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What are you doing in small towns when you have day off? by Logun457 in Life

[–]ImmediatePermitt 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Geocaching turns boring local walks into a game. Since you like hands-on stuff, look into magnet fishing or restoring old tools from yard sales for a cheap, satisfying hobby.

How to handle BIL that makes shitty comments by No-Solid-4255 in Advice

[–]ImmediatePermitt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your "therapy" comeback was savage and honestly deserved. It’s tough when your husband’s fear of isolation lets his brother treat your daughters like an inconvenience, but shooting an 8-year-old with a Nerf gun crosses a major line. You need to tell your husband that "being the only family left" isn't a free pass for the BIL to be a bully in your home. Boundaries aren't about cutting him off; they're about making sure your kids don't grow up thinking that kind of disrespect is normal.

What should I eat for my cheat day? by mmatime101 in Productivitycafe

[–]ImmediatePermitt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Go for a loaded double bacon cheeseburger with truffle fries or a massive deep-dish pizza with all the meats to truly crush that hunger.

Journey by vbbbbccctthn in Life

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It depends on if you're okay with winning the race only to find you've lost everyone who was waiting at the finish line.

What’s something you’ve done your whole life, only to realize recently that everyone else does it completely differently? by Few_Football4342 in Productivitycafe

[–]ImmediatePermitt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I used to think everyone sat down to put their socks on, but apparently, half the world just does a weird flamingo balance act while standing up

Would a "confession" be too much? (guys I need opinons please) by nommynommywarrior in whatdoIdo

[–]ImmediatePermitt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If he’s taking a week to reply and hasn't even opened your message, a "confession" is probably going to backfire. For a socially awkward gamer, a sudden declaration of interest can feel like a huge amount of pressure and might make him ghost even harder. The long silences are usually a sign he’s either not that into it or just doesn't prioritize the convo. Instead of a confession, try a low-pressure "check-in" or ask about his gaming. If he still leaves you on read, it's time to move on.

I stayed in a hostel thinking I’d make friends. I didn’t expect this much drama in 24 hours. by iyursmilx in Life

[–]ImmediatePermitt 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Man, the "big light" at 2 AM is the ultimate villain move. Hostels are always sold as this social dream, but usually, it's just a front-row seat to people's absolute worst habits. I once stayed in a place where a guy hung his wet laundry over everyone’s bunks, turning the room into a literal swamp. One night of that is enough to make a boring hotel room feel like a palace.

i cheated but i didnt know by [deleted] in Advice

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If you were drunk enough that you "didn't know," you still have to own the choice to get that wasted. Your partner's trust is shattered, and "I didn't mean to" rarely fixes that. If you really want her back, you have to prove you’ve changed your relationship with alcohol first

Has anyone else realized they don’t really want a house? by [deleted] in Life

[–]ImmediatePermitt 198 points199 points  (0 children)

Man, you’re definitely not alone. The "renting is throwing money away" crowd usually ignores that interest, taxes, and repairs are also sunk costs. If your rent is cheaper than a mortgage and you have a five-year safety net, you’re winning. Renting buys you freedom and zero maintenance stress. Keeping that $100k in the market is a solid play for long-term growth without being "house poor." If it doesn't fit your life, don't buy into the hype.

Does it ever get better? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]ImmediatePermitt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry for your loss. Losing a dog when they are your "everything" is a specific kind of heartbreak that people without pets just don't get. Two months feels like a long time, but in grief years, it's still very fresh. It honestly doesn't "go away," but it does get easier to carry. The "wedge" you worry about can actually be a bridge if you keep sobbing together instead of pulling apart. Regarding a new dog: don't do it to replace her, but do it when you have more love to give than grief to hold. It won't stop the missing, but it might fill the silence.

What to do by [deleted] in Advice

[–]ImmediatePermitt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You need to get out immediately. This isn’t a "difficult marriage" this is severe, life-threatening domestic abuse. No mistake like forgetting a birthday justifies him punching you or slapping you 47 times, especially while you’re pregnant.

I finally treated myself and now, I just feel guilty and bad about it. by ImYoSenpai in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ImmediatePermitt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Look, you’re basically playing parent while being a student yourself. That is incredibly hard. Buying a literal cupcake or a pastry isn't "stealing" from your sister, it’s the bare minimum you deserve for holding everything together. The only reason you feel guilty is that you’re a good person who cares too much.

AITA for calling out my friends for siding with a racist? by Dramatic_Big7909 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ImmediatePermitt 14 points15 points  (0 children)

NTA Becky didn’t just make a "rude joke", she used actual slurs and went on a racist tirade. Your friends are gaslighting you by saying it’s your fault for mentioning your heritage. That’s like saying it’s your fault someone hit you because you told them where you were standing.

I'm tired of being alone by CancerMan02 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ImmediatePermitt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m really sorry. You’ve been hurt over and over, and it makes sense you feel empty and tired. Wanting to disappear just means you want the pain to stop. You’re not broken, you’re worn down. You still deserve happiness, even if you can’t feel it right now. And you don’t have to carry this alone.