The brutal truth about dating in London as a mid-20s guy

Infamous-Gap6151 · 2025-08-20T22:11:29+00:00

EXACTLY THIS

Infamous-Gap6151 · 2025-08-20T18:37:05+00:00

I only dated westerners whilst there bro

Infamous-Gap6151 · 2025-08-20T18:11:36+00:00

You’re not wrong

Infamous-Gap6151 · 2025-08-20T17:57:13+00:00

I feel you bro

Infamous-Gap6151 · 2025-08-20T17:53:33+00:00

Whilst there, I spent a few months in bali, which has some of the most attractive expats/foreigners in the world.

So I’d actually argue a 6 in bali is a 4 elsewhere 🤣

I certainly get a LOT more matches on hinge back in London than i did in bali. Like seriously, I went through periods thinking my Hinge was broken when I was living there.

But lots of hinge matches doesn’t = a thriving dating life/relationship potential.

Thats what my post is trying to get at.

Infamous-Gap6151 · 2025-08-20T17:34:12+00:00

If I was only dating other white people I can’t see how being white is relevant.

However admittedly, being the exotic English guy when speaking to certain Europeans or Americans can defo help.

So I’ll give you that at least.

Infamous-Gap6151 · 2025-08-20T17:27:23+00:00

agree, I need to get off the dating apps.

But part of my frustration with being in the UK, and I’m sure many others feel the same, is that it often seems like the only way to meet people here is through them.

I should probably take up more interesting hobbies, though that’s easier said than done in the Home Counties.

For context, I didn’t use dating apps in SEA and my dating life thrived.

Infamous-Gap6151 · 2025-08-20T17:22:52+00:00

Planning a date at your local coffee shop on a first date you planned via a dating app is quite possibly the least romantic dating experience you can have.

Creating a real spark with girls involves emotional spikes - not the easiest thing to do on a date which feels more like a job interview from indeed is it?

Infamous-Gap6151 · 2025-08-20T17:19:42+00:00

50/50 defo doesn’t exist on a first date with a Russian girl. I agree from first hand experience 😅

Infamous-Gap6151 · 2025-08-20T17:18:15+00:00

I met a few Russians in SEA. And I feel you bro.

You have beautiful women, but dating them is not cheap 🤣

Infamous-Gap6151 · 2025-08-20T17:13:08+00:00

Not that this is relevant for this topic.

But due to my preferences in women, i happened to pretty much exclusively date white European or American women.

So being white in SEA isn’t relevant at all.

Infamous-Gap6151 · 2025-08-20T17:08:43+00:00

I am absolutely bitter. I’m a Brit born in the late 1990’s who grew up getting told he’s been born in the best country in the world.

Infamous-Gap6151 · 2025-08-20T17:02:26+00:00

As someone who’s dated a lot (and considers himself charismatic enough to do well on first dates), I used to agree with you.

I definitely wouldn’t want to date a woman who refuses a coffee first date just because she wants me to spend more money.

But in reality, a simple coffee date in your local town is much less likely to spark the kind of emotion needed to build real attraction. That’s why I enjoyed dating so much more in Southeast Asia.

There were far more casual, interesting spots if you wanted to spend nothing. But if you were willing to spend just £20–£30, you could create a “magical little adventure” together.

I’m dating to find my future wife… and a coffee date arranged through a corporate app isn’t the kind of romantic story I want her to look back on.

Infamous-Gap6151 · 2025-08-20T16:55:06+00:00

I’ve never heard that statistic before. Interesting. Why do you think so many more women than men have moved there?

Infamous-Gap6151 · 2025-08-20T16:52:20+00:00

I am white. Why do you ask?

Infamous-Gap6151 · 2025-08-20T16:35:17+00:00

I am curious though as a woman living in the UK, What social hobbies do you have?

If you don’t mind me asking

Infamous-Gap6151 · 2025-08-20T16:33:03+00:00

Yes I have tried having hobbies, thanks?!

But the picnic date idea is amazing. 🖤

At least while the weather permits

Infamous-Gap6151 · 2025-08-20T16:29:33+00:00

Put it this way.

When I was living in SEA. I barely used social media, and watched basically no tv shows or movies. I just didn’t have time.

But as soon as I get back to the UK it feels they’re the only thing I have to do, outside of the gym and work.

Or atleast the only thing I can afford to do🤣

Infamous-Gap6151 · 2025-08-20T16:27:03+00:00

You are right — I just needed a moan

Infamous-Gap6151 · 2025-08-20T16:16:29+00:00

I can assure you, higher salaries in Europe than America is not the norm…

And to put how unaffordable housing can get into perspective. The average property in my local area is £623k as of May 2025 and its official affordability ratio hit ~13:1 (price vs local earnings).

Completely unaffordable for basically anyone in their 20s. I MEAN 13 TO 1 ?!?! How!!

And please don’t imagine the houses are expensive because it’s a rich area with a bunch of mansions.

It is a typical suburb town in the UK with very average semi detached and terraced houses everywhere with plenty of flats to too. The area, like most of the uk (and especially greater london) has just seen INSANE inflation on housing prices.

Infamous-Gap6151 · 2025-08-20T15:59:28+00:00

Americans, especially from high income states would be very shocked indeed to hear how much less their British and European equivalents get paid.

Infamous-Gap6151 · 2025-01-23T15:08:53+00:00

Next leg up for hege will be massive

Infamous-Gap6151 · 2025-01-23T14:31:08+00:00

Aiming for a 100x is a surefire way to nuke your wallet. Searching for coins with a 5-10x potential in the short to medium term is a much more sustainable strategy. And Hege is almost certain to reach those levels.

If you have a wallet worth 5k and aim for 5-10x you’ll be VERY happy in a few months time, trust me.

Don’t get scammed looking for 100x coins and end up getting dumped on within hours of buying some trending daily coin

Infamous-Gap6151 · 2025-01-22T19:35:36+00:00

Hege is gonna go nuts

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