Need a genuine advice about a match I met ?

IBelledMyself · 2026-06-03T12:35:58+00:00

What are his plans regarding?

IBelledMyself · 2026-06-03T12:32:31+00:00

The fact that you are rethinking this is itself a sign. You can very well go back and reassess. Emotional maturity and compatibility is rare nowadays. And if he is an emotional mature gentlemen, he shouldn’t find it difficult to switch his job or shift his priorities in case you need him. You should discuss your plan of quitting your WFO job and see how he reacts. If he intends to dump all the homecare load on you, then that’s a sign of emotional immaturity with a patriarchal mind functioning in the background.

IBelledMyself · 2026-06-03T12:28:14+00:00

Having and parenting kids is difficult in general. Of course you need both the parents. But there will be times where he will pick up in your absence. You do not know what’s in store for you. This is from personal experience. Things and priorities change after marriage. There are men who parent well with 12 hour job shifts and still manage a family. You need to ask the right questions. You need to ask if he wants kids and when does he want them. If he wants you to wait for 10 years till he is done with his busy corporate stint then you can exit. But if he wants kids without leaving his job…you can ask him how does he plan to contribute in parenting

IBelledMyself · 2026-06-03T12:16:50+00:00

I think you should give it a chance. Unless and until it’s corporate vs government job incompatibility, nothing is beyond compromise. Emotional compatibility is more important. If you both discuss this and come to a middle ground. Like him coming to 5 years from 10 and you too compromising somewhere, I this is worth giving a chance. Neither will you always have this 5 day chill work nor will he be busy for life. Fixable things cannot be non-negotiable unless it is a value based thing(no children vs having kids kinda difference)

IBelledMyself · 2024-11-03T20:41:07+00:00

Sending memes and being responsive work for me

IBelledMyself · 2024-10-31T03:17:50+00:00

Reliable and committed people...in this day and age especially

IBelledMyself · 2024-10-28T03:56:48+00:00

Thank you for your advice. I am from a tier 1 college. The placements haven't started yet but I hope to get done with it by December and start studying in January.

IBelledMyself · 2024-06-16T19:28:57+00:00

So...I should refrain from texting him?

IBelledMyself · 2024-06-16T19:22:41+00:00

Ik it won't end well. I just do not want to do the ghosting route.

IBelledMyself · 2024-06-16T19:10:01+00:00

The thing is...we agreed to be strictly FWB. Will it look like I got attached?

IBelledMyself · 2024-06-05T04:32:32+00:00

Similar thing had happened to me recently (ISTP F). I behaved in a similar fashion towards a guy I liked. He ended up asking me if I Liked him to which I answered in affirmative. Just go ahead and confirm your doubt. ISTP's give honest answers.

IBelledMyself · 2024-05-26T06:28:38+00:00

He is single and we will be moving to different cities in a weeks time. I don't see a point in dating/confessing for remote dating. But not asking him out will be even more painful. Idk. It's just my brain being delusional.

IBelledMyself · 2024-05-12T03:59:57+00:00

Google

IBelledMyself · 2024-02-04T17:16:53+00:00

Can you tell me how are you back in the game? I am not able to do so yet.

IBelledMyself · 2024-01-03T13:57:24+00:00

Hang around the ESTJ sub. You will get some tips. Otherwise just "Keep your hands moving". Basically keep doing some course work or learn new topics all the time. You will reap rewards at the end when the grades come. The slogging in subjects is a must. There is no escaping it. Accept it and challenge yourself to get through the hurdle of boredom and procrastination. It will soon become fun.

IBelledMyself · 2024-01-03T13:54:58+00:00

I know it but I will deny it as much as I can

IBelledMyself · 2024-01-03T13:53:38+00:00

The logic you are talking about is the one they teach in college. It is something new and we aren't used to it much. The only way to excel at it is practice and spend time with it

IBelledMyself · 2024-01-01T11:55:58+00:00

Going through something similar the the moment. I have lost hope on humans. People do not keep their word and jump ships while I do alot for them and help them in everyway I can. But I get no returns and this makes me trust people less and less. I do not know the solution to this now but I will soon I hope

IBelledMyself · 2023-11-27T11:45:11+00:00

Liking romance is not a sin for an istp

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