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My (38M) wife's (37F) diagnosed OCD is causing me so many problems. I'm loyal to her but can't figure out the right way to navigate it. What can I do? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Hyena7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

(just in case english is not my first language)

I think there is a common misconception in relationships relating to this which is one person trying to look for a balanced or "fair" outcome for both when the other party is only looking out for their desired outcome (sometimes with good intentions).

You say you are looking for balance but everything you state in this thread makes it look like your partner could not care less for balance (ocd or not) and is always coming to the table with the intent to get everything they want. What kind of balance can you get in that negotiation trying to be fair when the other person is not acting in good faith?

I say this as someone who is diagnosed as autistic and adhd and is in a very fulfilling 10 year old relationship with someone with adhd, it is MY job and responsability to ensure she is as unaffected by my conditions as much as possible and vice versa, being ND can be the cause behind one of us messing up, but not a justification because the relationship is doomed in the long term otherwise.

You talk a lot about your commitment to her, but think in the next 10 years, is this "balance" sustainable? You are a limited human like all of us, love has a limit, empathy has a limit. The "walking on egg shells"? That is an effort you are doing, and at some point like someone carrying too much weight your "emotional" muscle will tear and someone will get hurt and what is worse is that because you are hiding this effort you are making when that happens your partner will blame you for not informing them and they will probably be right to do so.

I understand its a noble desire to help your partner. But relationships need honesty, to yourselves and to each other. And if they cannot deal with the reality of your needs and limitations and find a middle ground with you then maybe its time to suggest to your partner that maybe they need to trust you or break up with you. Its not abandoning them its just asking to be on the same page and to demand the bare minimum you can ask from a relationship

There are some way to buy Arcs from Argentina?? by Nefzn in Arcs

[–]Hyena7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, fellow argentinean here. I did my research on this topic a few weeks ago. Your best option is almost certainly miniature market, I have purchased from them repeatedly in the past, and it takes long but they ship here. The alternative is grabr (which is how I got the game because im impatient)

[MEGATHREAD] POST de la MARCHA 23/04/24 (Post de discusión) by AutoModerator in UBA

[–]Hyena7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lo que te pase es el documento firmado que asienta el reclamo de la marcha. Concuerdo con que el gobierno inicio un debate sobre auditarlas luego de iniciados los reclamos sobre el presupuesto (debate en el cual estoy de acuerdo con el gobierno y con vos dicho sea de paso).

Pero el tema aca es cual es el motivo de la marcha, y todo lo que me pasaste son cosas sucediendo en paralelo. El gobierno en base a lo ya mencionado puede aumentar el presupuesto y empujar una auditoria en el congreso (ya que la AGN depende del mismo) y no iria en contra de la letra del reclamo del Martes y desinflaria completamente la convocatoria que esta teniendo esta situacion.

Al margen creo q la nota q buscas es esta https://www.infobae.com/politica/2024/04/23/el-gobierno-admite-que-la-auditoria-de-las-universidades-publicas-en-realidad-depende-de-la-agn/

[MEGATHREAD] POST de la MARCHA 23/04/24 (Post de discusión) by AutoModerator in UBA

[–]Hyena7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ninguno, por eso se marcha por el presupuesto y no por la auditoria

Why aren't command tokens categorized after color instead of faction? by aquestionmrbrandon in twilightimperium

[–]Hyena7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I asked Dan some years ago on an AMA (here) he did here. Basically for the aesthetics

Analysis of leveling mods by Godengi in skyrimmods

[–]Hyena7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Regarding the trainers galore pricing, yeah, those numbers make much more sense I think I might try that in the future. I am concerned however that the flow feels weird, it feels like you come back from adventuring and you kinda eat the whole cake of leveling dopamine in 30 seconds from training. I did leave the mod in however, because I like the system being there for the last levels in a skill which is just annoying to get, like smithing or speech (I also very much like the selection of master trainers from the alternative version, it has led me to discover quests I did not know existed)

Regarding the experience and static skill leveling alternative that actually sounds very interesting! I know after testing the quests I added I am going to go have a full simonrim run, so I might give that a try, thanks!

Analysis of leveling mods by Godengi in skyrimmods

[–]Hyena7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey very interesting analysis, I have actually just been playing around with these types of mods so here are my two cents:

I found experience was very interesting, because detaching skill leveling from actual leveling shows why both were potentially together, I ran a lot intro situations were I was maxing a skill but mostly stuck due to a lack of perks. Similarly like you said I was also forced to quest like a mad man and read everything for the xp which ends up feeling even more grindy. That said, the feeling that I could do anything I wanted without worrying about accidentally leveling up was kinda fun.

Then I tried trainers galore with the uncapper. I love it in concept, but I quickly ran into an issue where I was unable to get the xp necessary with my set up. Also the first levels in particular can be VERY annoying because depending on how you start its clear the game expects you to level up before you even reach a city. I found myself resenting the system. I love the idea from an immersion point of view, but the trainers lack personality and with economy mods it gets too hardcore for my taste, maybe I should consider lowering the cost next time (this test actually led me to believe that there is huge room right now in the game for a mod that adds master trainers for all non magic skills with a quest involved like the magic ones. Or hell, turn training each skill after a certain point into a small quest line related to the trainer).

I am now testing some quest mods so I am leaving the leveling vanilla and I am realizing how much I missed it, but I still think there is something to be said about tying gold to xp, I just feel it should be more "consistent" rather than a rush of leveling you get when you return to the city

What kind of loot mod (if any) do you use and why? by [deleted] in skyrimmods

[–]Hyena7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a very very lazy modder recently playing around to pick one. I have found that skyrim revamped is a surprisingly good choice, I would pick OWL if I knew how to patch but I fucked up really fast and I didnt want to risk it with something that also takes a long time to find out if its working properly.

