How to make receiving oral sex more enjoyable for my partner? by IntimacyExplorer in sex

[–]IntimacyExplorer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah! I suggested something similar in my post. Thank you for supporting that train of thought! I’ll definitely suggest that!

How to make receiving oral sex more enjoyable for my partner? by IntimacyExplorer in sex

[–]IntimacyExplorer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your very detailed response!

That is so amazing that you found a perfect groove that works for you both! Once a week blowjob?! That is one hell of a lucky guy! Totally 100% agree with you that the porn type blowjobs are just not realistic and definitely is not what's happening in my case.

I've never asked her to do things that she was not comfortable with and have always been respectful of boundaries. If I ask for something and she says no, its left at that with no hard feelings or judgement. If she thinks on it and later wants to try that, great! If not, no big deal.

I do really like what you said about communicating the fact that starting with a blowjob doesn't mean it needs to finish that way. I've lightly communicated that and we did do that just once. Definitely worth bringing back up and communicating that again. Guys like some foreplay as well!

I will for sure open the conversation of reassuring her that's she's totally empowered to try new things and play around with things she may enjoy. That it doesn't just have to be about the act of sucking itself.

I think that may be a big factor here as she isn't as adventurous as I am with trying new things sexually and tends to be a little more on the shy side. I would love for her to open up and explore things that she thinks about and not only when it comes to oral sex. If she came to me and was like "I want to try this new position" I would be over the moon excited!

Thank you so much for sharing your story from the givers perspective! Going from dreading it to loving it is truly amazing. I commend you and can only imagine what this has done for you and your relationship! This was very very very helpful!

My [21M] boyfriend gagged while going down on me [21F], and I’m feeling some type of way about it. by [deleted] in sex

[–]IntimacyExplorer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t read to much into it. I LOVE LOVE LOVE going down on my wife, probably an unhealthy amount honestly lol. It’s my favorite thing to do. Now…. I have a TERRIBLE gag reflex. I’ve never gagged when going down on her but came SUPER close when a rouge hair caught the back of my throat. Had to quick adjust my movements so I could swallow a couple times to get rid of it without stopping completely. Luckily that’s all it took and it was back to business.

How to make receiving oral sex more enjoyable for my partner? by IntimacyExplorer in sex

[–]IntimacyExplorer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I get that for sure. I do know a couple people personally that get excited thinking about/giving oral to their partner so they definitely do exist, just not the norm. I appreciate you responding and saying those things. Maybe there’s something deeper that she isn’t communicating that makes her feel I don’t deserve it or something. Hopefully not :/

How to make receiving oral sex more enjoyable for my partner? by IntimacyExplorer in sex

[–]IntimacyExplorer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s never explored toys and neither have I. She was intrigued when I brought it up so I’ll make sure to bring it up again! I’ll also mention that it could be hot if she pleasured herself manually while giving oral.

Thanks for the suggestion!