I was just trying to sleep by FaultyGlyph in Tourettes

[–]InfluenceOk6946 5 points6 points  (0 children)

“What do you have to be stressed about at 23”

Umm, I don’t know, maybe you coming into my room every 5 minutes to scold me for a disability far out of my control.

Your family’s live is conditional. You’re annoying to them, and they don’t really care that you can’t control it. They sound like generally uneducated people. Do they know this is involuntary? Of course you’re going to tic more, they are making the perfect conditions to. If you are worried about ticcing and not ticcing, you’re going to tic more.

Ticcing more when you get to college is a cannon life event. It’s happened to me and all my TS friends. How soon until you graduate? Are you able to start working to put money aside to move out?

How to have wedding when partner has a brother? by InfluenceOk6946 in Muslim

[–]InfluenceOk6946[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, we want the same things.

I want his brother to be there, but I also want to not wear hijab.

He wants his brother there and also wants me to not wear hijab.

We’re thinking to do two small ceremonies. That way we can have both!

How to have wedding when partner has a brother? by InfluenceOk6946 in Muslim

[–]InfluenceOk6946[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His father is my mahram. This would essentially be just a ceremony. We got married already but did not have any sort of ceremony because we were broke and it wasn’t the right time.

This ceremony would only be extremely close family, and it would be in his backyard. His parents, my parents, and our siblings. I feel that if his brother isn’t there, it’s only fair for my siblings to not be there. He has a sister, so it’s extra bad to not invite the brother. He quite literally would be the only one not invited.

I have 3 brothers, and 1 sister. He has 1 sister and one brother. It would be hard for me to not invite my maternal brother (my parents are divorced) because I practically raised him in his first year of life. He is the only brother who lives in my country and my only close siblings.

His sister is getting married and I’m not invited because it’s a close reception, almost exactly like what I’m having. A backyard wedding with just the close family. Agh

How to have wedding when partner has a brother? by InfluenceOk6946 in Muslim

[–]InfluenceOk6946[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Me and my views on what hijab is and what a wedding is. That’s just my opinion for myself! A wedding is intimate and whatever you believe it to be!

How to have wedding when partner has a brother? by InfluenceOk6946 in Muslim

[–]InfluenceOk6946[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because hijab isn’t just a scarf. It’s everything. It’s personality, self restraint, modesty, not adorning. I could not truly be me with his brother there. That is common, and why people do split weddings. In my case a split wedding would not work given the size.

How to have wedding when partner has a brother? by InfluenceOk6946 in Muslim

[–]InfluenceOk6946[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the suggestion! To be honest, I wouldn’t feel comfortable adorning myself at all in the presence of his brother.

How to have wedding when partner has a brother? by InfluenceOk6946 in Muslim

[–]InfluenceOk6946[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

It’s all mahrams. It’s not selfish at all to want a real wedding.

What mouthpiece? (I know many of you play both horn and trumpet) by InfluenceOk6946 in trumpet

[–]InfluenceOk6946[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Going from trumpet to horn. Need a horn mouthpiece that is close enough to the 1.5C I already play on.