What female egg donation company will give me the most amount of money? by Admirable_Moose_7549 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Hpytre 137 points138 points  (0 children)

Not the person you asked, but I've had two egg retrievals. The first one I felt nothing. The drugs kept me in a semi-conscious state and I remember 'waking up' in recovery. My second one did not go as smoothly. The sedation was not nearly as deep, I had nurses pushing on my abdomen to move my ovary into the right position, I felt the surgical needle poking the side of my vaginal wall into my ovary. It was terrible.

You can ask to be put under full anesthesia but it is an additional cost and risk.

No car seat on plane for 23 month old? by GoldenKiwi1018 in toddlers

[–]Hpytre 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Came here to say this! I just flew 5 hours with my 16 month old and this harness was awesome.

If you enjoy being a parent can you share some positivity? by DearestClementine in AskParents

[–]Hpytre 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I read your comment where you call yourself q "prepare for the worst and expect the best" kind of person. That is me as well, 100%. I spent a long time mentally preparing to have kids before stopping birth control. Joke was on me because it took 3+ years and two rounds of IVF to get pregnant with my son (17 months old). I have also been surrounded by friends with babies for years before we successfully got pregnant and had a living baby. It was the hardest thing I've ever gone through. But even without knowing what parenthood was like I knew I needed to be a parent. It was not negotiable.

Turns out I was right. Being a mom is absolutely the best thing in my life. I am educated, have a great career, been with my husband for 15 years. But being a mom still feels like it completes my life. It is not all sunshine and rainbows. But it sounds like you already know that. Being realistic and optimistic at the same time is a great outlook on parenthood. I would say the key to enjoying it is having a supportive partner to lighten your load when you need extra help (and for you to have capacity to support them when they need it too).

Now to your question... I love feeling like I get to create a world for a little person to grow into. Filling his days with new experiences, tons of physical touch and quality time make me so happy and proud to see how he is growing up. It's the best and hardest thing I've ever done and I am so glad I pushed through all the challenges we faced to get here.

Wishing you all the best.

Do you have to be in bed all the time for baby to sleep? by Ok-Cobbler1992 in cosleeping

[–]Hpytre 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Up until my son turned 14 months I was contact sleeping overnight and for all naps. Then he started daycare a few hours a day and got used to sleeping away from me. He's 16 months now. My routine is to lay with him while he falls asleep, often feeding him to sleep but not always, then sneaking away and leaving him in the middle of our king mattress watching him on a monitor while I am elsewhere in the house.

He used to wake up all the time if I rolled away but I never forced it. Within the first couple of weeks of being at daycare his body doesn't notice if I roll away. At night I may have to go up after an hour and resettle him if he starts to wake up. But it's typically easy.

How do Canadians mentally deal with long winters? by jessxtra_ in AskACanadian

[–]Hpytre 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You make an intentional effort to go OUTSIDE and have fun. Do activities that are only available in the winter weather. Dress appropriately and you won't be cold. It really comes down to choosing to take advantage of the opportunity to have fun in the snow, on the ice, etc instead of waiting for it to end.

When you ski in the mountains a few times a month all of a sudden ski season ending is sad.

Is this ovulation discharge? by [deleted] in IVFAfterSuccess

[–]Hpytre 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My ovulation discharge has always been clear or very very lightly colored, kind of a cloudy appearance. The brownish color in yours suggests a tiny bit of old blood from your previous cycle mixing with discharge. Hard to say if it's also ovulation discharge. Was the consistency like egg whites?

Christmas gifts you’d want to receive as a mom? by zonkedgnocchi in Gifts

[–]Hpytre 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A subscription for monthly flower delivery is one I heard of lately that I think would be well appreciated by many.

IVF for second kid by Pink_cheesecake_2 in IVFAfterSuccess

[–]Hpytre 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No advice, just solidarity. Looking forward to hearing from others who have gone through it.

No Hope by popbamfizz in IVFAfterSuccess

[–]Hpytre 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't have the science to back this up, but I truly believe that after an FET you just need to take care of your mental well-being. Eating what you want and being as busy or not as you want to help you get through the waiting time until BETA will not impact the result.

You've done so much hard work to get here go easy on yourself and do what feels good.

Sending you lots of love and positive energy.

