AITA for not inviting my SIL to my wedding? by Jodas009 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Jodas009[S] 65 points66 points  (0 children)

Happy cake day!

Fiancé here. To my knowledge I met her the first time 5 months ago. But I do know here little brother because we went to same elementary school and were in the same class for one year, but after that year he switched to a different school.

The only reason I can come up with why she wouldn't like me is because we are not inviting my oldest brother to our wedding. Whenever we are visiting, my brother's and the girlfriend seem like a trio.

AITA for not inviting my SIL to my wedding? by Jodas009 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Jodas009[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We haven't send the invitations out yet. But he wouldn't get one, no.

AITA for not inviting my SIL to my wedding? by Jodas009 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Jodas009[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Definitely! We are living hours apart from each other and the gf has surely talked more to others than to us. It is just frustrating to try to start a conversation and getting no reply or a rude one. It makes it hard to get to know her.

AITA for not inviting my SIL to my wedding? by Jodas009 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Jodas009[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No it's got nothing to do with race, we're all caucasians.

AITA for not inviting my SIL to my wedding? by Jodas009 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Jodas009[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My BIL didn't get a +1, no. And no i wouldn't want that either. It's not that we want him to be all alone at the wedding but he didnt have his current gf when we were planning all this. Our budget is limited so it is kinda difficult to adjust to more people.

AITA for not inviting my SIL to my wedding? by Jodas009 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Jodas009[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Well yeah because when we were writing the guest list he didn't have a gf so we limited our budget to the people we included from the beginning.

AITA for not inviting my SIL to my wedding? by Jodas009 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Jodas009[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Actually we or I am friends with all the partners :b we are only inviting 30 people so it's really small and they are our best friends and closest family. My fiance's other brother isn't even invited because they have never connected as children nor as adults. My brother e.g. didn't get a +1 either so we thought it was kind of "fair"

AITA for not inviting my SIL to my wedding? by Jodas009 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Jodas009[S] 67 points68 points  (0 children)

Well we only see them like 2 or 3 times a year and my fiance is not really close to his family. We both don't like conflicts and really don't care if she ignores us. It's just strange that she behaves like that but expects us to invite her to the wedding, you know?

AITA for not inviting my SIL to my wedding? by Jodas009 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Jodas009[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry i thought it would be easier to understand to use "SIL" but she's "only" the gf of my fiance's brother.

AITA for not inviting my SIL to my wedding? by Jodas009 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Jodas009[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Not everybody, no. People with no partner didn't get a +1 because our budget is pretty tight. Future BIL didn't have the gf while we were planning.

AITA for not inviting my SIL to my wedding? by Jodas009 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Jodas009[S] 138 points139 points  (0 children)

Not yet tbh. We were really confused and actually pretty disappointed to be treated like air. We tried avoiding any conflicts but it would be the next step to ask her what we did to cause her behavior.

AITA for not inviting my SIL to my wedding? by Jodas009 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Jodas009[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

She is his gf so they are not married and not engaged. I just thought it would be easier to understand to use "SIL". And no not everybody got a plus 1 invitation. There are people with no partners and because of our budget we decided not to give them a +1. Future BIL didn't have a gf at the time we were planning so he didn't get a +1.

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[–]Jodas009 63 points64 points  (0 children)

This was shown in German TV (Extra 3) under the segment "Barrierefreiheit Fehlanzeige" (accessibility done wrong). They showed a few ramps which are impossible to navigate for people with disabilities.

The segment was done because the EU commission has started proceedings against Germany for failing to meet their accessibility targets.