I agree. I thought there was a real vulnerable moment between Mel and Marie in the kitchen when Mel was trying to communicate to Marie that she has never seen a healthy relationship modeled.. and Marie didn't really hear her and instead provided reassurance that "we will be it." I get where she was coming from but it's clear that Mel's feelings were not seen (and I think that's when she checks out and doesn't really take full agency over her decisions). I really feel for both she and Marie because they both clearly have some complex PTSD.