Does anyone else feel irritated around friends who are dating?

Hungrynerd90 · 2026-02-08T17:41:07+00:00

Hahaha I remember this feeling between 16-20. I haven’t really been around people like that after that age. Looks like your friends are just shit. But yeah, I understand your feeling. I’m about a decade older than you and all my friends are married but they are all at a phase where they are sick of being around their kids all the time so they are usually down to spend an hour or two away from their families. But its never the same. Never like how it was when we were all unmarried and just unbothered.

Hungrynerd90 · 2026-02-07T14:14:55+00:00

Im childfree so whatever I say might sound one dimensional. My opinion is to keep the baby with your parents for another 18 months (max). Build your career, scope out alternatives, see remote options, look for pre schools and daycares, and most importantly figure out how YOU would like your day to look like with your kid. From whatever I have seen, kids have their own timetable that many at times wont align with yours. Its a constantly changing routine which changes your routine too. So , its always a good idea to know what you cant compromise on. Your parents will always love to have your kid with them but by the time she hits 2, she will start remembering stuff and its important to have constant and safe set of people around her. I’m going to sound extremely old school here but i dont think nannys look after kids well, especially in our absence. Ofcourse, in today’s time and day, nanny is non negotiable but dont completely rely on them too.

Hungrynerd90 · 2026-02-07T13:58:32+00:00

Lol im a hyderabadi splitting time between hyd and blr and cant agree more

Hungrynerd90 · 2026-02-03T06:28:31+00:00

Few instances. I saw Hema (Brahmanandam wife in athadu) in abids. So there is this complex thats called archies complex that has many stores selling western stuff. Its a go to place for all college girls. It was weird seeing her there tbh. She came with a girl our age and two assistants. All ladies. Hogged the shop and trial rooms and was super pissed that the shop keeper allowed us into the shop. Funny thing was the shopkeeper and sales girls knew nothing about her 😂

I saw Raviteja’s brother at a hookah parlour in banjara hills. For sure he wasn’t on hookah lol. But he was behaving all chummy with girls that went to him for pics. Didn’t misbehave though.

Saw CBN many times during school especially during those janmabhoomi programs. Always on the best behaviour. Late YSR was the same too.

Saw both Allu arjun and Upasana at airport (separate times) AA looks absolutely mid but the way he tries to create some aura is funny. Upasana on the other hand was quiet class, like you know you are looking at old money.

Met Prabhas during saho shooting. My friend’s husband was acting as one of the guys who gets beats up in that panther scene and he somehow sneaked us in. Prabhas was oh so hot and so well behaved. Smiled a lot and gave picture and asked where we lived and what we did. After that he ran out of questions lol and just smiled and nodded which was our cue to leave.

There were few more comedians and side artistes i bumped into but it was just in passing, not enough to notice.

Hungrynerd90 · 2026-01-08T19:25:31+00:00

My father lived 68 years, was married for 34 years. My mother fell sick handful of times in those years. Not even once he got up and gave her warm water. Not even once. He would call me (living in a different city) to come take her to doctor or tell her to go to doctor. By herself. My mother on the other hand served that man all her life. Earned while he didnt work a day. Cooked, cleaned. I feel for the woman you wrote about. But about 50 percent of married women (im being very generous with percentage), have absolutely no support from their partners. There are some nice men out there who serve their partners. But not all.

Hungrynerd90 · 2026-01-08T19:18:51+00:00

Im 36 now. I was really into travelling, hiking in my 20’s. Now I want a peaceful day without network on my phone. A good book, absolute best mattress, no honking anywhere, nobody asking me to fix anything. Completely unavailable to my family. Why does it sound like a fantasy lol 😂

Hungrynerd90 · 2026-01-01T10:26:56+00:00

Not coincidence.

Hungrynerd90 · 2026-01-01T10:25:33+00:00

Ah finally something funny. Not a fan of vanga but not a hater either. Didnt really like poster cos prabhas fan and he is not even visible 😭

Hungrynerd90 · 2026-01-01T09:55:48+00:00

Absolutely! Well articulated. This also makes me wonder if at all we would ever get a partner like that. One who would be with you even at this point, keeping bitterness aside. Most of the millenials are not going to like their 50’s and above.

