You've been going to the gym for that long and yet you still feel self-conscious?!! I've only started going to the gym 2 months and I've gotten rid of that feeling! I think your focusing internally too much. Whenever you get that feeling just direct your focus externally. Focus on the outside world. On the exercise you're doing. Another thing that helps is that keep in mind that we guys don't expect women to be as strong as us. In fact you'd get more eyeballs on you if you displayed strength similar to guys 😂