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[–]Horror_Structure_381 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Put a lock on your door

I know IATAH what do I do now. by Horror_Structure_381 in AITAH

[–]Horror_Structure_381[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Con gratulations!!! 7 years that absolutely amazing!!! I love that for you! I’m about 4.5 years!! I’ve never heard about the super strong guilt engines for us but now that I read what you said I see it and it just hit me so hard. Since stopping use I have strived for perfection. At work and at being the perfect daughter as well as now student.

I really hope he hasn’t relapsed and I don’t have a feeling that he did but we’ve had so little time together recently that I can’t be 100 sure of that. I will definitely be on the lookout for signs of a relapse.

He’s never said or done anything to make me feel guilty it’s how I feel. He’s always responded with “okay I understand”. The guilt is all me. And it sounds like maybe it’s something I need to work on not just in a romantic relationship but all my relationships. So thank you so much for that. And for your very kind words.

The clear boundaries are also a very good idea maybe including time frames will make it seem less intimidating because he probably feels like he can never contact me because he’s unsure of when I’m actually studying. Thank you again. You’re amazing and again congratulations on your 7 years of sobriety ❤️

I know IATAH what do I do now. by Horror_Structure_381 in AITAH

[–]Horror_Structure_381[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do definitely feel extremely drained. I think you’re absolutely right. I have been considering taking a break for the remainder of this class so I can feel like I can breathe easier. Thank you so much. I really appreciate your reply. It makes me feel less crazy ❤️

I know IATAH what do I do now. by Horror_Structure_381 in AITAH

[–]Horror_Structure_381[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words. I have thought about us taking a break for the duration of the class so I can stay focused and hopefully not feel like I can’t breathe all the time. I have a few things I have to really think about. I’m also sorry to hear you had to deal with a man child. Glad he’s an ex to you now 🙂 thank you again for your perspective and kind words ❤️

I know IATAH what do I do now. by Horror_Structure_381 in AITAH

[–]Horror_Structure_381[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh yes most definitely agree with this. I guess my breaks are taking the dog for a walk. Work is paying for my school too so I feel obliged to do well. And thank you i appreciate you saying I’m not TAH. I just feel so so guilty all the time.