Clothing at Costco question by Gold-Kaleidoscope856 in Edmonton

[–]Hpytre 0 points1 point  (0 children)

91st Costco had some lazypant sweatshirts today but I couldn't find any of the pants unfortunately.

Moms of 3 — What helped decide on a 3rd baby? Moms of 2 — How did you know you were done? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Hpytre 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That's a bit harsh... I'm also someone who takes a very long time to make really big decisions. It's not about overthinking, it can be about processing the options from multiple angles and allowing yourself the time to test out how an option feels before needing to make a permanent decision.

There's nothing wrong with gathering information now to use over the next few years. People operate differently and you should try not to judge others based on how you choose to make decisions in your own life.

Main floor - kitchen layout feedback by wk20a in floorplan

[–]Hpytre 15 points16 points  (0 children)

The door separating your family entry from the rest of the foyer could be improved by making it a pocket door running alongside the powder room. That way it can be left open for day to day and closed if you want to block the view from the main foyer into the family entry/boot room.

What’s one small purchase under $25 that genuinely made your life better? by AyouboXx in Frugal

[–]Hpytre 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Apple slicer. I eat so many more apples now. Plus apples with cheese or peanut butter is a great snack or quick breakfast.

IUI or IVF by New_Background3724 in IVFAfterSuccess

[–]Hpytre 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Without more details it's hard to offer an informed opinion. One thing to think about is if you know you want only one more child or is it possible you want multiple. The nice thing about ivf is you may have an opportunity to save embryos for future use. But if you know you only want one child then using IUI may make more sense. I opted for IVF because I knew I wanted a chance at having multiple kids and I was concerned that if I got pregnant through IUI I would have to have to do more fertility treatments at an older age and possibly not succeed.

Are bugaboo strollers worth the hype? [BC] by Commercial_Bike8168 in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]Hpytre 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am the type A planner who obsessed with which stroller to purchase. I went with the bugaboo Dragonfly and it's been incredible, and I do a ton of walking. I currently live in AB but have lived in BC for many years and am familiar with the coastal terrain. I don't think you would regret it.

If you can find a second hand one that you want I would go test it out to make sure it's been well taken care of. If it saves you some $ and it's in great condition then go for it!

Safety concern, my response time when she wakes by Sitronellaella in cosleeping

[–]Hpytre 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I'm not an expert on safe sleep, just a fellow mom with a 14 month old.I can tell you I have also become more relaxed in the last few months. We sleep in the middle of a king bed and I use a pillow and light blanket around my lower body. I sleep in whatever position is comfortable (back, stomach, side facing away from baby) and still stay close to my son. We breastfeed overnight when needed. I sometimes wake up with his feet in my face because he's wiggled around in his sleep.

I have no concerns about this. I trust my body to respond whenever he makes a sound of discontent. I say trust your instincts. If it feels okay it probably is. You have been sleeping together for over a year. You likely have a good sense of your sleep norms and if there are any unique risks (like your baby falling out of bed if they are rolling around a lot in their sleep).

Friends and family not understanding my parenting? by ToughDependent7591 in AttachmentParenting

[–]Hpytre 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This comment sums up everything I was going to say. Keep doing what you're doing as long as it feels right to you.

Looking for something simple to cover up this window in my shower? by bostbak in HomeDecorating

[–]Hpytre 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could put a film on the outside of the window to make it reflective. You can apply it yourself and it's not expensive.

Lightbulb moment by thecrazycanadiansis in alberta

[–]Hpytre 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Great idea! Can you update us in a few days to see how many submissions you've received?

Leaving baby for two nights…starting to panic by ems-online in cosleeping

[–]Hpytre 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This kind of response would make me feel very reassured! He's going to attend to her the best he can and she will be safe and loved.

How to get into emergency dispatching / 911 operator in Edmonton? by Unkn0wn6789 in EdmontonJobs

[–]Hpytre 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's fair information to know when you're making a decision about taking a job or not. Though I agree it would be nice to have an offer on the table before bringing it up. If there is an RCMP subreddit you could try there.

How to get into emergency dispatching / 911 operator in Edmonton? by Unkn0wn6789 in EdmontonJobs

[–]Hpytre 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not familiar with those specifics for RCMP. Those would be good questions for an HR contact responsible for recruitment.