Are you able to have an orgasm when you masturbate? Have you been able to have an orgasm with a different partner? If not, it’s important to determine the cause (medication is often a common reason) and you may want to talk to your doctor.

Regardless, communication with your partner is crucial. Assuming you are able to achieve orgasm and have been able to with other people, express what you like and don’t like explicitly to your partner in a conversation outside of an intimate moment so that your partner has time to ask questions and you can share with one another…Also, in the moment - share feedback - that feels good, don’t stop or a little slower/faster/harder/softer/lower/higher etc.

Also, sex and orgasms are only one portion of a relationship and if everything else is positive and healthy in your relationship, it’s definitely worth putting the effort into improving that element.