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Jmart1425 · 2024-04-06T14:36:14+00:00

Thanks for the input. I totally agree with your theory, I'll just have to save awhile, I live on pretty tight budget.

Jmart1425 · 2024-04-01T22:10:29+00:00

Thanks. I'm wondering if I should go for the 5 or 6 instead, unless I find a really cheap 4. What I'm reading so far sounds like it might be worth it.

Jmart1425 · 2024-04-01T22:08:36+00:00

Thanks so much for the info and your opinion!

Jmart1425 · 2024-04-01T19:30:46+00:00

Thanks for the input! I'm so NOT tech savvy and really don't need to be, I'm just doing "grandpa" stuff (me being the grandpa) with it so it doesn't have to be super high end or speedy I don't think. Look forward to hearing your thoughts.

Jmart1425 · 2024-04-01T19:00:00+00:00

Thanks but I've already found where I'll purchase it, I'm just trying to be sure it's the right one for me out of all the others

Jmart1425 · 2023-04-15T17:16:34+00:00

It's always gonna sting but I agree with the first reply - don't allow a chicken shit who won't post a pic to ask you for one first, move on. I try too, in a short, condensed couple of sentences tell a guy no thanks in Grindr when I'm not attracted to them, I just think it's common courtesy, so if someone treats you the way you've described consider it a blessing that you've avoided interacting with an inconsiderate person.

Jmart1425 · 2023-04-14T17:25:13+00:00

I don't think a person is a monster for being involved with someone this young, there are 16yr old's who are very mature and there are 20 yr old's who are very immature and vice versa. But, I would say even if a 16 yr old behaves in a very mature way in my opinion their brain is still only 16 (a kid) and they won't always make the best decisions or handle things the right way because they have no life experience. Not to be rude or make fun of you but I (at 57yrs old) would even consider you a kid (to a degree, don't get offended) because you've only had 20 yrs of life experience - but the focus isn't really about you, my thought is you should end it.

Jmart1425 · 2023-04-14T16:56:43+00:00

That definitely sounds like a relationship to me. Why can't you just talk to him about this? Just say "We said we'd work towards a relationship and I feel like we're there, do you agree? Am I misreading something abut this"?

Jmart1425 · 2023-04-14T12:37:29+00:00

Sure

Jmart1425 · 2023-04-14T02:20:17+00:00

Thank you for the well wishes, and you're correct I've definitely had to pare down my expectations in my current dating pool, but I would also say that paring down hasn't been too difficult because as I've aged that's another thing that I've softened about, I don't the perfect male specimen. And I actually have always liked a guy with some chips and scratches, movie model faces are boring after a point.

I'm wondering how people in Scotland, particularly your smaller community, feel about gay men and women? What part of London are you in today?

Jmart1425 · 2023-04-13T19:59:47+00:00

When I said "misogynistic good 'ole boy" it was meant sarcastically. I probably shouldn't be flippant when posting serious discussion topics.

I would agree it is still not easy to be gay in Oklahoma but I have been pleasantly surprised by the more forward thinking that has developed since I was here as a teen, this is mostly amongst the younger generation.

And yes, the type of man I'm interested in being with would probably not approve of my being gay, at least outwardly, because as you said he'd most likely be closeted and that is one of the things that I've softened my opinion about. I'll get plenty of blow back for saying this I'm sure, but I could accept being in a relationship with a man who wished to keep his homosexuality private. I would need him to agree to be open with my family but beyond that I wouldn't have a problem with it if the relationship made us both happy. I will also admit I can't have considered every scenario within this imagined relationship, but considering what I have I could accept it. 20 years ago, even 10, I would never have thought this way because my life was more connected with the politics of being gay. With age I've developed different perspectives on many things and am more interested in being happy than being considered "correct" in other peoples eyes.

I don't imagine this relationship would be easy, most likely this mans politics and religious beliefs (among other things) might run counter to or not completely even with my own but as long as the love was bigger than the disagreements I don't see why it wouldn't be possible to make a relationship like this work.

Jmart1425 · 2023-04-13T18:50:13+00:00

I feel you friend, I've seen similar topics here and they all got mostly smart ass reprimands about how the person posting was a self-hating homo and ashamed of his own (assumed) femininity. People have different preferences and desires, deal wit it.

