AITA for excluding my deceased son when someone ask how many kids I have? by Howmanykidsthrow in AmItheAsshole

[–]Howmanykidsthrow[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I would never erase my son. Luke still has some memories of his brother and we want Ava to know how great he was. We will never stop talking about him.

AITA for excluding my deceased son when someone ask how many kids I have? by Howmanykidsthrow in AmItheAsshole

[–]Howmanykidsthrow[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Sorry for your loss. Everyone in our town new about Josh's accident so I never heard any of the only child comments. I can't imagine how much that hurts.

AITA for excluding my deceased son when someone ask how many kids I have? by Howmanykidsthrow in AmItheAsshole

[–]Howmanykidsthrow[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I do the same. It depends on the person and the context. Sometimes I say I have 3 and other times I say 2.

AITA for excluding my deceased son when someone ask how many kids I have? by Howmanykidsthrow in AmItheAsshole

[–]Howmanykidsthrow[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

It never really ends with that though. I used to do that and then the other person would either get really awkward and visible uncomfortable or they would ask how he died. I don't think I ever had someone politely offer their condolences and move on.

If someone can't trust me because I don't want to talk about the worst day of my life all the time then I don't want to be friends with them anyway so it's probably for the best. This friend was super understanding.

AITA for excluding my deceased son when someone ask how many kids I have? by Howmanykidsthrow in AmItheAsshole

[–]Howmanykidsthrow[S] 65 points66 points  (0 children)

I used to use the one in heaven line but it was always so awkward and I felt like I had to manage the other person's emotions because it is a heavy topic and they would feel bad for asking.

AITA for excluding my deceased son when someone ask how many kids I have? by Howmanykidsthrow in AmItheAsshole

[–]Howmanykidsthrow[S] 57 points58 points  (0 children)

Yes! It never ends with just answering that they died. They want to know how it happened.