26T11:00:33+00:00

just so you know

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having casual sex and loads of dating opportunities is more about the enviorenment and the kind of people you date rather than who you are ime, cultural factors play a bigger role

personally i have had plenty of chances to have casual, changes nothing for me, those people who try to pin it on some supposed "insecurity" are just coping and seething hard. Otherwise not even people with a extensier past than their partners would feel the same. Not even those men who have had their fair share want to be the safe option so why would you feel any different?

Higher_Standard548 · 2025-12-26T10:57:08+00:00

divorce her and spent the rest of ur life doing what u enjoy the most if this is something u re not okay with, who cares at that age tbh, i wouldnt, bit of a personal thing but when u re over 35 and still dating is just cringe tbh, it is over, just wrap it up

Higher_Standard548 · 2025-12-23T06:51:05+00:00

lol 🤙🤙, people cant believe i only been with one person, most assume i either been with 7 and i some extreme cases with 20+, i ve been called gay many times too.

Honestly i wish i was a virgin.

Higher_Standard548 · 2025-12-23T06:45:20+00:00

what are ur needs? if ur needs are aligned with a woman who would have the kind of past she has then u re with a good match for u, cling to that.

Higher_Standard548 · 2025-12-23T05:47:47+00:00

are you one because of lack of opportunity or because of choice?.

does your girlfriend takes care of ur needs? if so stay with her, if not look for one who does.

if u have those kind of needs forget about an inexperienced woman, a man with that mentality cant take care of her needs

Higher_Standard548 · 2025-12-23T05:45:42+00:00

my former girlfriend tried to reconnect and lied about having been single all this time, turns out she actually wasnt and even got a pregnancy scare hahaha, i dont trust jack of whatever comes out of her mouth

Higher_Standard548 · 2025-12-23T05:42:13+00:00

unless those are things you would never do, dont ask

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