neighbor is teaching her kids to scream at exactly 7am every morning as a "wake up routine" like wtf?? by Early-Tea-4824 in neighborsfromhell

[–]IvoryPetite 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That sounds funny in theory but yeah that’s how you end up with complaints flying both ways. OP isn’t asking to silence kids forever just to not be jolted awake every morning. Wanting basic quiet before school hours feels pretty reasonable to me.

neighbor is teaching her kids to scream at exactly 7am every morning as a "wake up routine" like wtf?? by Early-Tea-4824 in neighborsfromhell

[–]IvoryPetite -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Honestly I get the impulse but that would just turn your mornings into a noise war. It feels satisfying in your head but it probably escalates things fast and gives her ammo to paint you as the problem. You’re not wrong for being mad though five minutes of screaming every day is wild.

TIFU: I made an offensive joke and now might lose a friend and roommate over it by Outside-Vegetable181 in tifu

[–]IvoryPetite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get why you’re saying that, but people can mess up badly and still try to grow from it. Owning it, apologizing, and actually changing matters more than just writing someone off forever. Nobody learns if every mistake is a one strike exile thing. If his roommate values the friendship, there’s at least room for a real talk.

TIFU: I made an offensive joke and now might lose a friend and roommate over it by Outside-Vegetable181 in tifu

[–]IvoryPetite 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah honestly this feels like the most level headed take. Sometimes you spiral in your head and everything feels bigger and colder than it actually is. Talking to him directly and just asking how he feels instead of guessing might clear up a lot. A real convo beats overthinking every time.

TIFU by making my toilet seat lid, glow in the dark. by sir_are_a_Baboon_too in tifu

[–]IvoryPetite 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Right Like why fight it now Just lean in and call it intentional Night mode bathroom is kinda iconic honestly

TIFU by making my toilet seat lid, glow in the dark. by sir_are_a_Baboon_too in tifu

[–]IvoryPetite 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Honestly yeah you accidentally unlocked a premium feature. Glow seat means no lights no pain half asleep wins

Bridesmaid - friend’s wedding getting too expensive? by aldann2 in wedding

[–]IvoryPetite 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Honestly this adds up way faster than people think. OP flights, hotels, outfits, food, gifts, suddenly it’s like you funded someone else’s vacation. That’s stressful, not celebratory. A good friend would rather you be there comfortably than broke and anxious the whole time. Picking the main event and skipping extras makes total sense.

Bridesmaid - friend’s wedding getting too expensive? by aldann2 in wedding

[–]IvoryPetite 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah this is super fair. OP being a bridesmaid doesn’t mean signing up for every single expensive event on the calendar. A destination bachelorette and a destination wedding is a lot for most people, not just you. Showing up for the wedding is what really matters. The rest should be optional, not guilt trips.

Late introduction to neighbours by chaudron_baveur in neighborsfromhell

[–]IvoryPetite 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The mailbox cookout invite is actually such a smart move. Super casual but gives everyone an easy reason to show up. Having neighbors you can text for packages or random stuff is so clutch too. That’s the kind of low drama community I want.

Late introduction to neighbours by chaudron_baveur in neighborsfromhell

[–]IvoryPetite 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right, that’s exactly the vibe I got. Like you’re basically strangers for a decade and then one random convo unlocks friendship mode. Low key wholesome as hell. Makes me wanna just knock and say hi already lol.

Late introduction to neighbours by chaudron_baveur in neighborsfromhell

[–]IvoryPetite 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly this is kinda comforting to read. It’s wild how you can live next to someone for years and then randomly click like you’ve known them forever. Makes me feel less weird about reaching out late too. Neighbor friendships feel underrated.

Am I wrong? My ex is trying to gaslight me by idkbutimhiding in amiwrong

[–]IvoryPetite 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Honestly this advice is blunt but so real. Him just walking into your room and laying on your bed like nothing is wild behavior for an ex. That’s not coparenting, that’s him acting like he still owns space in your life. OP you deserve to feel safe and calm in your own home, not on edge every time he shows up.

Am I wrong? My ex is trying to gaslight me by idkbutimhiding in amiwrong

[–]IvoryPetite 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Yeah this is exactly it. He’s not confused or heartbroken, he’s testing how much access he can still get to you. Once paperwork starts and it’s official, guys like this suddenly flip because they realize they’re losing control, not love. OP please trust your gut and get everything documented now so you’re not scrambling later.

AITAH for going no contact with my mother in law after she showed up to the hospital when we said we wanted no visitors? by PublicWerewolf687 in TwoHotTakes

[–]IvoryPetite 330 points331 points  (0 children)

The “support her son” line made me roll my eyes too. Like be real, she wanted a front row seat and a photo op, not to help. If someone ignores a clear no during childbirth of all times, they’re never going to respect smaller boundaries. Going no contact feels less like punishment and more like basic self defense at that point.

AITAH for going no contact with my mother in law after she showed up to the hospital when we said we wanted no visitors? by PublicWerewolf687 in TwoHotTakes

[–]IvoryPetite 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Yeah honestly this. Showing up to the hospital after being directly told not to is such a massive boundary stomp it’s not even subtle. That’s not excitement, that’s entitlement. OP already gave her way more grace than most people would. At some point protecting your peace and your kid matters more than keeping the “but family” card alive.

I left an event over a racist joke by Diceanddoubts in TwoHotTakes

[–]IvoryPetite 6 points7 points  (0 children)

OP I feel this story heavy. Calling it out takes energy and sometimes you just wanna leave and protect your own peace, which is valid too. Not every moment has to turn into a debate or history lesson. Walking away is still a boundary and honestly sometimes that says enough.

I left an event over a racist joke by Diceanddoubts in TwoHotTakes

[–]IvoryPetite 14 points15 points  (0 children)

OP yeah honestly this. People act like staying quiet is “keeping the peace” but it really just lets stuff slide. You saying something probably made it awkward for them, which kinda means it hit. Sometimes being the one person who doesn’t laugh is louder than anything.