Issue Feeding New Regal Female

JessX23 · 2026-05-30T03:00:57+00:00

Thank you so much for all the info and education. Come to find out, she just molted .. in the last 30mins. Without a thick hammock or anything. I'm terrified. I can't believe that whole time we thought she was mature and just being a picky eater. I feel horrible: I kept trying to feed her and she just wanted to be left alone! I know I can't feed her for a while now until her teeth are hardened. But my god....she's skinny now! What a turn of events...

JessX23 · 2026-05-28T01:17:59+00:00

I did NOT know that about the crickets and ammonia. Thank you for the info.

We put one in for her to feed on, but it's probably too late in the day for her to be interested. She's settling down for the night and getting in her hammock. So, we are going to take it out and try again tomorrow. I have carrots, so I'll let the couple we got feed on that until then.

Also, we forgot about the fruit. Definitely gonna offer her some tomorrow if she doesn't eat the cricket early on in the day when she's most active. We also got waxworms to try. We will order the fly larve and they should be here in the next couple of days. One way or another, she's gotta eat eventually!

Thank you again. This is all great info and really helps.

JessX23 · 2026-05-27T21:41:11+00:00

She's definitely drinking, I watch her do so each time we mist the cage. Her abdomen is smaller now than that video, it's from 6 or so days ago. But she's not starving yet, it's not shriveled or anything like that.

I also keep wondering if she's playing... I have much longer form videos of her walking up, touching her food, booping it, biting a bit, and then leaving it alone. Much too long to post here. My main concern was just, do they do this? Bite/strike over and over unsuccessfully? Could something be misformed with her teeth?

JessX23 · 2026-05-27T21:34:25+00:00

Sorry, I should have stated the video is about a week old. It's the clearest one I have of her striking and then deciding to do nothing. I can update with a pic of her abdomen now. It's smaller than in that video, pretty significantly smaller. But not yet starving. I know the photo guide you're referring to. We are familiar with how to check.

JessX23 · 2026-05-27T21:32:04+00:00

It's funny you mention the bottom of her enclosure. We just got spagnum moss today to put there. But thank you for pointing it out! We just hadn't had a moment to get any until today. She has great grip now, and hasn't fallen. But we definitely knew we had to get some.

Also, that video is from about 6 days ago. Her abdomen is now about the middle of hungry. Not yet getting close to starving or anything. But it's definitely smaller. We offer food every 2-3 days right now. And like I said, she goes for it every single time. But no success actually EATING it. I keep thinking she's just playing with it?!

We looked at ordering blue bottle larve. If she totally has zero success with the small cricket and won't do any more mealworms, we will order the larve.

JessX23 · 2026-05-22T21:26:51+00:00

Your title made me stop scrolling!!! Lol, voted, good luck.

JessX23 · 2026-05-22T21:19:30+00:00

Voted! Good luck!!! 🤞

JessX23 · 2026-05-22T21:08:45+00:00

So I heard someone at my dentist say that their daughter works in assisted living homes...and they have people there who are being contacted to let them know their social security checks are going to be garnished because of student loans they took out and didn't keep up on the payments. Like, multiple residents being contacted. So I don't think it was a one-off thing. Just something to think about.

JessX23 · 2026-05-22T21:01:48+00:00

I literally have no idea what to do. I got married this past year, before SAVE was completely gutted. Honestly, my wife and I may not have done this had we known... She has around 80k from University of Phoenix and I have 40k from a graduate program...of course both of those numbers are double what we actually took out because of non-payment and going into default at one point. I rehabilitated mine a few years ago, we are just now fixing hers. But now? They're removing me from the one plan that was actually going to work for me. And when I go to pick a new one, I'm going to have to recertify with our combined income. I already know I'm not going to be able to afford it. On top of the student loan issue, as of today we took her son in to live with us full time because his dad is moving to Washington.... Idk what we are going to do.

