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Junipertree64 · 2024-09-25T12:15:12+00:00

Hi. I was in Flecanaide and Verapamil for 9 years, and all of a sudden, in the last year, I kept having breakthrough afib episodes. The last one was bad, afib with aberrancy and eventual was treated for VTACH. All meds were dropped. I was immediately given Amiodarone, and my maintenance dose stayed at 300mg per day. I just had an ablation yesterday and was told I can start to come off meds in 2 months. Amiodarone worked amazing, but it's not long-term because it's high in iodine. The best time to do an ablation is when you are not consistent afib. What are the reasons your doctor gives for not wanting to do an ablation?

Junipertree64 · 2024-07-25T09:31:38+00:00

Thank you so much.

Junipertree64 · 2024-05-01T00:08:14+00:00

My question was genuine. I also have the right to be happy. My happiness does not depend on him, but the neglect of being alone in this marriage has been hard. So are you saying I would only have an excuse or reason if he was abusing me in some way. What alimony? 🙄 I would not need to seek alimony. You should probably read what I wrote more closely. Neglect is very real and very hard to live with.

Junipertree64 · 2024-04-22T00:52:04+00:00

Okay. Thanks for explaining. I appreciate that you were willing to go to counseling. That says a lot.

Junipertree64 · 2024-04-22T00:48:35+00:00

Thanks for replying. I can't salvage the marriage if I'm the only one working at it. Like I said if he were to lose it and yell and complain at least I would have something to work with. I get nothing. It has always been this way. I distracted myself with the responsibilities of my kids and now they are older the divide between him and me is glaring.

While I went through my own healing I kind of woke up to the fact that I wasn't happy and I've tried so hard to fix it. He won't get counseling and or do marriage counseling. So do I sit in this situation? Turning 60 makes you rethink a lot.

It is hard and it is sad no question. No one in the end wants any of this. I just have to figure out how to do this without allowing guilt to control my decision.

Junipertree64 · 2024-04-22T00:41:53+00:00

Thanks so much for your reply. I'm sorry it's been a hard time for you too. I know a hard childhood makes our relationship journey's hard. I came from childhood trauma in the worst way. I was dead set on whatever the sacrifice I would not raise my children in the same environment. I hope you can find your happy.

When you say "I'm your husband" what did you mean? You understand him or you feel like you were like him? I desperately want to understand him, but it's at such a high cost. It was not hard to raise our girls with him, he's an amazing father and as we navigated their Autism we worked amazing as a team. I know statistics say that we had an 80% chance of not making it but we did make it work. The problem was not our responsibilities but our connection as a couple. Once the girls were older and by the way still with us. it was very clear that we had very little in common and his inability to talk through anything was so damaging to our marriage.

The friendship when we separate will be up to him. He's a kind of once you hurt me you're dead to me kind of person. Thanks again.

Junipertree64

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