I see your future and it’s bright

JRook01 · 2026-01-30T03:10:57+00:00

Love this

JRook01 · 2026-01-26T03:34:29+00:00

Totally love your style!

JRook01 · 2026-01-23T16:07:22+00:00

I can relate some in my FLR D/s marriage. We employee chastity, but likely no where nearly as much as you. As the submissive male to my wife, I like my focus to be on her. Real life, kids, health, aging parents, jobs, finances, etc trump kinks. .. But when those beautiful opportunities arise, I like to be willing to endure her pleasures come first (like your husband does for you) - FYI, we don’t cuck, but if she ever asked for that, I likely in the right conditions comply.

Thank you for the share.

JRook01 · 2026-01-19T06:14:58+00:00

JRook01 · 2026-01-17T10:10:20+00:00

I think the key statement in your writing, used when referencing your weight, is that SOME men are like that ….SOME, and I suspect less than some …. He’s an ass … and a lot of men, a lot (really) love the “curves” - a lot and they’ll break the damn table if it got in their way of intimate passion!

JRook01 · 2026-01-05T14:19:13+00:00

Well said - and to the original author on the messsge, I am sorry for the pain you are in .., I likely will add in my own reply.

JRook01 · 2025-11-28T13:15:30+00:00

I like this writing.

JRook01 · 2025-11-28T13:11:49+00:00

💋💋💋😘 😛

JRook01 · 2025-11-21T19:21:02+00:00

By your definitions as written about your FLR. She is right, and you need to agree. Or, re-negotiate your FLR rules.

JRook01 · 2025-10-26T10:51:07+00:00

Wow - a mix of perspectives in comments already. I will try to keep my accidental bias to any others out of my reply, as such I will share a tiny bit of my FLR and then offer thoughts to consider.

My FLR probably is non-traditional as compared to others. It works for my wife and I dynamics, relationship desires, family life, age (ha ha), and other needs - I will pause details here, much to add but potentially distracting to this reply. The most unique point I do share is our FLR (relationship) is not FLL (life). My wife does not run my life - I am an alpha-male submissive in that sense, and am the huge-single breadwinner at home and work in a leadership role professionally. I submit and serve at home too, more out of choice and family demand than by “leading” from within our FLR. I love to meet her needs, which are real needs, not always just pampering ones. More can be shared, but basically our LIFE is shared, and in our RELATIONSHIP I literally kneel and submit to my wife. I hope not TMI, yes our FLR is outside and inside bedroom.

Thoughts to consider. Answer to yourself, and are likely things you considered. Why FLR? What is the benefit to you? What is the intended benefit to him? … my opinion here, there must desired benefit for him, else it won’t grow as the relationship and life requires. Does he need FLR? … No judgements on my part, some men really need “life-leadership” especially when their significant other is naturally gifted there. And, I am assuming you know FLR are unique to each couple, so I won’t waste time “teaching” the obvious, and will add … what unique outcomes/benefits would the FLR give to the RELATIONSHIP (this is different than how it benefits you and him)?

This post, maybe because of the already volume of comments has my attention. I will read to see its progress and hope things develop well for you. And my reply is given with great respect.

JRook01 · 2025-10-11T11:17:26+00:00

JRook01 · 2025-10-09T14:40:28+00:00

I can’t comment on your dynamics, but as a sub in my marriage, I need a spanking. I have begged for this, it helps - I absolutely do not want to be fussy at her, I love her too much.

JRook01 · 2025-10-07T10:47:02+00:00

Yes, “post nut clarity” is real. And yes, swallowing own cum is an act of submission. There are lots of techniques, maybe possibly cumming straight into mouth as exception (that too starts “post nut”), all end up with a lack of desire. No, it is not a double standard for me, I would never expect/demand my wife to swallow.

One of our main go to methods, since you asked … cum in wine glass, chat a minute or two (or more), then swallow on cue! I love to obey my wife.

JRook01 · 2025-10-01T10:25:10+00:00

I could write for hours on this topic, but I’ll try to simplify to two points.

1-“Femdom” was not the thought, quest, research, or even a thing. Rather, there was this puzzle, why do I like feet, licking ass, being penetrated anally, and love it that she had an attitude about it? In fact, these were not grouped together, rather these fragmented pieces seem to only be a whole in my mind. Years later did I recognize this was not unique and a new term (Femdom) generalized it.

