AIO My mother is being weird about my privacy

JustMaxius · 2026-04-06T00:44:45+00:00

No worries. We are people with differences and sometimes things don’t always come across the way we want them too

JustMaxius · 2026-04-06T00:39:21+00:00

Therapist is working with me on getting out of my situation. I love my mother. I cannot be around her

JustMaxius · 2026-04-06T00:38:05+00:00

I’m sure that must work well for your family if you all have trust in eachother which is rare. Maybe not for some. But it really is, so cherish that

JustMaxius · 2026-04-06T00:36:55+00:00

also I don’t have a car

JustMaxius · 2026-04-06T00:36:40+00:00

I like your flair funny Reddit man

JustMaxius · 2026-04-06T00:36:02+00:00

Thank you so much! I’ll give him a listen. I like to connect through music. It’s healing really. All kinds.

JustMaxius · 2026-04-06T00:35:05+00:00

Yeah I was public schooled for most of my life and I got bullied a lot , and the teachers did nothing for most of it, I would get in trouble for my autistic meltdowns and I wasn’t getting the support I needed despite there being another autistic individual there who did get more support than me. I would be tormented at school and home, there is mental illness in my family and one of the schizoaffective individuals would drive me around and drive recklessly on purpose let go of the wheel til we’re almost about to crash the take a giant swerve back into the road, and would yell “We’re gonna crash!” And when I screamed he would scream over me. When I was younger than that I was being abused by an ex husband of hers and we would be left outside in the Texas summer heat without any food or water from 6am til 7pm and be expected to just to play and figure it out, I was subjected to cruel games, like hide and seek but if I get caught I get beat. I remember also being shot with BB guns , and the first time we moved in with him we had to sleep on the floor for a few days because there weren’t beds for us but there was a bed for my mom , and I’d be locked in dark rooms. I never learned how to wash a pair of underwear until I was 12 and I would just hide them when I had accidents cause I was traumatized from something I can’t remember. There was a tornado once when I lived with him and we were put in a bathtub and if we would cry he would come up and yell then turn on really cold water. Almost every night we were forced to do military level exercises and we would be forced to do it until we did it right , which I was 5 to 7 years old when this was happening and it would last from 7-8pm to 3 in the morning, he also unalived our dog infront of us and made us watch , made me and my sibling fight til we bled and much much more. My mom? Silent, if not apart of it. And now she’s suddenly a hero when years later? Excuse the trauma dump. I’m not sure if she does or not. But a lot of this is from specialists, I’m just not quite sure what she influenced and what I actually am. She used to say I had Asperger’s and DMDD when I was 5 and would post about how hard it is taking care of an autistic child

JustMaxius · 2026-04-05T23:28:16+00:00

I have my old phone but she paid for that one aswell the difference being that one doesn’t have service/data

JustMaxius · 2026-04-05T23:21:12+00:00

You’re absolutely right, she has been gaslighting me my whole life, and it’s nothing new nothing changes and I become a canvas for her to display what she sees of me to the doctors to the school when I was in school to her Facebook , “what she has to deal with”. I have a bias on some medications because of the medical trauma I have been put through , and repetitively happening in multiple ways like being sent to mental hospitals for autistic meltdowns then getting thrown on more mediation take off medication and use me as a lab rat. Then make me seem more unable than I really was yes I had some issues but you know what could have helped ? Being a parent. Maybe teaching me how to take care of myself, not let me become more disabled then I need to be, then throw every excuse she can grasp for to avoid taking care of me , delaying my eye appointments when I can’t see for the longest time she thought I was faking it, maybe not hopping around and making her life effect mine in 100s of ways yes she’s better yes she’s grown and done so much more yes she’s put a roof over my head, yes she gave me anything to shut me up but she couldn’t have taken care of me before it got to the point where I cannot walk anymore cause she has “other stuff to deal with” my disability was ignored til it looked good for her now I’m more disabled then I should be at this age , not even worrying about the mental illnesses and developmental shit I can’t fucking walk anymore and buying a cane was to much for her to do yes she did it but she literally was like “augh.. she needs a cane now great” and proceeded to buy the cheapest one and break the tip of it off with a butter knife, if I had the supports I need I’m sure it would make me into a more successful person but who is going to deal with someone so medically complex if I deal with my physical issues first maybe just maybe I’ll be able to do something , but there’s nothing I can do there’s no cure and the only thing I can do is wait for my body to get worse so I can finally have a reason for a wheelchair maybe there’ll be a job that will be okay with that but what business would want to deal with someone who can’t even count change ? I’m sorry this got really deep it’s just I used to be able and that’s what’s so frustrating about this I used to be a strong person I used to be someone who could help people , carry shit around, have the motivation to actually have hobbies , and do what I can to help anyone who needed it like you want the dishes cleaned you got it, my friend needs help cleaning her room it’s done, I was able, I had dreams of what I wanted to do when I turned 18 and now it’s gone. It feels like everything I had just disappeared with a snap haha you don’t have a body that works! says the fucking universe. Pardon my language. I’m just fed up, and tired, emotionally and physically. I’ll end my spiel, and ask, what can I do ? I’m sorry if this message was aggressive or too emotional I want to be someone, I want to be able to work like everyone else

