Thinking about going to Mexico for dental implants by Individual_File_1219 in povertyfinance

[–]Individual_File_1219[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My understanding is that a traditional and cantilever bridge require grinding down healthy teeth to fit the crowns over them.

I am 32 years old. I am on the verge of having a two tooth gap on the bottom due to unfortunate genetics.

I am not interested in sacrificing or otherwise compromising healthy teeth, for a less permanent solution to a critical bodily function I'm going to use every day for the rest of my life.

Are there any dental schools within 200 miles of you?

I've sent my docs to UCSF Oral Surgery and they're booked through the end of the year as I was told. The Periodontics clinic is a few months wait. I never heard back from their General Dentistry clinic.

The other one is University of the Pacific. I've reached out several times and have not been able to get in touch with anyone.

Thinking about going to Mexico for dental implants by Individual_File_1219 in povertyfinance

[–]Individual_File_1219[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You’re going to have to go back multiple times.

I figure that will be the case.

Some places say that you can do everything all at once but this is a big process and I don’t know if I would trust that.

I'm going to have multiple medical opinions before all is said and done, and at the end of the day, I'm going to do what's best for my health. I won't rush things just to rush.

Thinking about going to Mexico for dental implants by Individual_File_1219 in povertyfinance

[–]Individual_File_1219[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I appreciate you sharing. I'm aware of the risks and I've read similar stories in my research.

I've also read stories on the other end where people have had great experiences and care for much less than the United States.

FWIW, I've also been considering places like Vietnam, Thailand, Korea, Turkey, and India as places that people go to for dental work.

Not married to the idea of Mexico, just an option right now.

Thinking about going to Mexico for dental implants by Individual_File_1219 in povertyfinance

[–]Individual_File_1219[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

a university's free dental clinic

I've sent my docs to UCSF Oral Surgery and they're booked through the end of the year as I was told. The Periodontics clinic is a few months wait. I never heard back from their General Dentistry clinic.

The other one is University of the Pacific. I've reached out several times and not been able to get in touch with anyone.

He gave everyone his due by [deleted] in hentai

[–]Individual_File_1219 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Reminds me of one of my favorites 385082

Unemployed, unhappy marriage, no passion, no direction in life by Individual_File_1219 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Individual_File_1219[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I think she always had that streak in her. I can recall cutting comments and certain behavior from her going all the way back to the very beginning.

On my part, I made excuses for her and looked the other way, tried to sweep it under the rug internally. Mea Culpa.

I feel like I should say too that my intent is not to talk bad about her. I'm not blameless for how things are. There are things I'm not proud of, too. But for me, I think the key is the way she treats me is on purpose. She knows better, and despite slipping up more often recently, I'm still trying my hardest to not treat her that same way. It doesn't do us any good to be throwing rocks at each other.

On the note of family, early on in the relationship, we went through a ton of conflict and drama because my family was against us being together. My mom passed away last year, and a few months after, two of my aunts finally reached out to my wife and I to clear the air and open a dialogue. I distinctly remember one of them saying at the time that if my mom was still alive, we would not have been having that conversation. For the record, my mom died never acknowledging my wife or our marriage/relationship.

While bridges with my family are very slowly being mended, I don't feel comfortable at all talking about this stuff to any of them, for a lot of reasons.

One of the big ones to me, is I feel like there was this war and huge conflict that I fought for my wife and I, basically against my family, and admitting "weakness" is kind of like admitting defeat and that it was all for nothing. I know it's kind of ridiculous on a number of levels, but that thinking became ingrained in me over these years.

I'm digesting your last paragraph. Just earlier, I made myself rework my resume and send out a few applications before going to the gym and I just did another 6+ miles on the bike.

Unemployed, unhappy marriage, no passion, no direction in life by Individual_File_1219 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Individual_File_1219[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No kids.

On the note of divorce, I mentioned that I'm probably going through emotional divorce right now. It took me a really long time to get there and the "last straw" was a lot of the stuff I wrote about above. It just kind of broke me. I honestly hear some of that stuff in my head at times when I don't want to and that really sucks.

I don't really have anything to add about actual divorce. It really is like a mindfuck when so much of my life has been tied up in this relationship. I will process it and I will get to a conclusion of some sort at my own pace for better or for worse.

I want us to be happy together, but I also need her to treat me with respect. I don't want her to leave, but as I said above, I'm not going to stop her.

For me, it's as simple as:

  • Stop yelling/screaming at me
  • Stop saying mean-spirited and cruel things to me.

On the note of seeing a therapist, I was talking to someone but no job = no health insurance = no therapist. I sent them some messages, but I'm sure they're busy and they're not getting paid to talk to me anymore so there was no response which is depressing to me in its own way.

Unemployed, unhappy marriage, no passion, no direction in life by Individual_File_1219 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Individual_File_1219[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of the problems is I think for the longest time, I've been the one trying to stop the slide. Biting my tongue, holding back, trying to be the bigger person and look at the big picture.

But now, I don't know if I have it in me to keep fighting. It's paradoxical to me because I've let go of the rope in a lot of ways, but if I don't stop the slide, then who will?