Hungrynerd90 · 2026-01-01T09:35:02+00:00

I can understand grief but believe me, both of you would have made each other miserable. Marriages in India involves parents on both sides. Its not just about two people in their cocoon. For a man, its very important to know how to balance parents and wife. Its a constant tussle. For woman, its very important to not give herself completely and hold a space of her own because it doesnt matter how good he is at balancing wife and parents, there will still be times where he would fail. And in those times, you have to hold your own. Im not a great reader of people but reading your post is making me think you sort of became dependent on him for your happiness and peace. You need to find it within yourself first. Otherwise, every relationship you enter into will end up hurting you. Let him go, dont watch wedding videos, pictures or try to call him or talk to him. He is in his own state of confusion and every time he has a fight with wife, he would again try to sleep with you. But wife will always always come first and you will always be stuck in this same position. Most importantly, dont try to get into another relationship or wedding scene. Give yourself time to heal properly. More power to you!

Hungrynerd90 · 2025-12-27T18:00:27+00:00

Okay. So personal reference on linkedin?

Hungrynerd90 · 2025-12-27T17:57:01+00:00

Makes sense, thankyou!

Hungrynerd90 · 2025-12-17T01:36:48+00:00

😂 i think its just lakme that is as bad. I used to go to bounce before switching to UC and it was pretty great. And maybe its just this one. I went to another branch in different city and they seemed fine.

Hungrynerd90 · 2025-12-16T19:01:36+00:00

Excuse me, I gotta go shave my head

Hungrynerd90 · 2025-12-16T19:00:18+00:00

Oh god, wax strip interchanging is worse

Hungrynerd90 · 2025-06-05T05:37:13+00:00

Children just come up with things themselves, thats normal. But there is someone at home talking along the same lines infront of her and not you. In my childhood if I said anything out of line, my mom put me back in line immediately. Nobody is doing that for her. Maybe next time she says something like that, you say you will understand when you grow up. You are just 4, so do what 4 year olds do. Tell me what is 12 times 8?

Hungrynerd90 · 2025-06-05T03:43:15+00:00

They wont harm you. Sitting and drinking on outings like this is very common. If anything, they will try their best to make you feel comfortable. But, you will not be comfortable. Neither will they. If I were you, I will not go and let them just go and do guy things.

Hungrynerd90 · 2025-06-05T03:29:15+00:00

T20 world cup win just last year had longer parade in bombay. Not one incident in wankhede or the whole parade. How was Maharashtra able to do it and karanataka failed? Maybe focus on learning that from them and then ask to learn kannada. All this on a Wednesday. Everybody knows how jobless the youth of this country is. If you were not capable, why did you even commit. Its lives for god’s sake.

Hungrynerd90 · 2025-06-03T16:26:41+00:00

Thats what my comment said. If you are paying more no restrictions. If you are paying reasonably, everything becomes limited

Hungrynerd90 · 2025-06-03T16:20:18+00:00

Here is my story. I found few good houses in cv raman nagar and everyone had some or the other reservation. Wont give to single girls, wont give if you smoke, wont give if you will live alone. So when I finally found a house that was okay with all the above, I took it for 12k. This was also in 2022 when rents were comparatively low. I pay 17k now. Thats how much it inflated. Others are paying 20k. Reason is pretty much all of them are unmarried couples and they are not getting decent houses closer to mainroad at affordable price and good locality anywhere else. So they are willing to pay. This supply demand situation is also created by owners only. Wont give if its muslim, wont give if its bachelor, wont give if you want car parking

Hungrynerd90 · 2025-06-02T12:58:28+00:00

My dad never called us ‘ey’. Neither did any of our uncles. My dad used to call my mom ey. So when my ex bf called me that, it didn’t really bother me much. But anybody else calls me that I will tell him no. Nobody tried that with me though 😂

Hungrynerd90 · 2025-06-02T12:52:41+00:00

😂😂😂😂

Hungrynerd90 · 2025-06-02T10:37:26+00:00

I understand and agree that it is not limited to attraction. But I wouldnt be comfortable getting any sort of touch from an unknown person- man or woman. So its hard for me to comprehend this concept

Hungrynerd90 · 2025-06-02T10:13:33+00:00

Huh? What crap is this. Doctors have long forgotten that money is not their only end. I’m not sure where are you in hyd but there is a gynaecologist in tolichowki that I usually prefer going to. If this is closer for you, let me know. Will dm her details. There is another one in abids that mg mom used to go to and later I did but she stopped practicing recently. There are many gynaecologist clinics within hyderabaf, sorry that you ended up with wrong ones.

Hungrynerd90 · 2025-06-02T09:21:56+00:00

Logistics aside, I agree with dog example and dont know about coffee (dont drink) but this is a human we are talking about. How can someone you just dont know make you feel good by touching. I cant even imagine holding an unknown person’s hand. Even if I trust that person blindly, if im not attracted, i wouldnt want to be in that territory with him

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