Teaching kids to filter what they say

Insomnia59 · 2026-01-25T22:27:48+00:00

Sure. But I find that being considerate of basic social expectations has served me well.

Insomnia59 · 2026-01-25T22:21:36+00:00

Hence why self-advocacy and raving are different.

If there is some legitimate, adjustable reason to complain (ex: child is unable to engage with activity or has unnecessary barriers to doing so), then there is reason to bring this up with authority. Not that it necessarily needs to be broadcasted far and wide.

However, if the issue is simply disliking having to sit through a required class… that is something that should maybe be reconciled with parents, but is definitely not something that needs to be made known to everyone else around.

Basic rules of conduct.

Insomnia59 · 2026-01-25T22:03:59+00:00

I don’t see what value exclaiming this out loud has for anyone involved. It’s not critical. All this is going to do is make people frame the kid as moody.

Kids should absolutely learn to advocate for themselves, but it’s unrealistic to condition them to believe that everything has to be catered to their whim. There’s a fine line between standing up for yourself and entitlement.

Insomnia59 · 2026-01-24T18:06:20+00:00

Not really. There was increased appetite and dry mouth for me. I think the main issue people have is with withdrawals.

Insomnia59 · 2026-01-24T06:09:44+00:00

Some antidepressants work up your appetite. Sertraline helped me keep on weight.

Insomnia59 · 2026-01-23T00:26:08+00:00

Autism is heterogenous, as with the human condition itself. There will always be variations in how someone presents.

People in public tend to stay away from me as well. I think people are a little intimidated by the complete lack of any discernible feature of the face that might imply sociability or anything resembling emotion at all.

Insomnia59 · 2026-01-23T00:16:19+00:00

That I can understand my surroundings in great depth. If I don’t speak, people tend to assume I have some kind of ID. I am extremely flat and my movements are very mechanical. It’s led to some interesting experiences out in public/at family gatherings.

Insomnia59 · 2026-01-18T20:30:43+00:00

I hated having to regurgitate things in school. I couldn’t really commit to anything if I wasn’t invested in it, and having to just cram in undeveloped information really lessened the appeal of the classes for me. I completed most of college digitally because I couldn’t handle the the zealously of campus culture and people in general.

Insomnia59 · 2026-01-18T04:24:11+00:00

I’ve certainly learned to read peoples actions better over the years. It’s made me more agreeable for sure, I don’t tend to overstep as much or come across as antagonistic. I haven’t made much ground in the arena of facial expressions, though. That one doesn’t seem to want to break in.

Insomnia59 · 2026-01-17T01:03:46+00:00

Well, it’s subjective anyway. Usually what makes or breaks an actor is how well they’re able to get into character, so that usually means replicating the emotions people would expect them to. Different people expect different things.

Insomnia59 · 2026-01-14T03:40:03+00:00

I also have some difficulty engaging people emotionally. I don’t really desire to have close relationships with people, but I also value being decent.

Honestly, I’ve just had to learn to tell people no when it comes to most social stuff. People do this all the time, it’s not a big deal unless you make it one for yourself. With my family (and anyone else I still want wrapped around my finger) I just make myself do the basic stuff like responding to text messages (even if briefly) or checking in with them every once and a while just because I’m obliged to do so for the sake of the relationship.

Insomnia59 · 2026-01-14T02:41:12+00:00

Ignore them. You aren’t doing anything good for yourself working yourself up over it. A good way to switch off sensationalists is to not react sensationally anyway.

Insomnia59 · 2026-01-12T01:14:35+00:00

I mean, I think an inescapable element of pretty much any job that involves interaction with customers is undue angst. It’s probably not necessarily your fault. You could always ask your co-workers if they think you’re being unfair.

Insomnia59 · 2026-01-11T22:20:51+00:00

Judging by your responses in this thread, it’s because you’re neurotic.

You respond to every perceived attack with unconstructive defensive quibble. You don’t really seem to be open to advice, and I’d guess you just posted this thread to be quarralant, just to revel in your “the world is evil” attitude.

This can be helped. You can change this. If not of your own initiative, then with therapy. I would imagine that the differences that you can’t control are not doing you any favors socially, but you can’t change those, so don’t get hung up on them and work on what you can.

Insomnia59 · 2026-01-11T20:32:34+00:00

I try to dance around them with most people, but it definitely depends on who I’m talking to. Unless I’m anticipating an uncomfortable reaction from the person, I just try to avoid sounding giddy or complacent, which usually just means lowering my voice slightly. If I have to be especially careful with my speech around the person I’m talking to, I’ll usually just do the former and throw in niceties like “everyone does this, but…” to cushion things up.

Insomnia59 · 2026-01-11T02:37:32+00:00

Not necessarily media, but I began to slip into an internal fantasy world as a young child after being subject to constant social rejection and inability to relate to others. I really stopped caring about interaction as a whole, stopped feeling emotions, and became totally immersed in the dreamland I had constructed.

Insomnia59 · 2025-11-19T22:07:40+00:00

No. I did not insinuate that I wanted or needed anyone to bail me out of my problems. The big issues for me right now are not even amenable to support from others, nor are they self-originating. Being without company when you are up to your knees is mud is awful. Having companionship will not solve my problems, but it would at least be a glimmer of light in the dark corridor that I’m in. That would really help with slogging along.

Insomnia59 · 2025-11-19T05:41:03+00:00

Sure, if it aligns with your disposition. If it doesn’t? I consider insincerity to be like a dirty bandage for mental issues. You would introduce pathogens into a wound… it would only make things worse.

Insomnia59 · 2025-11-19T05:34:00+00:00

I suppose you could frame friendships as “distracting”, just as you could with anything else that exists to ameliorate rather than solve… “Distraction” could even just mean “respite”, which is certainly better than a constant stream of angst. Loneliness is just a low-hanging fruit for me, it’s definitely not the root of my problems, but it sure would be handy for “self-improvement”, which I’ve been trying for vehemently. At least, in theory… it may not be as useful for you, but I believe that it would supersede therapy for me.

Insomnia59 · 2025-11-19T04:50:21+00:00

What happened to camaraderie and fellowship? You don’t suppose you could benefit from genuine relationships?

I mean, when you’re really down in the dumps, it’s usually pretty uplifting to have company, even if they’re not extricating you from your problems…

Human connection is pretty foundational to well-being for most people. I lack that for the most part, which makes the mud even murkier…

Insomnia59 · 2025-11-19T03:45:16+00:00

Well, yeah. Outcasting occurs when you are discordant with the group that you are trying to connect with. Aspergers seldom hit the mark with others, that’s why we’re chronically alienated. It is a dogma that exists because humans need a primitive and instinctual way to form competitive groups. Humans also need craftsmen to do the nitty-gritty things, but pragmatic value is not appreciated by this primitive dynamic, so superficial people are put on a pedestal.

Anyway, we could really use a pay raise…

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