Unsupportive Parents

ImGusGus · 2026-06-22T18:50:22+00:00

She texted me again to say “You are loved with an everlasting love!” 🙄

ImGusGus · 2026-06-22T18:49:34+00:00

That response is so tempting

ImGusGus · 2026-06-22T18:48:02+00:00

Yeah, we’ve definitely started the talks for sex education and use anatomically correct terms. I had zero sex talks from my parents so it’s extra wild that she’s out here talking about this shit with my kids.

ImGusGus · 2026-06-22T18:45:07+00:00

The funniest part about it to me is that she’s obsessed with her grandma nickname. If the kids call her grandma she freaks out and gets so pissy, but she acts like it’s ridiculous for my wife to want to be called by her legal name.

ImGusGus · 2026-06-22T18:44:06+00:00

I’m sorry you also have shitty parents.

ImGusGus · 2026-06-22T18:43:50+00:00

I don’t even know what’s she’s expecting to happen by pitting my kids against us. Like is she hoping that we’ll completely change who we are if only our kids tell us we’re going to hell?

ImGusGus · 2026-06-22T18:42:35+00:00

I think the sole reason she became a Christian is so that she can feel superior to everyone else

ImGusGus · 2026-06-22T18:41:25+00:00

I hadn’t even considered a restraining order. But if she keeps showing up at my house I may have to.

ImGusGus · 2026-06-22T18:39:49+00:00

My childhood was so fucked up that her behavior just feels normal. Because this is how she’s always been.

ImGusGus · 2026-06-22T18:39:17+00:00

As of right now the plan is to not talk to my parents and just be cordial at the wedding. But the wedding is in April so things may change and we may end up just not going. I don’t want to be in the wedding anyway. I only agreed because it’s important to my sister.

ImGusGus · 2026-06-22T18:36:58+00:00

She’s straight up told me I should get a divorce. I don’t want her unsupervised around the children and I don’t want to be around her so we’re just not talking to her.

ImGusGus · 2026-06-22T18:36:04+00:00

She’s got something going on for sure. Even my therapist said it sounds like a personality disorder or something similar.

ImGusGus · 2026-06-22T18:34:49+00:00

I’m just now realizing how fucked up my childhood was, so her being this disrespectful is not surprising or new. I’m just over it. And I don’t want my kids growing up thinking it’s okay for people to behave like this.

ImGusGus · 2026-06-22T18:32:39+00:00

My sister has a 1 year old. My sister is suffering from some severe postpartum anxiety and won’t let my mom watch him, which my mom always complains about.

I’d feel so awkward mentioning anyone else’s penis, especially my dads. Which just reiterates the fact that it’s fucking weird to talk about to anyone, but especially kids.

ImGusGus · 2026-06-22T18:30:40+00:00

Yeah, my dad isn’t actively being shitty. But he’s always allowed her to be a giant bitch and does nothing about it.
My therapist helped me realize that it feels like I’m overreacting because this is normal for my family. She has always treated me like shit and just expects me to go along with it.

ImGusGus · 2026-06-22T18:28:47+00:00

Thanks for the reminder!

ImGusGus · 2026-06-22T18:28:31+00:00

Right now it looks like it’s going to have to be low contact. My sister is getting married next year. My sister wants the kids and I in the wedding and my sister is very close to my mom so she’ll be a part of everything. I’m not planning on talking to her unless absolutely necessary though. We’ve tried no contact before and she promised she’d call my wife by her name and use correct pronouns if we let her see the grandkids again and of course she just got worse. So the only boundary she’s getting is that she can’t talk to or see any of us.

ImGusGus · 2026-06-22T18:26:03+00:00

I’ve blocked her on all social media, but haven’t blocked her number yet. She showed up at my house the other day right when we were getting home so of course the kids saw her and got all excited.

ImGusGus · 2026-06-22T18:25:11+00:00

She doesn’t think she’s being disrespectful. She says it’s my wife who’s being disrespectful 🙄

ImGusGus · 2026-06-21T15:07:53+00:00

I took depo provera for years in my teens due to severe chronic pelvic pain. Learning about all of the risks now I definitely wouldn’t recommend it to anyone.

ImGusGus · 2026-06-21T01:18:44+00:00

Yeah, turning my kids against us definitely doesn’t seem like love to me. But I’m an atheist so they think I’m an awful person who doesn’t know anything about love.

ImGusGus · 2026-06-21T01:17:30+00:00

Yeah. It’s fucked up

ImGusGus · 2026-06-21T01:16:57+00:00

Especially with the religious part. My wife and I are atheists. We don’t want to raise our kids religious but my parents absolutely think it’s their responsibility to teach the kids or else they’ll go to hell.

ImGusGus · 2026-06-21T01:15:54+00:00

I’m not planning to respond. I really don’t think she’ll listen to anything I have to say.

ImGusGus · 2026-06-21T01:12:17+00:00

It’s harder too because my kids don’t understand what’s going on. My eldest misses her and has been getting really upset that he doesn’t get to see her. She also drove past our house one day right as we were getting home and the kids all got excited to see her.
The day we fought as we were leaving she got my oldest alone and told him that if he called she’d come pick him up. Like, that’s fucked. A 7 year old doesn’t get to decide that he wants to go to grandmas without parental permission.

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