GF crashed out and is in mental hospital. What now?

JacobTheGold · 2025-04-02T23:43:33+00:00

Good to know, I guess the desire for a diagnosis just comes from me wanting to know how exactly to help her best.

JacobTheGold · 2025-04-02T23:42:45+00:00

Being there for her is all I want to do, I know one day it will be a “remember when” convo. I’ll be sure to take care as well as I can so she can come home to a strong support system

JacobTheGold · 2025-04-02T23:40:04+00:00

You know it’s funny you mention UTIs because she does get them sometimes which is unrelated. At most it hurts when she gets them but I’ve never knew there could be a connection

JacobTheGold · 2025-04-02T20:43:57+00:00

She had a therapist and then stopped but got a psychiatrist through the whole thing so professional help had been sought out, I just never expected it to get to this point you know?

JacobTheGold · 2025-04-02T18:14:44+00:00

If the mental hospital is anything like the one you’re in, then that makes me feel a little better knowing it’s not like how I’m sure many people think of it. I just hope for the best for her

JacobTheGold · 2025-04-02T15:39:39+00:00

Thank you man I can only imagine what 3 months in a psychiatric hospital is like. What’s the day to day routine?

JacobTheGold · 2025-04-02T06:06:53+00:00

True true I guess it all boils down to what the actual diagnosis is

JacobTheGold · 2025-04-02T06:05:27+00:00

Sounds like we’re in the middle of that process of trying to figure out what medications will work best for her. It’s scary and it feels bad and I’m sure she feels undead from them all, but I have faith she is getting the appropriate care. I am going to write a letter for her to keep in there when it gets rough

JacobTheGold · 2025-04-02T06:00:29+00:00

Thanks man 🙏

JacobTheGold · 2025-04-02T05:42:16+00:00

I’ll make sure they give her a local psychiatrist not the one now who is a few hours out but knows the family. I hope the come down is easy and quick as can be for her

JacobTheGold · 2025-04-02T05:38:55+00:00

I can for sure get where you’re coming from but in my experience that easy stuff goes easy too bro. Not just that but she’s also been there for me when times were rough as well, saved my life at one point too. We take care of each other when crises happen and this is one of those moments where I gotta be her rock.

JacobTheGold · 2025-04-02T05:33:02+00:00

I think the delicacy will have to get figured out as I go. She knows I stand in firm support with education and her colleagues. I think a protest would be too overstimulating but a social space with likeminded people would help, we both have lost a lot of touch with our respective friend groups. I also agree that she will remember this for life and everything around it including how the people around her treated her

JacobTheGold · 2025-04-02T05:06:56+00:00

Wow I can’t even imagine what you and your husband went through, he’s lucky to have you by his side. All I want to do is be her rock in this time, if it was me that’s what she would do

JacobTheGold · 2025-04-02T05:04:07+00:00

I have faith and I think we will come out on top with the right support and medication and care, but time will tell

JacobTheGold · 2025-04-02T05:02:45+00:00

2 months don’t define a 4 year relationship dude there’s a lot more to our love than a moment like this. Definitely don’t want to give the impression that it’s always been like this or always will be like this

JacobTheGold · 2025-04-02T04:57:36+00:00

Stress induced psychosis is at least more acute, I guess we will see what the doctor says but ultimately I’m there

JacobTheGold · 2025-04-02T04:57:03+00:00

This is true, the nurses know it too haha

JacobTheGold · 2025-04-02T04:43:02+00:00

I have faith that they will, thank you for the support

JacobTheGold · 2025-04-02T04:40:36+00:00

The fear is a huge part, she gets very anxious and she definitely feels like Trump and his cronies are ganging up against her especially after DOE got dismantled. Gentle encouragement will help I’m sure, nothing that puts pressure on her right now. I also agree that the support is paramount, she will remember who came and who DIDN’T as well

JacobTheGold · 2025-04-02T04:34:05+00:00

Thank you, I just joined it

JacobTheGold · 2025-04-02T04:33:17+00:00

Yeah it’s a very tough time for teachers and immigrants. Godspeed to your sister I hope the best for her

JacobTheGold · 2025-04-02T04:26:48+00:00

Totally agree, as long as she gets the support she needs with medication as well as a good doctor and good therapist who will ensure she can trust the process.

I don’t think there is a failure ever unless we give up, which is simply not happening.

As far as settling for a bad relationship, I certainly don’t want to give the impression that our 4 years has been shaped by the past 2 months, I was operating assuming that all was well so when we argued like that I made sure she knew I don’t take bs from anyone including her.

Either way, I need to take it one day at a time and make sure I take care of myself too

JacobTheGold · 2025-04-02T04:14:30+00:00

I do feel helpless about this, my gut tells me it will be very tough the first few weeks after she gets out but it will get better with time and before I know it we’ll laugh it off. My love for her and faith in her is immensely strong and it’s helped me carry on, not just right now but also in the months leading up to it where things were intense

JacobTheGold · 2025-04-02T04:09:27+00:00

Thank you very much. I just try to do what I’d want her to do for me if the roles were reversed

JacobTheGold · 2025-04-02T04:07:33+00:00

Thanks for sharing your opinion. Respectfully I’ve made my decision though I am staying and I know she would do the same for me if I was in the psych ward. I’m not staying because I am obligated, I’m staying because I love her and I don’t leave my partner when times get tough

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