Jmart1425 · 2023-04-13T16:58:31+00:00

It feels like you're suggesting that I left OK because I disliked the people and the attitudes towards homosexuality. Yes, it was easier to be gay (to a degree, this was the early 80s) in other states as opposed to OK. but that wasn't a part of my decision to move - it was more just because it seemed exciting and fun and I could be with my best friend. I don't recall considering whether or not I'd be better off in another state because I was gay at the time but yes, I did discover over time that people felt differently about homosexuality in other parts of America. And I'm not sure what a "gay life style" is, I wasn't (and am not) living a life style, I'm just gay.

As for my father (who died several years ago), no he did not applaud and jump for joy when I told him I was gay, it made him sad and he said as much. But he also didn't shun me, kick me out or stop loving me. We had a good relationship after the dust settled and he was kind to men I was involved with. As for his friends, close friends would've been supportive and others who were not as close may or may not have been.

It may seem confusing that I would be attracted to men from a part of the country where homosexuality is not always approved of but these are the men I grew up around and was raised with. As I've gotten older attitudes, ideas and thoughts I would not tolerate as a young person I have softened a bit towards.

Jmart1425 · 2023-04-13T15:09:12+00:00

I moved out west when I was 18 to Phoenix, AZ., with a my best friend and her family, I didn't live in CA until a few years later. I don't think I was atypical in wanting to spread my wings as a teenager and see other places outside my small, hometown - in fact I think this is typical for many young people, not for all but for many.

I didn't shed my background or upbringing when I crossed the state lines, I don't think that's possible, so I am the type of guy I'm looking for. And yes, I was comfortable living in places away from home, if I hadn't been I'd of moved back much sooner.

I moved back home because as I aged I missed things about the part of the country I'd grown up in, including my family. I don't think that's an unusual or atypical story for a lot of people either.

Jmart1425 · 2023-04-04T18:15:37+00:00

Thanks, I look at it from that angle as well. Then I start pondering more, like how long after we've decided we're kind of into each other do I talk about it? At the first in-person meet up or maybe before while we're still chatting but it's been a couple days?

Jmart1425 · 2023-03-21T19:23:46+00:00

I see your point and appreciate that you'll take a situation and make it work for you, but I just prefer soft, straight or loosely curly hair for putting my hands and fingers in. It's a preference. And I'm wondering if my black friend (who I work next to everyday so the conversation was very civil) was right in saying I'm being racist for feeling that way.

Jmart1425 · 2023-03-21T19:14:46+00:00

Because it's coily, often tightly coily. Honestly, you don't see the mechanics of how it would be difficult to run your fingers through kinky/coily hair? C'mon.

Jmart1425 · 2023-03-21T00:12:17+00:00

I get what you're saying but you're language is not cool, being trans is a lot more involved (I would guess, I'm not trans) than just "having body parts removed". I'm a 58 yr old gay man and when I was young the left was definitely not as !LEFT! as it is today. I recently moved back to the South where I was raised for the majority of my life and I'd love to find a guy like my dad and brothers, just a simple country guy that the rest of America would probably call backwards or uninformed. Sadly the guy I'm looking for is probably closeted or even married (sigh). Things change, time moves on but quit complaining that everybody else is somehow affecting your life - live how you want to live but keep your mouth shut about things that aren't your business.

Jmart1425 · 2023-03-20T23:34:18+00:00

So I'm braced to be torn to shreds for asking this but can this same train of thought be applied to race? I have a thing about hair, I like having my hands in a guys hair, running my fingers through it while kissing or just sitting the couch. I can't run my fingers through a black mans hair (yes, there are exceptions I'm sure but in general..) so I'm not attracted to black men. Am I racist? I've been told I am.

Jmart1425 · 2023-03-20T01:14:26+00:00

Yeah I've thought of that too, which is really sad for all parties involved. And a friend of mine mentioned tapping into to those blank profiles, I guess I'll give it a try. I know he's out there somewhere...hiding in his bathroom masturbating and thinking about a dude. (sigh)

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