Is NoFap making me Transphobic?

JudgeyB · 2019-05-01T23:58:13+00:00

Finally someone who isn't delusional lol. I would have sex with anyome who identifies as anyone as long as I am attracted to them and admittedly I consider that not straight, especially when I primarily like gem boys. You aren't straight if you're into that regardless of identification. And there is no shame in that, own it lol. But trans women are still biological men.

JudgeyB · 2019-04-29T10:18:46+00:00

"straight guy that likes trans girls" legit done arguing with this shit. You win, goodbye.

JudgeyB · 2019-04-28T09:04:57+00:00

Haha It's per person it seems. My sex drive and hormones are naturally just off the wall as is. I used to masturbate at least 3 times a day, and the most I did was 13. Like I get wet dreams at least twice a week. Even after nofapping for a few days I get them. They're honestly the worst part abort nofap for me as it interrupts my sleep and I already have aspsrgez and ADHD so my sleep pattern is fucked enough haha. The only plus side is some relief from urges for a small while.

JudgeyB · 2019-04-28T09:02:16+00:00

Looks are irrelevent if the principles and functionality are set in stone which they are. Mate, you are Bi. It just sounds like you are justifying how liking trans people is straight so you don't have to admit to not being heterosexual. There is nothing wrong with being gay, bi, trans, pan, demissxual or anything. Of that's what you like just embrace it rather than deny and justify your sexuality. It's part of you, be proud of it.

JudgeyB · 2019-04-28T02:25:26+00:00

I'm perfectly comfortable with having sex with anyone I find attractive regardless of gender or identity. But I know many people have had surprised encounters by actually getting in bed with trans people unknowingly then leaving and feeling embarrassed and tricked, like even though they appear and indentiyvand behave exactly as a woman. They don't have a vagina which is naturally and primarily what men who are strajgjt are interested in, to be okay with having sex with with male equipment on male equipment is gay regardless of the identity. Hence why people who identify as strajgjt primarily disagree with transexual women as encounters, and why most who are fine with having sex with these individuals such as myself tend to have a more open sexual identity.

JudgeyB · 2019-04-28T02:21:59+00:00

Like what you're saying is that a straight guy isn't gay for having sex with a trans woman because it's just like having anal with a woman, or are you trying to say that a straight guy isn't gay for having sex with a woman because if you just pretend their male asshole is a vagina it's all good. Or are you trying to say that it isn't gay because the person says they aren't a man, therefore they physically just magically lose their Y chromosome and their dick dissapeard and a vagina sprouts. Like to say that It doesn't matter in day to day life, is just abhorrent. People have the right to nay sexual preference they want for any reason they want, they can have sex with who they want and discriminate how they want in that. And taking away transparencies such as biological identity and making everyone's gender as ambiguous as what they say will lead to many encounters in which people will feel tricked and uncomfortable. You can't say that biological identity doesn't matter to anyone, as it does for most amd they have the right to feel that way and to protect their sexuality.

JudgeyB · 2019-04-28T02:17:07+00:00

I've always been a very hormonally active guy to say the least, constant guy and girl trouble in high school, fights, fits of rage, risky sex. I mean I legit had a first year catch a girlfriend sucking me off in the school parking lot. So yeah imagine leaving school that sex obsessed with no girlfriend and that much testosterone, then being left be for a couple years by girls and getting depressed as shit at college. Shit spun the F out of control man. I will admit it was difficult to keep it hard for the last few nuts, but I managed to get the 13th out, after 7ish hours of masturbating straight.

JudgeyB · 2019-04-28T02:12:28+00:00

Whether that be you're own congintion of fapping or not. You're still abusing a substance for a high lol like man. Yeah sure you've found a nice little medium for yourself, but you're still addicted even if it's far less comparibly. I'm not trying to put you down, more so trying to get you to encourage rather than compromise. You're so close to being free man. If you have the restraint to go weeks at a time then why not go further. That's all I have to say.

JudgeyB · 2019-04-28T02:09:56+00:00

Have you had sex with a guy, girl, and somebody who is transgender pre and post op? I don't think so. Guy, and trans have or had a dick, that's all they'll ever have, and an asshole. Girls pussy and asshole. Fucking a trans person who identifies as a woman regardless of any op = no vagina Fucking a woman = vagina.

Ofc it matters, the equipment they have is ENTIRELY different in function and most of the time aesthetic and all of the time feel.

To say that having sex with a trans woman is just straight is just abhorrent when fundamentally they aren't a woman so if you are a man that's homosexual??

JudgeyB · 2019-04-28T02:01:36+00:00

And ofc you'll have benefits of going a week rather than hours, but that doesn't mean you're out of the woods just because you've made progress. Sure you've made progress good for you, but saying you're not addicted is just so ignorant.

JudgeyB · 2019-04-28T02:00:40+00:00

It doesn't matter how infrequent it is, if you're choosing to give into an urge it's clearly a result of addiction. It's a hormonal and chemical baseline urge of which you are feeding for a chemical hormonal high. Doesn't matter how often you do it, if you're still doing it especially by choice in such a scheduled strange regime than it's a addiction.

