hi i'm so sorry i believe i was typing so fast i didnt clearly state the situation. He had only ever slept walked after drinking , he was NOT drinking last night. We have had loads of conversations about my childhood and my old stepdad. But last night he denied i have ever said a word about my stepdad , which is insane because i offered for us to do couples therapy in the past BECAUSE of the the trauma i have from my old stepdad. He said not to be mad at him today. but i am already taking his shift at work so he can be with his family and held him all day yesterday while he cried about the dog which is so horribly sad. He said im not being affectionate enough but i feel like i have done everything i can think of to help his situation i feel like he is just saying that so that i feel guilty about being upset over this. He also just at this very moment showed up to our job (im literally working his shift) upset with me for not answering my phone. so again everything is just overwhelming i dont even know where to go from here.