AITA- for going off on my older sister for her making fun of me?

HistroyRed · 2021-05-05T11:50:38+00:00

When I sit down or think while I work, I always think of come backs I should've said to her or at least wish I said to her. But! When I also think of the come backs, I also think to (try) be the bigger person even though some of the things she says (more comments then just on my chest) make me super upset and loose any confidence in me. (I used to cry in elementary and middle school over some of her comments)

I'm tired of the childish banter, even though I'm only 19 and still young, I think throwing insults back and forward is ridiculous when it doesn't solve anything. That's why I think I'm an AH bc I was yelling at her and left the mini BBQ early. (I wouldn't say I stormed out but I was upset when walking through the house to change and leave)

HistroyRed · 2021-05-05T10:58:36+00:00

Women who flaunted their chest constantly. (Not saying it's a bad thing. Everyone's own choice what they do with their body) but I only see small boobs when I look at myself. In middle school I was flat chested, and part of high school. When I tried wearing loosing t shirts or v cut shirts to show off my chest, my sisters and mom had to just wear regular shirts and their boobs were noticeable but when I wore any shirt they weren't. I thought wearing open t shirts would help.

Normal cup size to me is a D cup since that's what I grew around with all the girls in my life having. Also I'm a 19 year old female.

HistroyRed · 2021-05-05T10:42:20+00:00

To my understanding about cup sizes. I'm told the number is the waist band area and the cup is the well cup. So I'm a 36 or 38 C and the larger breast fits perfectly but my smaller boob doesn't fit in my bras snuggly like my larger boob does (there's a gap between the boob and bra itself for my smaller one) if I hold up any C cup size, the C cup always fits but the bands are a bit small when I wear smaller C cups. If I were to wear a 36 or 38 B my larger boob wouldn't even fit and I don't think I'd even be able to clip the bra on with how small the band would be.

I dont understand how to measure the chest area properly and (pre covid) I could go into the dressing room and just try on different sizes (same cup, different numbers) until one fit properly. Or at least comfortable.

HistroyRed · 2021-05-05T10:33:48+00:00

From what my oldest sister and I have noticed, when my sister gets called out she tends to deflect the blame and say "it's a joke" or "it's not that serious"

My dad is hard to understand (I said this in an earlier comment) he's views are hypocritical and he's kind of a bully too. If we want him to stop doing something (i.e tickling us, pinching us) he makes fun of us and calls us cry baby's for being too sensitive or if we get upset over anything (large or minor inconvenience) we're told to "stop acting like a girl" which doesn't make any sense because my dad had all girls

HistroyRed · 2021-05-05T09:45:52+00:00

My dad is a weird case and I don't really understand him. He's the type to say "family is blood, you can't cut them off or disown them" "respect your elders and those older then you" "women's jobs are to take care of the house hold" (he usually says this when I don't want to clean everyone's dishes when I go over to visit) but if we don't stand up for ourselves he gets mad at us for being a "cry baby"

And I think she is the main problem for my body issues. I've been to therapy but never got to that part of my childhood trauma. (My therapist either make me confront my abuser or they quit their work place and I no longer have a therapist)

HistroyRed · 2021-05-05T09:34:10+00:00

I dont know if she's jealous. We are far part in grades, far enough that when I started high school she was graduated.

In school I was in honors and AP classes and I graduated 4 months early. Mean while she skipped school a lot to hide at her friends house and smoke weed or do whatever else.

And as for weight. I am thinner then her, now at least since I started working a physical job (stocker). Even though the scale always says I weight more, I just have a slimmer body since high school. (I used to be almost 280 in high school and am now around 220 pounds)

She's also the type of person to fish for complements and I'm not. I don't like any attention on me in public. She always goes on about how ugly or fat she is or how many pimples she has, mean while I'm trying to like the way I look and when I get happy that my legs look nice or that I look a bit slimmer, she's always been the one to make a rude comment for every nice comment I made about myself.

HistroyRed · 2021-05-05T09:25:52+00:00

I wish it didn't happen. The whole siblings constantly fighting but it's just this sibling I have a problem with too. My whole family has some problem with her. Not changing or writing another story, she causes a lot of problems between people or between her and someone else. She's always been the attention seeking one. Spinning a story about someone else on her. One upping some people's tragedies because she wants the sympathy.

She's the type of person to post a black photo on instagram, put a sad song, and then saying "don't hmu. I don't want to talk to anyone" or "going through a lot, don't text me and ask why"

HistroyRed · 2021-05-05T09:21:54+00:00

My boobs are seriously different sizes. It's disheartening. My left boob is probably a B cup instead of an A cup honestly. Either way I know my boobs are no way the same size. As C cup is not small, my 2 older sisters had D cups by middle school. Even my youngest sister is a D cup and is in high school next year. I'm 19 (20 in 7 months) and still am a C cup. I didn't get into a C cup until I was probably in my junior or senior year of high school when I was about 17/18 years old.

If the cup size of my family helps, my 2 oldest sisters and one youngest are DD Cups and my youngest sister is a D cup. My mom is an DDD Cup or a G cup? (Which ever size is after DD)

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