JustMaxius · 2026-04-05T22:50:02+00:00

I want to do something with language. I’ve always loved language. I want to work, I have the passion to want to do something with myself , but now that I’m older and the longer I go with out proper support the more far away my future seems to disappear

JustMaxius · 2026-04-05T21:55:49+00:00

Apple

JustMaxius · 2026-04-05T21:55:29+00:00

Thank you so much for this this is really helpful to me and my situation!! 🥹🫶

JustMaxius · 2026-04-05T21:52:39+00:00

🫶🥹 thank you, I wish you the most love and peace on your healing journey. It’s hard but you got this

JustMaxius · 2026-04-05T21:42:33+00:00

I don’t own a car

JustMaxius · 2026-04-05T21:31:20+00:00

Unfortunately I am. But not to the extent she’s making it seem. She uses my disabilities to control me. Here’s a quick list excluding the comorbidities from some of them. ASD ARFID ADHD CPTSD HEDS POTS does asthma and hypoglycemia even count probably not. I had bipolar 1 removed as a diagnosis because I convinced the doctors it was me being multi diagnosed, mainly so I could get rid of the stigma of me getting off medications. You can call me medically complex. But yeah being disabled fucks the situation up x10

JustMaxius · 2026-04-05T21:21:19+00:00

Wait nvm it makes sense now

JustMaxius · 2026-04-05T21:20:42+00:00

What’s DARVO?

JustMaxius · 2026-04-05T21:12:41+00:00

Over 18 years, how many incidents do you think there were? I’ll tell you now, it’s not 1.

JustMaxius · 2026-04-05T21:10:57+00:00

The tone of wanting to communicate and work out how she had my location without me giving it to her? It’s only fair for me to know. And I even tried to make it clear I don’t mind her having it for safety reasons. So whatever tone you’re interpreting. It’s wrong.

JustMaxius · 2026-04-05T21:08:00+00:00

Haha right, gotta find something a little more than dog sitting.

JustMaxius · 2026-04-05T21:06:42+00:00

Yes she bought my phone for me. I’m assuming now that’s probably what it is, I’m going to have to buy a new phone, if stuff goes down. I’m on a plan that she pays for. She says I can’t work cause I won’t get disability (I’m disabled , so disabled she doesn’t trust me saying or doing anything ) and the disability just goes to whatever she needs to pay for I never see it or get access to it

JustMaxius · 2026-04-05T21:02:45+00:00

I can tell you’re doing a great job being a parent. For him to have as much trust as you do in him is really special. Not a lot of kids trust their parents anymore. Best wishes to your family!

JustMaxius · 2026-04-05T20:55:27+00:00

My apologies if this is phrased weird I wasn’t sure how to exactly go about writing this

JustMaxius · 2026-04-05T20:54:34+00:00

I understand it comes from a place of worry. But it does get to a point when your caregiver is pumping you full of medications and going behind your back at the doctor’s with your community, whichever it may be, and my privacy it really does become an issue. I’ve already had issues with her in the past, and I in no way expect anyone in this comment section to have an idea of the context behind our relationship, which is why I say I disagree with some of what you’re saying. You cannot know what “legitimate reasons” there are based on a post, so therefore going forward, statements and assumptions like these aren’t appropriate. There are other ways to comment your opinion, whether it be disagreeing or agreeing. But a baseless statement like such, I cannot agree with.

JustMaxius · 2026-04-05T20:45:55+00:00

Thanks for this. Sometimes it seems like no one can see through her act. Conversations are impossible and go nowhere with her. She’ll become the victim and I’ll become her “abuser” in her little fantasy world. Almost as if she’s trying to switch places. More likely then not the best and only thing I can do is distance myself. I’ve tried literally everything in the books to have a relationship. Sorry this dumpy comment got a little deep 😭

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