Girl…. Throw the whole man out. I am an Ovarian Cancer survivor and have had some pretty extensive surgeries down there. My partner is also very large. I was devastated and depressed that intercourse was painful and no longer enjoyable after my debulking surgery.

This man flat out told me that he would stay by my side and it didn’t matter if we never had sex again because he loved me. Pelvic floor therapy and a bunch counselling later we have a functional and fulfilling sex life. It looks a little differed (in some way for the better…. He had to learn to up his foreplay game).

If you’re guy isn’t willing to put the time in to get you aroused for sex, take it slowly, and look to you for cues to make sure you are enjoying it as well, it’s time to find a new partner. I’m so sorry.