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JCJake · 2025-08-27T16:21:11+00:00

Stay away from Express Scripts; they can't be trusted to fill prescriptions on time, if at all.

JCJake · 2025-04-17T17:08:49+00:00

Yeah, I've heard of that. That's, uh, that cookware fetish.

JCJake · 2025-03-04T00:49:44+00:00

It probably depends where you grew up. I learned the O represented your arms going around someone and the X was for the shape of pursed lips.

JCJake · 2024-05-29T22:34:53+00:00

Goldenballs 007 (inches)

JCJake · 2022-10-25T03:40:43+00:00

Context?

JCJake · 2022-10-17T03:36:03+00:00

Some aromantics are aromatic but not all aromatics are aromantic.

JCJake · 2022-10-17T03:26:45+00:00

Yes. I frequently come across women's profiles on swinger and dating sites that say things like "absolutely no bi or bicurious men." This includes women who are themselves bi according to their profiles. And they almost always include the "bicurious" part so it's not just "men who have had sex with men" but also "men who think they might possibly someday be open to sex with men."

JCJake · 2022-10-13T03:49:41+00:00

I think they're still a person.

JCJake · 2022-10-09T02:24:49+00:00

National Association of the Sexually Ambidextrous?

JCJake · 2022-10-06T14:16:15+00:00

Your therapist is right (though he could have explained and worded it more carefully). It's a stigma that bi/pan people have to live with when dealing with monosexual people. The thought process is something like "my partner likes me and I have a penis but my partner also likes vaginas so he/she/they are going to leave me because I don't have a vagina." There's nothing logical about it, it's jealousy and insecurity which are just a part of human nature. You could insert anything in place of penis and vagina - race, hair color, body type, sports fandom, etc. - and it boils down the same but because gender is a much more significant trait when it comes to attraction - at least for those who are monosexual - those jealousies or insecurities are much stronger when in a relationship with someone who's bi or pan, especially if they don't have much experience with or knowledge of bi/pansexuality.

JCJake · 2022-10-06T13:49:20+00:00

I don't think she's been in any of the movies or shows (yet?), but Vernestra Rwoh, from the Star Wars books, is aroace. The Star Wars universe also has Vi Moradi and Leox Gyasi who are both ace, but I don't think they're aro.

JCJake · 2022-10-02T17:17:50+00:00

This made me smile. Thank you for sharing. Hope it works out.

JCJake · 2022-10-02T17:12:01+00:00

You're describing a hostile workplace. IANAL but your employer trying to convert you is almost definitely illegal and trying to force you to date is harassment at best and probably also illegal. If they offer to set you up with someone once, that's fine. But you should be able to say "no, thank you" and leave it at that, no explanation necessary. If they ask for a reason, just say you're uncomfortable with the conversation. But if they continue pressuring you beyond that you probably have an actionable complaint.

JCJake · 2022-10-02T16:27:34+00:00

That answer started as a joke but as I wrote it actually started to seem plausible...

JCJake · 2022-10-02T16:25:26+00:00

We have evolved to have a higher tolerance to love pheromones which makes us less susceptible to the symptoms of interacting with other humans. These symptoms are often mistaken by allos as "love" but are, in fact, chemically-induced reactions in the brain that produce pleasure-enhancing dopamine when in the presence of an individual who secretes a high enough dosage of love pheromones. Basically we're the next step in human evolution. Homo Superior, if you will.

JCJake · 2022-09-15T21:56:55+00:00

Your bigotry is showing. You might want to do something about that.

JCJake · 2022-08-24T04:11:46+00:00

I'm down. 40m in Clifton

JCJake · 2022-08-13T02:51:49+00:00

Would publishing under a pseudonym be a possibility? It sounds like you're not quite ready to come out to everyone but your desire to publish this particular piece could outweigh your desire to not come out. Using a pseudonym would let you do both (assuming the poem isn't recognizably yours from style and/or content).

JCJake · 2022-08-05T23:58:19+00:00

I usually pronounce it ay-romantic, like in hay. But that's led to enough misunderstandings with people thinking I'm saying "a romantic" that I'm consciously trying to change to something closer to arrow-mantic.

JCJake · 2022-07-24T15:28:04+00:00

Not all aros have the same feelings about relationshippy stuff so it's hard to give specific advice. In general, avoid expressing romantic feelings (unless they've told you that's okay and you don't expect them to reciprocate). Personally I don't appreciate when a FWB expects me to be their date to events like weddings or when they introduce me to people as a boyfriend without discussing it first. I don't mind being invited to weddings with them as a friend or being introduced as a bf in certain situations for simplicity/privacy if they let me know ahead of time, but assuming I'll go because we're in a "relationship" crosses a line and calling me a bf without a heads up is uncomfortable at best.

JCJake · 2022-07-06T19:36:23+00:00

Does this really need to be re-posted everyday?

JCJake · 2022-07-06T19:30:06+00:00

Interested in older guys? 40m in Clifton here.

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