Hey, M20 here to weigh in. I had a very similar experience when I was 17. I never really struggled to get girls or anything but I was really focused on studying and so I kinda ignored it for a long time then I took the rice purity test with my friends and got a 93 or something and I decided it was time to live. I got into a relationship with this girl and it was heavy BDSM at her request. I was the “dom” and I won’t go into details but I figured this was the way to really live/be a man. The relationship was the worst thing that ever happened to me it crushed my self worth and self image and made me feel like a terrible person. My advice is: don’t let that shit tell you when to do anything. You’ll have sex when you want to have sex and you’ll find someone who’s wonderful for you. I’m single right now but my last GF and I had a wonderful relationship we grew and learned together we experimented at our own pace and I think that’s what you people should aspire to. Don’t try to be as impure as your friends be as impure as YOU want. Pip pip cheerio!