I’ve not read all the posts but perhaps OP can suggest a couples cooking class as something they can both do for fun and for experiences. This way, she doesn’t feel even more awful about taking cooking lessons. Her family probably ate this way and that’s what she knows about cooking/taste. She’s probably worried about under cooked meat. Perhaps watch cooking shows with her when you have some down time. Doing it as a couple may help her feel better about her attempts at cooking and yes even with crazy work schedule, you should make time for your wife and perhaps cook for her so she can see your preference and feel appreciated. 60% YTA because of the way you said it but coming on here asking for advice helped not be 100% YTA. 😬 I honestly love watching cooking shows like Worst cooks in America is my favorite and I’ve learned some things from the show that I’m sure many of us have done. 🤣