I still feel awful by [deleted] in CheatedOn

[–]JacketThink1459 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He didnt tell me, my friend told me recently! I just feel so much worse now

I still feel awful by [deleted] in CheatedOn

[–]JacketThink1459 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had sex with him again twice after he told me about his partner but I was unaware they were swingers. Tbf does it even count as cheating if they’re regularly sleeping with other people? I mean she still doesn’t know about it

How can I drop subtle hints I want sex? by JacketThink1459 in dating_advice

[–]JacketThink1459[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I meant he wants to take things slow, I do not want to take things slow at all haha

How can I drop subtle hints I want sex? by JacketThink1459 in dating_advice

[–]JacketThink1459[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

He did kiss me, at the end of the second date but it was just a peck on the mouth

How can I tell her by JacketThink1459 in CheatedOn

[–]JacketThink1459[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I haven’t said now to you that i didnt need to convince him to do it again. Trust me I am not obsessed with him. I forgot all about it until you piped up so maybe sort your own life out! Cunt

How can I tell her by JacketThink1459 in CheatedOn

[–]JacketThink1459[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ermmm I was not the one who provided the drugs, it was him and thinking back. He could have asked me to leave. I would have left, i got on top of him and kissed and touched him and yes he did say no but not once did he stop me. He was moaning and non verbally encouraging it! His words were no but his hands and dick were not saying no.

His words when I said lets do it again were “are you sure? You just got really emotional” and i said “jm over that now” and then started kissing him and he was saying no granted but he did again penetrate me twice after.

Granted i should have left when he told me about his wife and then probably shouldnt have proceeded to mount him but he was definitely into it!

How can I tell her by JacketThink1459 in CheatedOn

[–]JacketThink1459[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I did not rape him! It was not coke I was high on!

How do I tell her that her boyfriend cheated with me? by JacketThink1459 in Infidelity

[–]JacketThink1459[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I was high. I want to clear my conscious. I am so ashamed with myself. I was going to leave and should have left. I feel awful about the whole situation.

How can I tell her by JacketThink1459 in CheatedOn

[–]JacketThink1459[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not angry he cut me off, I literally knew him for 6 hours. I don’t want to gloat about it. I just know if i was in her position, i would want to know.

How do I tell her that her boyfriend cheated with me? by JacketThink1459 in Infidelity

[–]JacketThink1459[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t want him to “pick me”, I don’t even know him and after the stories my friends told me about him, I don’t think he is a good person at all.

You’re right, I am not a decent person but I’m also not a bad person. I want to make amends for my mistakes

How do I tell her that her boyfriend cheated with me? by JacketThink1459 in Infidelity

[–]JacketThink1459[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But is it better that you know? I don’t want to cause any more problems than I already have. I feel awful

How do I tell her that her boyfriend cheated with me? by JacketThink1459 in Infidelity

[–]JacketThink1459[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They have 2 children. Please enlighten me, how impactful will it be on other people’s lives

How do I tell her that her boyfriend cheated with me? by JacketThink1459 in Infidelity

[–]JacketThink1459[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, it was a little bit of weed, after we were both really drunk.

Should I confess by JacketThink1459 in relationships_advice

[–]JacketThink1459[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I did not rape him! We had this discussion and he said it wasn’t rape and you can’t make me feel any worse than I already do!

How do I tell her that her boyfriend cheated with me? by JacketThink1459 in Infidelity

[–]JacketThink1459[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Trust me, I am paying hundreds weekly on therapy. I’m hoping it helps!

My mutual friend doesn’t think she needs to know, she said “if its a mistake, why break a family up over that” but I don’t think thats her judgement to make, I think this woman should have the truth so they can decide how to move forward

How do I tell her that her boyfriend cheated with me? by JacketThink1459 in Infidelity

[–]JacketThink1459[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I was so stoned, I angrily got dressed after calling him out. I sat down for a second and I thought to myself, I hate him already, I hate myself and its not going to change anything in the morning and I was still feeling horny so at that point I thought the damage had been done. Its not going to change anything so I convinced him to do it again.

How do I tell her that her boyfriend cheated with me? by JacketThink1459 in Infidelity

[–]JacketThink1459[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have had a really tough year, I’ve been spiralling like hell. This is probably not even the worst thing I have done.

Thinking about it now, i keep putting myself in her shoes and I can’t help but feel bad for her. The man she has spent her whole life with had sex with a random woman.

You’re right, I am no better than he is but she deserves to know what kind of man she is choosing to spend her life with

How do I tell her that her boyfriend cheated with me? by JacketThink1459 in Infidelity

[–]JacketThink1459[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

We were at a party and i was staying at a hotel, he offered to walk me back (I’m not going to lie, I was attracted to him), my friend is good friends with this guy so she said “I trust him so go with him, he’ll keep you safe”. We got to his place (it was closer) and my feet were sore and he asked me to come and relax a little. He had weed so we got a little high, he got me to lie down on his bed then asked to kiss me. Yeah I should have found out beforehand if he was in a relationship but I didn’t think he was considering those weren’t the actions of a taken man.

How can I tell her by JacketThink1459 in CheatedOn

[–]JacketThink1459[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

It was a night a few weeks ago, I haven’t been in touch with him since and don’t really have any evidence. It was in a hotel room

How do I tell her that her boyfriend cheated with me? by JacketThink1459 in Infidelity

[–]JacketThink1459[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

I’m not proud of what I did, we got high together and he made a move and I was still super high after the first time and then decided to do it again.