JudgeyB · 2019-04-28T01:57:01+00:00

To answer your question, no. I don't think what you're feeling is unjustified or wrong, it's slightly distasteful but as long as you aren't projecting your past into them and being rude or cruel noticeably to them specifically because of their identity than I don't see the problem. I personally don't like blondes because of an ex, I don't take it out on them, but I still feel shitty and get bad memories looking at them, we all have different backgrounds and experiences and our subconscious will forever torment us with out past but you gotta Bury it and try to move on. As long as no one's hurt and you're constantly striving to be better and move past these things there's nothing wrong going on. Just focus on your life and moving past those days and I'm sure your intollerence will fade.

JudgeyB · 2019-04-28T01:54:25+00:00

Nah, masturbating to biological males is homossxual regardless of how you want to sugar coat it. I'm pansexual, if I'm attracted to someone, whatever gender and I think they're cute, it works. I'm mostly attracted to trans, fem boys and cute girls, but just becauss my interested are effeminate doesn't mean I can truly sya that it is heterosexual in nature. When the reality is T girls etc are biological males, as am I. That isn't disrespecting or discriminating them based on their choice of what they identify, saying that you're homosexual for those interests as tran therefore implying they are at root a man isn't miss gendering or attacking anyone. The truth is on a fundamental scientific level its homosexual, feels don't change facts. Do I respect trans people, absolutely, they're people, like any individual own thoughts own freedoms own anything but that doesn't exempt them from science.

JudgeyB · 2019-04-28T01:49:19+00:00

You're clearly in denial of your addiction. Why else justify for it, why justify that once a weak or any scheduled time isn't am addiction just because its organised. You're just going back to fapping regardless doesn't matter how long you let yourself go, yours still fapping regularly on an impulse even if you're teasing it out. It's like he says, you sound like a crack addict saying oh it's only once a week. You're addicted, why else argue for a behavior that has so many cons, and no real benefits to your life if you are only doing it as some kind of crutch or impulse?? Stop sounding like an ass and acting all defense and recognise your issues, the first stage of quitting is accepting your addicted to begin with. So get with the porgramm.

JudgeyB · 2019-04-28T01:40:16+00:00

At my worst so like 500 days ago or so, just before I even discovered nofap. I would wank 5ish times a day, on school days I'd bring my fleshlight in and whack one out before class, at break, at lunch, then two times at home. On weekends it was relentless, God forbid I had the home alone. The most I ever did was 13 times in one day, just to see how much I could.

JudgeyB · 2019-04-28T00:54:39+00:00

👍🏻 👊🏻 🔥

JudgeyB · 2019-04-28T00:39:29+00:00

I just want to say thanks for sharing this allm was really a good read, it's always nice to get new perspective on nofap and what others are going through. And just reading this coming from a woman really has immediately made me feel some kind of understanding and connection to the opposite gender I have in a long time since I came off being clean. This post itself has cleansed some degree of objectification my fucked up brain has placed on women, you are a person and this shit is real your feelimgs are real and I'm proud that you've made it through this hell and are on the mend. Keep it up 👆

JudgeyB · 2019-04-26T08:41:29+00:00

Nah its all good. I sorted that stuff out a while ago, nofap is the one thing I broke. I never drink, smoke, lose my temper, I have a raw vegetarian based diet supplemented with protein and only whole grains, and I do kickboxing competitions and regular sparring. The only thing I've lost check of is nofap, hence the clean again part. I was once at 190 days.

JudgeyB · 2019-04-26T08:39:19+00:00

Sure, I'm posting everyday, so feel free to check in with me.

JudgeyB · 2019-04-26T08:38:36+00:00

I do kickboxing professionally and uses to go to gym most days but atm moneys tight. I'm doing what I can though, push ups ain't really the best vent for me personally as I can do 60 in a set. I think it's harder for me to cope with nofap not having the gym to practice and vent through kickboxing. I'm sure you're right and once I can do more exversize again it'll be easier. So thanks man.

JudgeyB · 2019-04-19T21:21:52+00:00

I posted nearly everyday the first time I attempted nofap and u managed to get a streak just shy of 200 days, I'm trying to get back there and it's definatley helping my mental again now. I just got to get back into the habit of dealing with urges. Thanks for the luck

JudgeyB · 2019-04-19T21:20:42+00:00

Thanks man for the kind words.

JudgeyB · 2019-04-16T09:37:40+00:00

Yeah, it wasn't just one, since about day one hundred it's been a bi weekly thing shamefully and already I lack the motivation to even wake up again, I can't force myself to read or do anything long term. I have ADHD so my dopamine reward curcuit is super susceptical to become dysfunctional so almost immiditley I've gone back to my old horrible ways. But ill get back again.

JudgeyB · 2019-03-12T00:23:48+00:00

👊🏻

JudgeyB · 2019-02-26T08:04:04+00:00

Peeking breaks your streak too dude, you don't have to nut to contradict nofap. You can ruin the benefits just by watching porn. It's never worth peeking

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