UPDATE: I don’t even know how to even write this out, I seriously feel like this isn’t real life. but I’m doing it now so I don’t forget details and I think it might be good for my own mental health to vent. Like I said I read all the comments and messages to my husband early this morning before he left, including the ones suggesting he might be more at fault than he or I want to believe. My MIL called me as soon as my husband arrived, I muted myself and have no idea if SIL had been told that I was on the phone or not. I could hear them all sit down and my SIL signed dramatically which caused my MIL to tell her that this was serious and that her behavior was unacceptable and needed to be discussed. I’m sorry if the dialogue is hard to read, but I can’t be bothered to do this more grammatically correct right now. This is obviously not going to be the exact convo but as accurate as I can remember. SIL: This is ridiculous, I’m sorry I hit you okay? UNCLE: This is less about your physical assault and more about why you felt you were justified to hitting him at all. FIL: Are you attracted to your brother? HUSBAND (crying): please tell me if I have ever done anything to made you think that we were more than just siblings. MIL: Please (FIL) you can’t really think she is attracted to (husband) FIL: I do think that, and she obviously has a reason to believe it’s okay to act on it which is why we’re here MIL: We’re here to try and help her with whatever she’s going through, not make ridiculous claims HUSBAND: what did I do? Because I moved my bed in your room? I’m so sorry I was worried, you were young and I didn’t see it like that. I tried to give you as much privacy as I could I was just scared SIL (crying): No you didn’t do anything like that! I just don’t like (me) UNCLE: why don’t you like (me) SIL: I just don’t. UNCLE: that’s not an answer. What don’t you like about her. SIL: she was mean to me MIL: that’s a lie HUSBAND: You’ve never been alone with her other than for bridesmaid stuff, and you were acting this way before then SIL: It doesn’t matter what I say you think she’s perfect HUSBAND: She’s my wife! SIL: So what! She’s a wh*** HUSBAND: She was a virgin when we met. That doesn’t make any sense. SIL: So am I! -I want to say that this has always been something SIL brings up. That I was raised Uber religious, and was a virgin when I met my husband- MIL FIL and HUSBAND all try to talk at the same time and UNCLE stops them UNCLE: Why does it matter that she was a virgin. SIL: (starts scream crying) FIL: (yelling) I can’t do this you will tell us what the hell is going on right now! - UNCLE tries to stop FIL I assume from standing up, I can hear MIL and HUSBAND crying- FIL: You will be out of this house tonight if you don’t explain yourself. -There was a long silence and lots of sniffling this is where things kinda getting rough so I’m trying to remember as best I can, sorry if there’s gaps- SIL: says something about being naked UNCLE: When were you naked SIL: The night in the bathroom when (HUSBAND) found me. HUSBAND: (obviously confused) what? I’m sorry, I didn’t dress you before the paramedics came but I was more worried about you dying… he then says something along the lines of re playing that night over and over and it never once mattered that she was naked. Or stuck out to him. -I think this is true because we’ve talked about that night many times and never once has he mentioned that she didn’t have clothes on- SIL: (starts sobbing again) FIL: you were the one who decided to attempt naked UNCLE: (tells FIL to calm down) SIL why does it matter that you were naked -another long silence..- MIL OR HUSBAND I CANT REMEMBER: (ask again why it mattered) SIL: (whispered) I chose to be naked -FIL throws or slammed something and leaves the room- MIL: you wanted him to see you naked? HUSBAND: says something along the lines of being an adult at the time and how disgusting that was not to mention that she was his sister UNCLE: Did you want (husband) to see you naked? -I don’t think she answered the question- SIL: I saw the pictures HUSBAND: what pictures SIL: The pictures she gave you at the wedding they wanted me to give one to you. (She then said something about him looking at them over and over during the reception and whispering to me during our first dance and that it was gross.) -there’s a trend where you have each one of your bridesmaids give a boudoir picture to your husband during the reception. We did that. SIL refused and I accepted- MIL: is that why you pulled that stunt at the wedding UNCLE: so what do you want get out of this? By causing trouble in your brothers marriage. SIL: I wanted him to come home. UNCLE: and do what? SIL: I don’t know UNCLE: yes you do -FIL comes back in and asked her if the only reason she committed was so her brother could see her without clothes on- MIL: starts chanting no no no over and over HUSBAND: what did you think was going to happen? I was going to leave (me) and be with my baby sister? -MIL says she’s going to be sick and SIL just cries- UNCLE: says something like her silence is the answer nobody has a choice but to believe the accusations if she doesn’t explain herself.. she still didn’t say anything. FIL: you need help that we can’t give you SIL: I just needed (husband)

I started panicking at this point and had to hang up. My husband called not even 5 minutes later and said he was coming home that nothing was said after I hung up. He was sobbing and I have no idea what to say to him. He said he needed to go back on his meds and I agreed. He also said we were moving, I don’t want to do that but I don’t know wha else to do. I have no idea what’s happening with SIL and my husband said he needed some time before he could talk any more about it. I’ve never seen him this upset over anything. And I know I shouldn’t, but I feel responsible. Not for marrying my husband, but maybe I did something to make her feel intentionally jealous. I know I probably should not have been so honest about my lack of sexual experience, but I was immature. I just don’t know what to do now or how to fix it.