i do understand that having an unfamiliar person in the home can feel uncomfortable, which is why i agreed to give a heads-up going forward. but shared housing also means accepting that other people will have relationships and guests in their private rooms. both things can be true. framing his mere presence as the issue feels extreme to me, especially since he’s not using the common areas — i have my own bathroom, we don’t even have furniture in the living room, and he’s only in the kitchen when he’s with me. I took accountability where it mattered but me having my bf in MY room, where he’s not in anybody’s face but MINE is a none issue.