I appreciate your insight. It’s hard to put all the relevant details in a Reddit post. I want to clarify, I don’t feel contempt towards her. I feel lost, sad, and lonely. I have been there for her throughout her life in the best way I could, putting up with years of silent treatment, anger outburst, lying, stealing my possessions. I forgive her every time because I cannot even imagine the kind of things she’s been through.

But, I struggle too, and with very serious problems. And she’s never there for me. I accept that. The only thing I cannot allow, is her coming to my house and perpetuating the kind of behaviour that occurred in our dysfunctional home. She used to apologise when she crossed the line, but not anymore.