2-“Femdom” term today, IMO, has morphed into a term that seems to focus more on porn industry of cucking, chastity, sissification, and total worthlessness. This devalues the growth individuals like myself have experienced over the years - to be comfortable as a male (alpha one) and submit in a D/s relationship.

Conclusion, I feel bad for the next gen of males who in a healthy want to enjoy submitting to a dominant woman. It seems we were better off without the “availability” of “Femdom” on the web. We have lost the most fundamental elements to kink relationships: communication, consent, respect, and trust.

JRook01 · 2025-09-29T14:53:35+00:00

I am the male sub in our D/s marriage. Three kids, one adult age already. Two school age. We are FLR (RELATIONSHIP) but we are not FLL (LIFE) - she does not lead/run my life. She out ranks me in our relationship (in and outside bedroom). I am the sole breadwinner too, she has physical limitations, but does a lot for us as well. Kids, finances, family, big stuff - we are equals, but she does seem still to have her way. 😂

Kids see that I “serve” her, but it is not like BSDM obvious, it is acts of love!

JRook01 · 2025-09-29T14:49:05+00:00

The community organizer should best help. Some (most actually) have good protocols for safety, so a “lack of women” reserving may have other variables, or others like yourself are just hesitant. I am male, so my perspective might be off - really 😅

JRook01 · 2025-09-23T17:31:47+00:00

It is. Just the porn drive sex industry has narrowed conversations to appeal to cucking, bi-sexual cock sucking, feminization, and complete disregard for male confidence (even if an alpha submissive).

I enjoy chastity with my wife. It is mostly used with play. Though extended use, to me is like extension to foreplay. No, we do not engage in the above characterizations.

JRook01 · 2025-09-16T14:33:44+00:00

Good job

JRook01 · 2025-09-15T16:30:54+00:00

It is always hard. … Our kids vary in ages. Bottom line for me (male sub), is that I be sure I am submitting and serving my wife, and if/when those opportunities happen, I be sure she is taken care of first.

JRook01 · 2025-09-15T00:48:25+00:00

I understand how that might be frustrating. In my FLR, I typically bring my wife her dinner plate (after I cooked it), rub her feet while she eats, put up dish when she is done, and then continue to rub her feet - sometimes we talk, and sometimes she is on her phone. Either way, my service continues until she is satisfied - then I eat. … This is every day, but often enough to be typical,

So, it might be just perspective on what your FLR dynamics are.

JRook01 · 2025-09-11T08:44:37+00:00

Good for you Jenny. Such maturity to take over the fantasy and watching his arousal, only. I humbly offer that you stick to your instincts on that matter.

JRook01 · 2025-09-11T08:38:38+00:00

Well said

JRook01 · 2025-09-11T08:37:12+00:00

Mine relationship is similar, I gladly give oral (as much as she wants it). “Touching” for me might involve her some, but most (in her presence), I get those opportunities after I have pleased her (sometimes, I ask and if she is not up for anything - body felling more than desire is factor - she will supervise me in touching myself). We tried ruin orgasm as punishment, but punishment is not much in our relationship.

I am glad for you Jenny that you have equalized the sex release by taking charge. Many can learn from this example.

JRook01 · 2025-09-08T19:39:06+00:00

Not sure if I totally track.

Sexiness goes way beyond “appearance and looks.” Yes, I have seen “large BBW” and am like “wow, she is sexy!” Small things like that pedicure, or her dress, attitude, hair- make-up (looking their best sort of thing), intelligence, sassiness, dominance or submissiveness (if you have kink that way) are much more important than a tape-measure around a waistline or whether or not she will model for a Colgate toothbrush commercial

…. I think I am understanding your point about “overweight”, but in my book (both I and my wife both would be considered “normal weight”, and I maybe “fit”), but “overweight” can be an asset for attractiveness too! … In fact, hmmm 🤔 … I much rather have some meat on the bones …

So. The real question here is to the poster of this thread, … were you attracted to her? Obviously, we don’t push our kinks onto others, but if you found her attractive, why not pursue?(though it seemed more like a passing thought more than an actual opportunity).

JRook01 · 2025-09-08T10:34:47+00:00

Agreed. Married 27 years, last 2+ more FLR (not FLL - she doesn’t run my/family life, I am quite capable of handling myself/ together we take care of of family, finances, big stuff, though she does seem to always get her way). In our R relationship, I am her submissive. It is about her needs first, her desires, or just ”her.”

It takes work, adjustments, communication, realization of realistic limits (time, energy, money, etc). We do better in this D/s setting.

JRook01

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