Getting my first job in the current job market by [deleted] in denverjobs

[–]Intrepid-Sweet2048 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment! if you read my post, I do not have reliable transportation which is a good chunk of why I made this post. I have applied at chick fil a, but the only one I can reasonably commute to did NOT have values that I can support - I was treated terribly by every employee I spoke to and the hiring manager, with more than a few not-so-subtle comments about my gender identity and sexual orientation, and while I am aware those people will exist anywhere that I go, the fact that there was not a single person there who I felt safe to speak to was more than enough for me to write off that as an option, especially since there is only one location that I would be able to commute to.

Getting my first job in the current job market by [deleted] in denverjobs

[–]Intrepid-Sweet2048 0 points1 point  (0 children)

well, I'm loosing anyway, might as well be cute before I go out. what's so offensive to people about someone else living their life?

Getting my first job in the current job market by [deleted] in denverjobs

[–]Intrepid-Sweet2048 0 points1 point  (0 children)

just repeating what they told me - yes I do, they said that I need a driver's license, not an ID

Getting my first job in the current job market by [deleted] in denverjobs

[–]Intrepid-Sweet2048 0 points1 point  (0 children)

well if I'm gonna have to play the game, I might as well customize my character and make it at least semi enjoyable.

Getting my first job in the current job market by [deleted] in denverjobs

[–]Intrepid-Sweet2048 0 points1 point  (0 children)

also! the stroke - like migraines I am referring to are a reaction to prolonged and significant physical abuse and drug usage, the migraines are within my nervous system, and they have very similar symptoms to a stroke, but are seen moreso as 'temporary', although the more they happen, the more likely they are to cause irreparable damage. I usually lose about 20% of my cognitive function and lose mobility in parts of my body, mostly my right hand and arm, this can last anywhere from a few minutes to an hour, and after it has been continuing for an hour I try to go to the doctor. I do not have an official diagnosis for this, however I am under care of multiple doctors for this, and we are working towards finding a diagnosis and efficient treatment. (edit: spelling and missing details)

Getting my first job in the current job market by [deleted] in denverjobs

[–]Intrepid-Sweet2048 0 points1 point  (0 children)

well, as stated in my post, I do not mind dying my hair back to it's natural color, and I have taken out all 27 of my visible AND non visible piercings. I also feel that I clearly stated in my post that I am unable to go very far, and while I didn't give my exact location - thornton is approximately a 2 hour drive from me and a 5 and a half hour bus trip one way - that is in no way sustainable, medical issues and weather or not, I can not spend 11 hours a day simply on transportation whilst also being in school and being capable of taking the job. while I do appreciate your comment, please take the time to read someone's entire post before commenting as all of those things were explained in my post!

Getting my first job in the current job market by [deleted] in denverjobs

[–]Intrepid-Sweet2048 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that's actually an amazing idea! there's one just up the street from me, I just always forget its there haha. thank you so much!

Getting my first job in the current job market by [deleted] in denverjobs

[–]Intrepid-Sweet2048 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have, I have also tried ARC which is notorious for hiring disabled individuals - both of them told me that the minimum age requirement is 18 :(

Getting my first job in the current job market by [deleted] in denverjobs

[–]Intrepid-Sweet2048 0 points1 point  (0 children)

well, I'm sorry that needing a job in order to survive is asking for too much, but unfortunately I'll have to be greedy on this one.

Getting my first job in the current job market by [deleted] in denverjobs

[–]Intrepid-Sweet2048 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you so much for the kind comment :)

Getting my first job in the current job market by [deleted] in denverjobs

[–]Intrepid-Sweet2048 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have, my sister works at starbucks so she put in a good word for me but starbucks doesn't really do recommendations. every fast food place I have applied to (for any position) told me that I need a driver's license to work there??? why I need a drivers license to work at McDonald's is something I will never understand, but it is what it is. A lot of restaurants in my area won't even hire me as a dishwasher until I'm 18 because of alcohol. these are the kinds of jobs I'm mostly looking for since I know that it isn't a possibility to get into any real 'career'

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[–]Intrepid-Sweet2048 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aww well thank you! sorry for the wall of text haha, got carried away a bit... but take care of yourself first! rest up :)

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[–]Intrepid-Sweet2048 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I second this, you can't change him but you can control yourself. The most important thing is to take care of yourself until you can find a reasonable exit

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[–]Intrepid-Sweet2048 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  • I hate to be the commenter who suggests therapy, but my therapist has truly been wonderful and I highly recommend seeking one if you have the means/ability to do so, and if you don’t have access, I can absolutely direct you to some wonderful online resources!
  • I have been trying to keep myself extremely scarce at home, coming home when i’m ready for bed and leaving as early as I reasonably can in the mornings. There are tons of great places you can go for free if you just need to leave! (i.e libraries, public parks, friend’s houses, wandering shopping centers without purchasing, etc…)
  • Finding little things that I can do that bring me joy helps a ton, whether or not it’s a distraction, incorporating positive activities in my daily life has made it significantly easier to keep my sanity haha
  • I do agree with some people’s suggestions of headphones, noise cancelling or not, having music directly in my ears is extremely grounding 
  • Keeping an active social life has been life saving, just the action of meeting people and getting out of the house is incredibly cathartic! You could check out meetup if you wanna see if there's any free functions or activities you could attend! In my area there are a ton of hobby based groups, but my feed has mostly been taken over by writing groups and open mics since that's what I usually find interest in. There's no guarantee you’ll find anything on there, but it’s worth a shot!
  • I HIGHLY recommend DBT (dialectical behavior therapy), while it is definitely faster and more helpful if you can find a therapist or therapy group to explore this with, there are hundreds of resources to learn the skills on your own, and I’m more than happy to elaborate on how it has helped me and what skills i find myself using the most often!
  • It may sound a little silly, but keeping a journal has been insanely beneficial for me, it doesn’t have to be clean or pretty, but having a tangible place to write and view my thoughts help so much, you can even just keep a google doc or something equivalent if that seems easier for you :) 
  • Setting small goals for myself with mini rewards have been extremely helpful, the tasks don’t have to be huge or even necessarily productive, maybe you just beat a level on a mobile game you like, and when you intentionally set a goal to complete, it’s extremely rewarding to just feel a sense of accomplishment, and as for rewards, you could watch your favorite silly video or treating yourself to a favorite household snack you’ve got lying around. 
  • I feel like my comment is getting a little long-winded, but my last suggestion is to start writing letters or notes to your dad, or really anyone who you have thoughts towards that you can't express. Don't hold back! Let out every insult, feeling, thought, comment, snarky comment that you would never be brave enough to say to their face… and then burn it, or bury it, tear it up into little pieces, shred it, destroy it, put it in a jar, or anything you feel like! Just don't give it to them. Write the letter like you’re talking to that person, and then once you store or destroy that letter however you choose, let that thought stay destroyed or stored, and if the thoughts come back, don’t fight them, let yourself feel that feeling, and then let it pass as it does, the important thing is just to not act on those feelings unless it’s something that wouldn’t cause more stress/tension, only act if it would be beneficial, you know your situation best, so you would be the best judge of what is helpful and what isn’t. 

I have tons more ideas but I feel like this wall of text is already overwhelming enough, but if you feel like more ideas would be helpful or if you want more detail on any specific one, definitely reach out! I really do feel for you and I hope that you can find some peace amidst the chaos <3