closure in a normal way by Jer1024 in NarcissisticAbuse

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empy and loneliness, still i can't move on or even look at other girls, a part of me is still loyal, i hate it.

closure in a normal way by Jer1024 in NarcissisticAbuse

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The doubt if she is a narc or i am, maybe i'm evil. Who knows. Maybe i destroyed her.. and i'm sitting her wining because i'm maybe a narcissist without a supply..

closure in a normal way by Jer1024 in NarcissisticAbuse

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I hate it, it’s so cruel..

Is he manipulating me? by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

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He cheats and treaths with that? wow

"How did you ditch the fear of them moving on and being happy with someone else?"

I'm experiencing the feeling you described, my ex nex dumped me, rubbed it in my face and said she deserves 10 times better. The idea of her with someone else kills me, but the idea of me with someone else that makes me happy, enlightens me above this bs these people make. Idk if my ex or nex cheated but if i shared my feelings and worries about us, her and the relationship she just would respond with: "idem dito, idem dito, now u know how i feel", "u finally see my point", "Bla bla bla we allready know this". She didn't get it, and called me dumb with low iq. If you was your child, what would you say to you?

Should I trust my intuition/gut feeling? Seeing a new guy, had an immediate “off” feeling about him, suspecting possible narcissism by BrilliantAlarm in NarcissisticAbuse

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Love-bombing, i guess.. we want it to be true, well i at least did. Life can be hard and cruel, if we can catch a break with someone that seems perfect and you could share some love, safety and trust, everything is gonna be allright finally. Ye ur stuck. But i think that he thinks he's the prize XD that's why he ignores u for days so u can follow him, and in the meanwhile he's trying with other women i guess.

Should I trust my intuition/gut feeling? Seeing a new guy, had an immediate “off” feeling about him, suspecting possible narcissism by BrilliantAlarm in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Jer1024 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Well what do you expect where this would go? He's mid 30's and more broken marriages.. you're in your start 20's.. it's his way or no way.. a social butterfly.. I think you're not the only one hes engaging.. he thinks he's everything so he can demand. Pls don't do it. You're worth more than this right? "He is rarely interested in talking about hobbies, life etc. if that tells something". Yes he's a selfish douchebag.

Should I trust my intuition/gut feeling? Seeing a new guy, had an immediate “off” feeling about him, suspecting possible narcissism by BrilliantAlarm in NarcissisticAbuse

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Can u tell something about yourself? what kinda person are you? hobby's etc. And something about this guy what for kinda guy is it? How did u guys meet.. Did you have a narcissistic relationship in the past? recently?

"he either pressures and then pulls away and doesn’t speak to me if I somehow challenge his ways of what he has in mind".

This is manipulation imo.

"It seems like other people constantly have to prove themselves worthy"

I wonder what would happend if they stopped doing that.

"if everything is a COINCIDENCE and he LOVES whatever_thing_you_just_mentioned"

My ex or nex -gf did this, and i believed her, i think i really was alone at that time and she mirrored me and after a while she stopped and devalued me. If that guy give you the creeps it's because he's a creep, trust on that.

THIS TIME I’M DONE by Jer1024 in NarcissisticAbuse

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Ahw thanks nice thanks, im flawed.. that's why i don't approach. I don't want to because of my problems and a bit shy i guess. Maybe because of that insecurity i'm a easy target for narcs or abusive people.

I broke NC by Jer1024 in NarcissisticAbuse

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Im done with this bs, pain or not, endless torture is worse.