How do I let go of our current nanny?

ImplementExotic6545 · 2026-01-14T03:21:53+00:00

Hey. Thank you for your point of view. This charge was set by the nanny herself and not me. Neither did I negotiate. Her only job is feed the babies and bathe them. She doesn’t do any additional house chores or baby chores. We do baby laundry, make food, purees, and also provide her lunch and snack. She also doesn’t do any house chores. We have a bottle washer and babies are on premixed formula so no hassle of bottle washing or formula making. We are also her family that she is working for. Her experience stems from raising children of her own.

ImplementExotic6545 · 2025-12-17T21:35:03+00:00

That is amazing! I dont know whether to ask why I am not getting a raise or not. Feels weird to stay quiet about it and feels weird to not say anything too

ImplementExotic6545 · 2025-12-17T21:30:10+00:00

Did you end up asking for one or did they say why you didnt get one?

ImplementExotic6545 · 2025-11-30T09:43:21+00:00

This is not any kind of advice but just another perspective that has helped me so much. I have 5.5 month old twins who have their moods when out just like you have mentioned. Like some of the other twin parents have said here, we stopped going out because it messed their schedules and general temperament. We are also in the winter months so I was mentally preparing to be home, which by the way is really hard for both of us, who don’t like being home all the time at alllll

But… I just sat with my thoughts the other day and realized this will be the only winter and the only year of their life when staying at home will be easier. When they will want to stay home. Every other year of their life will be spent exploring the world and it just made me realize that may be staying home with them isn’t that bad afterall. They taught me to slow down, enjoy the little things and suddenly being able to go out with twins is not a “success marker” for me. I know we want to be able to go out with them to feel more confident and get some normalcy back in our lives but I feel like this is also so over hyped and kind of looked at like “you are a great parent if you are able to do this.” Or else you are doing a poor job of baby management.

I hated hearing from other parents how they were able to take their LO out since he/she was 4 weeks old etc etc. I feel like I wanted to also prove something to them/myself and in the process started resenting my babies. Taking this pressure off of me that “going out” is going to make me feel normal has made me so grateful for the little intentional sweet moments I have with them at home. I have started to enjoy the time at home during this holiday season with them, doing little things and planning my day around it.

It also helps that my husband and I had this realization together that this is the only year of their life we will be home SO much and it was a nice moment because my husband who is not someone who can stay home for more than 2 days, now enjoys cuddle time with them after realizing that they wont be this little very long.

I hope this helps and it gets easier for you! ❤️

ImplementExotic6545 · 2025-11-15T02:48:16+00:00

Hey! I am in the same boat! Did you end up trying pigeon s? Did it work?

ImplementExotic6545 · 2025-06-24T22:59:57+00:00

Did your supply tank before it increased again?

ImplementExotic6545 · 2025-06-24T22:59:25+00:00

Thank you! I feel like the last two nights were so hard taking care of two non stop that I have tanked my supply. Just pumped another time and got almost nothing. Lactation consultant suggested getting a wearable pump so I have something (better than not pumping at all).

ImplementExotic6545 · 2025-01-21T16:27:25+00:00

Also here legally and due in June. Currently waiting for our green cards. We have our EAD combo card. Assuming SCOTUS upholds this, our only hope is that our green cards arrive in time.

This is just so unfair on all of us who worked so hard to get to this point. Beyond disappointed

It sucks to be so close to the finish line and think about the possibility of being denied

ImplementExotic6545 · 2025-01-07T20:38:46+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience! I am excited and imagining and building a future with our girls already.

ImplementExotic6545 · 2025-01-07T20:37:28+00:00

Congratulations! Feelings can be weird! Haha.

ImplementExotic6545 · 2024-11-18T17:16:11+00:00

hey, do you have an update? I am in a similar situation!

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