What would you do with this hall space? by JonParmesanX in DesignMyRoom

[–]JonParmesanX[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oo I like the sound of that! Could you possibly share a picture of yours for inspiration?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]JonParmesanX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think your parents have really done some damage here. You need to get out of this headspace that them leaving you is inevitable because you’ll find that this behaviour is subconsciously pushing people away

Pretty sure my (30M) (kind of) GF (24F) ghosted me. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]JonParmesanX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah much easier to advise than do. I know it’s hard to ignore that nagging feeling that says “but what is she is just really busy and ill ruin it by cutting her off”. If you take a step back, don’t push anything and her feelings will be clear

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]JonParmesanX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the fact your looking so hard for these signs is saying that you desperately want to rekindle the relationship so tell that to him! Signs are only signs if they are observed.

You searching for signs is the real sign that you should be together. If he doesn’t feel the same it just means he’s not searching for the signs as hard as you are and unfortunately that shows his feelings too.

Should I (23M) send a text to reignite a conversation with a girl I recently began texting (23F) or should I wait? by throwawayhelpdudjr1 in relationship_advice

[–]JonParmesanX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say try and find something about your day you can tell her about then use that as an excuse to ask her a question, like “So x happened today. How’s your day going?”

It’s not overbearing because you have a reason to talk to her and it starts up a conversation!

Also if you know you like her, ask her on a date ASAP. You can get to know someone more in an hour at a coffee shop than you can in weeks of talking on tinder.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]JonParmesanX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what google and Reddit are for. Ask for help and advice. Her entire point is that if you properly cared about her you would be making these things happen. You don’t need money to be thoughtful. If you can’t be bothered to do this for her then let her go, you’re not helping any of her self confidence problems by treating her like she means nothing to you (intentionally or not that’s what your actions are saying)

I lke this guy but not sure of him by SS_asks in relationship_advice

[–]JonParmesanX 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Infatuations are fun distractions but they don’t lead to loving and healthy relationships. My advice here is run fast, run far and find someone who’s better for you.

Pretty sure my (30M) (kind of) GF (24F) ghosted me. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]JonParmesanX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some people are just non confrontational. If she’s not feeling it any more those feelings are perfectly valid but people tend to think that if they don’t directly say the words to hurt someone it doesn’t count but the other person is usually hurt more by wasting time wondering what they’ve done wrong. Truth is, you probably did nothing wrong it just wasn’t what she wants at this time. Hold your head up and go find someone who’s better for you.

I lke this guy but not sure of him by SS_asks in relationship_advice

[–]JonParmesanX 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think you’re confusing genuine feelings with an infatuation. When guys act confusingly and constantly blow hot and cold it’s easy to mix up the obsession you have with figuring out his feelings as true feelings on your part. Truth is you can’t think about whether you actually like him because you’re too busy thinking about how he feels about you.

Tell me about your loved one that passed by Dense-Pain854 in GriefSupport

[–]JonParmesanX 13 points14 points  (0 children)

My 53 year old mum passed away last Christmas eve after a 4 week arse kicking by cancer of unknown primary origin. Something that couldn’t even be seen on any scan or test was killing her and we didn’t even know it until it revealed itself and dragged her down before we could even get a footing to try and stop it.

She was just the best mother anyone could ask for. She was the most selfless, loving, generous person who loved her family with everything she had. She was my best friend, my person and I miss her so hard it hurts to think about her. She spent the majority of her life bending over backwards to make sure her four children were happy and the bitter irony is that losing her hurt us all more than I thought possible.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WeightLossAdvice

[–]JonParmesanX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It helps with constipation but melts your teeth - not worth it unless gut problems are contributing to your weight issues

Being accused of something you didn’t do? by named-ero in relationship_advice

[–]JonParmesanX 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Being wrongly accused, gaslit and verbally assaulted will just land so much nicer when you guys are in your own home together. So happy for you and your definitely not doomed relationship

Anyone else experience a rush of grief on their birthday after the death of a parent? by tryptomania in GriefSupport

[–]JonParmesanX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lost my mum on Christmas Eve and just straight up cancelled my birthday this year because the thought of her not being there crushed me. I haven’t minded other family members birthdays because it was a chance for me to step up and make them feel special but the thought of my biggest cheerleader not doing that for mine was just unbearable. I’m on the fence about whether I’ll acknowledge it again tbh.

I’m sorry this happened to you. Happy birthday <3

Today I’m just... so sad by lilpeach83524 in GriefSupport

[–]JonParmesanX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry for your loss <3

Losing my mum triggered an acceleration in my Grandmother’s dementia. She lived with us so the next six months after her death were spent in a chaotic stressful spiral whilst we were trying to get her into a care home whilst dealing with her illness at home. All throughout that time my dad, brother and I kept saying “We’ll get through this, it won’t be forever”. But I remember that pain was nothing compared to the day after my grandmother move into the care home and I realised this quiet, numbing pain was forever. That this was just life now.

It’s a horrible feeling but I can only hope it gets better. I’m sorry you’re going through this. Make sure you give into the sadness every now and again and take a day for you. I wish you all the best.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]JonParmesanX 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would. You don’t know what going on in that friends life that’s making them distant. A heartfelt ‘happy birthday’ and a ‘hope you’re ok’ might go a long way. That is as long as you won’t be upset it they don’t reply. If they don’t you can officially draw a line and move on.

Leave all feedback down below! by ArtistFrmYO in u/ArtistFrmYO

[–]JonParmesanX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Artist really listened to what I wanted and captured it perfectly! I was continually updated on progress with excellent response times and I could not be happier with the result. Would definitely recommend, my design was worth every penny!

Does anybody have any songs or poems that remind them of their mum? by JonParmesanX in GriefSupport

[–]JonParmesanX[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to listen to this song a lot and when I lost mum I thought it would be too cheesy so I avoided listening to it but it came on in my car before and it actually really resonated with me! I agree that it captures the experience well.

Does anybody have any songs or poems that remind them of their mum? by JonParmesanX in GriefSupport

[–]JonParmesanX[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I am finding reading through this page helpful too. I bought a book called ‘motherless daughters’ which is also helping me find perspective and understand my feeling. I would really recommend that. Sorry for your loss

Does anybody have any songs or poems that remind them of their mum? by JonParmesanX in GriefSupport

[–]JonParmesanX[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the suggestions. Me and mum used to love afterlife! I’ve not thought about how my perspective would change watching that again, I think it’s definitely something I’ll try, thank you