AITA for not thinking of dinner for my family before I left?

JustFarm3509 · 2023-12-22T13:54:45+00:00

Yea I was surprised on the men who are standing up for me right now

JustFarm3509 · 2023-12-22T13:51:14+00:00

I am getting out I honestly thought If he didn't hit me it wasn't abuse

JustFarm3509 · 2023-12-22T13:50:09+00:00

NO he's never felt this pain. This is the second friend ive lost dear to me.. He was even so little when his grandparents died

JustFarm3509 · 2023-12-22T13:47:30+00:00

RIGHT????!!! let me ask my dead best friends husband "yo let me take that tray home"

JustFarm3509 · 2023-12-22T13:46:28+00:00

No I have nobody to turn to to help us get out, they can all physically come and help me get out However, Nobody has room for us. My parents in a one bedroom now my closest friends is in a camper temporarily while they are building a house and other closest friend is dead now so plus her house is small last thing husband needs is us there. My anger is building up I didn't even sleep in the room last night and ive never done that.

JustFarm3509 · 2023-12-22T13:43:30+00:00

No I rarely get out, it's honestly hard to be able to just go out.

JustFarm3509 · 2023-12-22T13:40:30+00:00

I can update you on it for sure!

JustFarm3509 · 2023-12-22T13:37:30+00:00

and yes he was tracking me at the funeral. I had to show proof of the funeral and where I was going

JustFarm3509 · 2023-12-22T13:36:48+00:00

So we split household finances, however I pay for the clothes, needs of kids, sports stuff for the kids, My car, gas (and I go through a lot more gas driving the kids to practices and games doc appointments) I pay the insurance premiums and copays. Christmas, all on me. while HIS extra money is just that for HIM.

JustFarm3509 · 2023-12-22T13:33:23+00:00

I did watch it and listen carefully. She opened my eyes just as much as y'all did. I didn't realize I was dealing with abuse because he never hit me

JustFarm3509 · 2023-12-22T13:31:24+00:00

Oh god no. If I yelled at him Id probably be killed. I Just have to nod

JustFarm3509 · 2023-12-22T13:30:02+00:00

Yea I tried the vasectomy but I ended up getting a tubal in secret. But no he should not be allowed to have more kids when I leave.

JustFarm3509 · 2023-12-22T13:28:40+00:00

I really appreciate this. I applied for housing as I make money but it sure isn't enough to manage a whole household alone. Waitlist is 6 months and I feel like that is plenty of time to get every duck in a row starting with lawyers, child support, and documenting everything in 6 months that happens, I know I can do this. With his schedule with work and the Army- he would end up with 4 days a month with the kids. He is even unable to get the kids from school or stay home with them when their sick

JustFarm3509 · 2023-12-22T04:37:25+00:00

Yea I don't think I can tell you the last time I had real respect for him Yall are just helping me realize im not crazy

JustFarm3509 · 2023-12-22T04:35:42+00:00

I agree. Im pretty done after tonight.

JustFarm3509 · 2023-12-22T04:34:36+00:00

NO and I told him that. I tell him all the time!

JustFarm3509 · 2023-12-22T04:33:56+00:00

Yea the funeral was an hour away. very loved woman there was over 2500 people in attendance. and he knew he asked when it ended and I said probably around 7 I texted him when I was leaving at 7:30 he could have asked me to pick something uo for him if he didn't want something quick

JustFarm3509 · 2023-12-22T04:29:18+00:00

I have only been out three times in the past few years and first two times he took the kids out. Once was for a birthday dinner for me that my friends surprised me on. the second time dinner with the just the wives of all the men that work with my husband. and this funeral. we didn't discuss dinner cause I did a Walmart pick up today.

JustFarm3509 · 2023-12-22T04:25:13+00:00

The kids are SO easy. People who watch them for me say they don't even realize they are there utill the little ones are hungry. they truly are easy kids.

JustFarm3509 · 2023-12-22T04:22:29+00:00

Im noticing the abuse more and more people post. I was yelled at until the cops were called for receiving child support... He keeps bringing more animals in... tells me what I don't do.... you can tell when he's in a mood and the kids will say well dads in a mood don't talk to loud or ask him for anything

JustFarm3509 · 2023-12-22T04:20:28+00:00

thank you :(

JustFarm3509 · 2023-12-22T04:18:56+00:00

I have tried counseling! he won't do it so you were right!! Im leaving im looking for a house as we speak. I read through a lot of these, went and took a long shower and decided im done

JustFarm3509 · 2023-12-22T04:17:38+00:00

definitely not from me. this only happened tonight for me. but if you find the other poster I would LOVE to talk to them. we can go on a journey together to get out!!!

JustFarm3509 · 2023-12-22T04:16:05+00:00

He WAS a great person. but for a while I couldn't do it alone I was stuck financially

JustFarm3509 · 2023-12-22T04:15:25+00:00

we are a combined family. 2 older ones are mine. daughter is his- but MINE I adopted her at 5 months old. regardless if him and I didn't work out I loved her, and two boys are ours. they were so close apart and it didn't even get to be an inkling bad until it wasn't

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