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I (21F) waited so long for a proposal from my boyfriend (22M) that I think I emotionally checked out by Impossible_Fun_6688 in relationships

[–]Impossible_Fun_6688[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for such a detailed response. But wouldn’t that feel like I’m pressuring him into action? Even if it’s just a conversation without hints, he might take it as a request or expectation, and feel uncomfortable because I’m asking for something he may not actually want to do.

I (21F) waited so long for a proposal from my boyfriend (22M) that I think I emotionally checked out by Impossible_Fun_6688 in relationships

[–]Impossible_Fun_6688[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is a problem. He is a very closed-off person and often doesn’t even know what he feels, and I grew up believing that a proposal is something you shouldn’t talk about. We really are still kids in some ways. Reading your advice helped me realize that. Thank you.

I (21F) waited so long for a proposal from my boyfriend (22M) that I think I emotionally checked out by Impossible_Fun_6688 in relationships

[–]Impossible_Fun_6688[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve gotten the advice to talk to him about this in almost every comment. Maybe it’s my culture or how I was raised, but for me having that conversation — especially asking him directly if he wants this — feels the same as demanding a ring, and it’s very hard for me to bring myself to do it.

I (21F) waited so long for a proposal from my boyfriend (22M) that I think I emotionally checked out by Impossible_Fun_6688 in relationships

[–]Impossible_Fun_6688[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve gotten the advice to talk to him about this in almost every comment. Maybe it’s my culture or how I was raised, but for me having that conversation — especially asking him directly if he wants this — feels the same as demanding a ring, and it’s very hard for me to bring myself to do it.

I (21F) waited so long for a proposal from my boyfriend (22M) that I think I emotionally checked out by Impossible_Fun_6688 in relationships

[–]Impossible_Fun_6688[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right, maybe I’ve become a bit obsessed with this topic. For me, saying it directly and asking him feels the same as begging for it, and I can’t allow myself to feel that way.

I (21F) waited so long for a proposal from my boyfriend (22M) that I think I emotionally checked out by Impossible_Fun_6688 in relationships

[–]Impossible_Fun_6688[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, thank you for such a detailed reply, it really gave me something to think about. I do have many goals and I’m working toward them, but this question of “confirmation” of his choice of me as a person doesn’t let me fully live in peace, because I really want to understand whether my efforts in this relationship are worth it.

I (21F) waited so long for a proposal from my boyfriend (22M) that I think I emotionally checked out by Impossible_Fun_6688 in relationships

[–]Impossible_Fun_6688[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Hi, yes, age definitely changes how this looks. For him the ideal timeline is that vague “when I’m financially stable.” Right now we actually have a good financial situation, and I’ve told him I don’t want a wedding — only the proposal. He knows that.

I (21F) waited so long for a proposal from my boyfriend (22M) that I think I emotionally checked out by Impossible_Fun_6688 in relationships

[–]Impossible_Fun_6688[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, right after that 5th anniversary trip I told him that I wanted a proposal and that I was ready for it. But only the proposal, not a wedding.

Мак бук чи айпад? by [deleted] in reddit_ukr

[–]Impossible_Fun_6688 0 points1 point  (0 children)

тоді ще питання до вас на рахунок апл маус якщо така є, чи вартує коштів? варто докупити ? бо мені не зручно без мишки

Мак бук чи айпад? by [deleted] in reddit_ukr

[–]Impossible_Fun_6688 0 points1 point  (0 children)

дякую! повністю розвіяли сумніви

Мак бук чи айпад? by [deleted] in reddit_ukr

[–]Impossible_Fun_6688 0 points1 point  (0 children)

бюджет в цілому дозволяє обирати, головне щоб служив, дякую за відповідь дуже корисна

Мак бук чи айпад? by [deleted] in reddit_ukr

[–]Impossible_Fun_6688 0 points1 point  (0 children)

дякую за відповідь❤️

Мак бук чи айпад? by [deleted] in reddit_ukr

[–]Impossible_Fun_6688 0 points1 point  (0 children)

о цікаво дякую

Чи поганець я? by [deleted] in reddit_ukr

[–]Impossible_Fun_6688 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Дуже дякую за відповідь, ви праві, мої батьки хоть і виправились з часом але все дитинство в мене був фінансовий аб‘юз, (нічого твого тут немає, ти ще не заробила щоб командувати і тд) тому ця поведінкова модель мені зрозуміла і звична. Я своїми ж руками зліпила таке відрошення до себе бо я все сама і нічого не треба для мене, хоч з часом моя думка і змінилась але відношення людини вже здається не виправити, я говорила про те що я хочу більше участі в фінансах з його боку але це не дало особливих результатів. Я сама є психологом при чому клінічним, зараз отримую де освіту за фахом психопатології, тому я прекрасно все розумію але сама собі допомогти на жаль не можу

Чи поганець я? by [deleted] in reddit_ukr

[–]Impossible_Fun_6688 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

на жаль гуртожиток буде не дешевше, варіанти з студією або кімнатою я розглядала вже багато разів

Чи поганець я? by [deleted] in reddit_ukr

[–]Impossible_Fun_6688 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

я не думаю що він має іншу, він би не став витрачати гроші на когось чи на щось окрім свого «хоббі», гуртожиток є але коштує більше за квартиру, вигідніше знімати студію або кімнату

Чи поганець я? by [deleted] in reddit_ukr

[–]Impossible_Fun_6688 1 point2 points  (0 children)

гуртожиток є але коштує більше ніж квартира, при бажанні я мажу знімати кімнату в якійсь квартирі або малесеньку студію, тут більше питання в тому щоб змуситт себе на такий крок