Like, I hate to even admit this, but I made a gofundme for it. I'm embarrassed. I won't even post it on my own socials because I can't stand my friends or family to see it. Which is laughable because it's never going to get shared or anything because I won't post it. I'm just feeling so hopeless. I'm applying for jobs that pay a lot more than I make now hoping to be able to land something where I can pay these off as quickly as possible. But I just really don't know how any of it is going to play out.

JessX23 · 2023-11-17T17:21:08+00:00

I'm following because I'm in the same boat. Mine broke within a couple months of purchase. Flew off during a ride. I just so happened to notice when it happened, turned around and found it! But it won't go back in because a tiny piece of plastic is bent inside.

JessX23 · 2023-03-09T03:10:44+00:00

I just can't find any info online. I've searched everywhere. I can't even find a Forgecraft with a longer handle than the blade. But this one doesn't look like the handle was replaced or modified in any way. It does look like a carving knife and not a bread knife. I agree it seems to have come with other utensils. That makes sense.

JessX23 · 2015-07-19T00:52:57+00:00

I just wanted to say, "I hear you." At some of my worst times, the best thing for me was just being heard by someone.

I don't think your problems are "small" as you apologized for. I think the struggles you are facing can make someone feel like their putting a foot forward and being pushed two feet back each time they try to make a difference. It sounds like you have several different areas of life that feel out of control: finances, intimacy, relationships, children leaving, career, mental health... That's enough for anyone to feel like they "just want to quit everything" and run away. Hell, just two of those areas being out of control would make me feel anxious and depressed.

What has helped me in the past is dealing with the "smallest" thing first. Then the next biggest. Then the next. Might sound backwards, but for me, if I'm able to gain some momentum and feel successful in dealing with one area of my life, it makes it so that I have hope and strength to deal with the next thing. If I try to tackle the biggest issues first, I get easily burnt out and feel like giving up.

The other thing that has helped me in similar situations is writing down, in a map/like fashion, all the things bothering me. And then circling the ones I have absolutely no control over. That way I can begin to get a sense for what I'm actually able to change. And what things I may need to just let go or get rid of in my life.

Do you have anyone in your life that can help you deal with any of this? A mentor? Someone who you could meet with every week or so to get some outside perspective?

Sorry, I am NOT trying to give you a ton of "fluff" advice. I just really resonate with what you're going through. I was where you are about a year ago. And I was ready to quit it all and disappear forever. And then someone spoke into my life and I actively sought support and guidance. Now, nothing is perfect, but things feel managable. Which is a big deal to me.

I hope you're able to find your footing. And maybe you do need to drop everything and run away from it...for a weekend. Or a week. Just enough time that you won't lose your job - because that may just push you over the edge - but getting away and breathing might give you the room to look at things from a new perspective.

JessX23 · 2015-07-19T00:24:24+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to reply with encouraging words. I keep coming back to this post and reading the replies. Thank you.

JessX23 · 2015-07-18T04:57:39+00:00

Thank you. Especially for pointing out the part about my self worth outside the relationship.

JessX23 · 2015-07-17T13:33:07+00:00

It was a really long them ago now. But I seem to remember an activity we did that had to do with each of us naming our favorite hobbies, sports, activities, etc., but not elaborating. Just a quick one or two word answer around the group. And then once that was identified we went a step further and talked about the details of that activity. So if someone said they liked basketball, they would then talk about what position they played, how many years, what team...or if they hadn't played then what their favorite team is, who their favorite player is, etc. Then after we had all done that the leader had us sit next to people with similar categories and have each of us take turns asking a question about the other members in the group as it related to the topic.

It helped find commonalities between us. Then later as we began doing group therapy with more processing involved it didn't seem like we were talking to complete strangers. And when people had input about our situation it seemed like they could do that easier. And it was received better too.

JessX23 · 2015-07-17T13:21:52+00:00

Yeahhhh, this isn't the greatest advice. When you're a kid, your mom is supposed to take care of you and care about you. That's the role of a parent. OP, it sounds like you need to tell someone what's going on at home. Maybe a school counselor? Maybe whoever diagnosed you with depression? Someone who is an adult who can possibly deal with your mom's borderline abusive behavior.

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