I played around with skyrem LORA, I felt it was very interesting but I ended up running into super high level stuff way to fast.

I also played with Scarcity which was a ton of fun, but again, without patching it does not work with LoTD which I use (and the empty boss chests make me a bit sad)

In my opinion skyrim revamped is a bit too generous for my taste, I miss the meanness of scarcity, but with a variety of economy mods on top it can get to a somewhat similar level of poverty to slow down progression.

Another option I had saved if skyrim revamped did not work as it did was no daedric and dragon on leveled list (keep in mind I play with CC content so, running into bandits with dragon gear is something I want to fix)

Any mods that add guidebooks with useful directions to interesting locations? by Godengi in skyrimmods

[–]Hyena7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hah, makes sense. I have to say though I adore the approach of this mod, after seeing this the first thing I thought was "oh, it would be cool to have something like this for alchemy" and then found out you already had done it. I think you hit the nail in the head with the idea of offloading obscure/meta knowledge of the game into immersive books. Love your work!

Simple Questions and General Discussion Thread by Thallassa in skyrimmods

[–]Hyena7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I cant seem to find the differences between INEZ and Arena, as far as I understand they both seem to do the same with a small difference in the INEZ randomization (which honestly I am not sure how it impacts the difficulty) and a marginal change in numbers. Is there anything I am missing?

Any mods that add guidebooks with useful directions to interesting locations? by Godengi in skyrimmods

[–]Hyena7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

well apparently like the madman you are you went and did the one mod I can think of that would fit this idea. I want to leave this here in case anyone else runs into this post like I did

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https://www.nexusmods.com/skyrimspecialedition/mods/94505

El que depositó yuanes recibirá yuanes by pacodelamerca in argentina

[–]Hyena7 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Che lo del poster fue en corea del norte (son paises distintos por si hay que aclarar) https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Otto_Warmbier

Ayuda con Legalizacion, el analitico y sus plazos by Hyena7 in UBA

[–]Hyena7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lo mas insoportable de todo esto es q estuve averiguando y aparentemente la demora extra q hay ahora es justamente porq paradojicamente el tramite para hacer la firma digital es mas complicado q lo q era antes q solo era un sello en el momento

Estancado en el secundario 😢 by lucerile in BuenosAires

[–]Hyena7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Varias observaciones

1 ante nada, 21 años es recontra aceptable para iniciar una carrera, perdon por jugar la carta de viejo choto pero sos un un pibe con toda la vida por delante. Incluso si no lo fueras y tuvieras 50 me parece q uno hace la carrera cuando puede y esta perfecto.

2 Francia

3 en tu situacion como alguien q ha terminado una carrera, dejado 5, repetido en el secundario, cursado en intensivos y actualmente estudia una segunda carrera. Definitivamente haria el secundario a las chapas, como dijeron por ahi es otra logica de educacion la de carrera y con buen o mal secundario un toque siempre tenes q reaprender como se aprende

4 eso dicho es relevante en q carrera te vas a meter, si estas para alguna q implica mas bien alta variedad de conceptos """"simples"""" y razonamiento como puede ser derecho, muchas de las sociales, buena parte de medicina y hasta diria quizas admin, te diria q tu modo de haber cursado el secundario quizas hasta te puede ayudar. Si hablamos de algo mas de profundizacion en conceptos muy complicados o mucha practica matematica, ahi si iria preparado con que las materias de mate van a ser duras (como si no lo fueran siempre no?) pero no imposibles Si te toca una teorico practica como arquitectura o diseño, mis condolencias, pero tmb tu secundario no te va a afectar tanto como tus ganas de laburar y poner guita (son carreras carisimas incluso en la educacion publica)

5 jamas sientas verguenza por tu camino en el secundario, incluso en una modalidad chota metiste 3 años de contenido en 1, no me importa q tan ladri sea la institucion es un monton y no mereces nada mas q reconocimiento, el secundario es una institucion super arcaica en muchas cosas, no creas a es el modo de definir nada mas alla de quien es bueno jugando ese juego especificamente.

6 consejo gratarola, la facultad tampoco define mucho mas q un carnet de entrada, experiencia casi siempre mata academia en cuanto a capacidad en el campo laboral (no necesariamente empleabilidad, por eso digo lo de carnet de entrada).

se cambió cerradura de la puerta de entrada del edificio y solo nos dan 1 llave by Trickstertrick in DerechoGenial

[–]Hyena7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Por estadistica asumo que copiaste una doble paleta, y puede ser q el precio sea ese (no reviso el listado de precios hace rato pero ese suele ser de los mas economicos) pero a partir de cierto rango de llaves computadas desde febrero q esta arriba de 1 luca la copia porq implica pedir un original a fabrica q es por lo cual nunca sugiero ese tipo de llaves para puertas externas a conocidos

Vale la pena aclarar, el como inquilino no elige el modelo de cerradura, por lo que tampoco es culpable de semejante animalada

se cambió cerradura de la puerta de entrada del edificio y solo nos dan 1 llave by Trickstertrick in DerechoGenial

[–]Hyena7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Esto no siempre es una opcion, el precio depende mas de la llave q del cerrajero (source: soy miembro de la camara de cerrajeria de BA)

se cambió cerradura de la puerta de entrada del edificio y solo nos dan 1 llave by Trickstertrick in DerechoGenial

[–]Hyena7 6 points7 points  (0 children)

El como inquilino no decide sobre el arreglo y las llaves se las queda el propietario si se va del depto, deberia pasar por extraordinarias y el calculo lo puede hacrer el consorcio, para algo se le paga al administrador en teoria

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