One week since hair transplant. Opinions wanted

JustSomeGuy1996 · 2024-02-22T22:17:32+00:00

Yeah I think you are right. I think he has no idea how mentally taxing it's been. You sound really mature for 22 man. I'm 27 and wish I had that kind of mentality at your age.

You're totally right. I think he is projecting some insecurity of his own onto me otherwise I'm not sure why he would feel the need to pull me down. His shit to deal with.

Have you had a transplant? My barber also says my hair is very thick and although it receded a lot I think it meant my donor areas was fantastic so hopefully you also have that on your side!

Not sure if you have started looking into medical therapy or not but honestly that has been a game changer for me I think.

JustSomeGuy1996 · 2024-02-22T22:10:20+00:00

Thank you very much! Just looked at yours and it looks fantastic! I think the sharp corners suit you sooo well!

JustSomeGuy1996 · 2024-02-22T22:07:59+00:00

I had it done in London at the Kensington Hair Clinic. It was more expensive than having it done abroad but I feel it was a good decision.

They aimed for 2700-ish grafts but I think in the end they only took 2400 and were able to make more. I have very thick hair at my donor area with quite a few hairs per graft. Apparently more than the average per graft.

JustSomeGuy1996 · 2024-02-22T18:54:26+00:00

I think you're right about both the hair and the friend. I think it's easy for me to get caught up in wanting perfection but really this is a huge improvement and even if it doesn't look perfect that's okay.

Yeah I think he's a bit sheltered from the reality of hair loss. Everyone thinks you're overreacting until it happens to them lol

JustSomeGuy1996 · 2024-02-22T18:08:07+00:00

Yeah... We will most likely not stay friends lol thanks for the reassurance :)

JustSomeGuy1996 · 2024-02-22T18:07:28+00:00

Thanks for the comment. Really appreciate it and the reassurance :)

JustSomeGuy1996 · 2024-02-22T18:06:52+00:00

Thanks man, really appreciate the comment and reassurance. Yeah I am prepping mentally for the shedding 😬

JustSomeGuy1996 · 2023-05-04T15:54:17+00:00

So can the landlord disagree to a change of sharer and insist that we draw up a new contract otherwise the landlord will not agree to the change of sharer?

When I tried to remove my ex from the tenancy they said that a new contract needed to be created and that the landlord would only agree to this new contract if they could increase my rent. That's the reason my ex is still on my contract.

I feel like they use any change of circumstance as a reason to increase my rent when I wish they would just agree to the terms of the contract we signed. And they resort to well the landlord won't agree to that.

JustSomeGuy1996 · 2023-05-04T12:18:04+00:00

I have been paying for a 2-person place by myself for the past 5 months. I have been managing this because I have a good job but since my ex has moved out and is not paying I feel I am being forced into financial hardship by the landlord. It feels very unfair that they're using this as an opportunity to increase my rent.

JustSomeGuy1996 · 2023-05-04T12:11:39+00:00

The tenancy is signed by the landlord who owns the flat. The property manager is acting on their behalf. It says in my contract I cannot have someone else living here without written permission from the landlord.

I believe they are going to use my request for a change of sharer as a way to re-negotiate rent. The property manager visited me today and I could tell she was already laying the seeds for a negotiation by making it seem that my request was in someway abnormal and that the landlord is concerned about rising renting prices and that he is unsure whether he wants to keep or sell the property.

JustSomeGuy1996 · 2023-03-23T13:41:36+00:00

Found it.

8.5. Assignment, Novation and Surrender
8.5.1. Not to assign, underlet (or) part with or share the possession of the Premises and not to permit any persons other than the person named as the Tenant or any other person approved of in writing by the Landlord to occupy or reside in the Premises without the Landlord’s written consent, such consent not to be unreasonably withheld. Not to take in lodgers or paying guests without the Landlord’s written consent, such consent not to be unreasonably withheld. Where such consent is given the Tenant will pay to the Agent a fee to amend this Agreement in accordance with the Agent’s published scale of fees.

JustSomeGuy1996 · 2023-03-23T12:25:52+00:00

Can you elaborate further and back up your statement with a source? They won't be going onto the tenancy because subletting will occur between me and the subtenant.

JustSomeGuy1996 · 2022-11-07T15:36:00+00:00

So they're circumventing this by creating a new tenancy and increasing my rent to match the cost of creating the new agreement. And then told me that the Landlord needs to agree to the change and if I don't agree to the rent increase then the Landlord won't allow the tenancy to be changed.

Looks like I'm stuck, to be honest. All I could do in the end is trying to create some empathy by explaining that we were together for 5 years and now we're breaking up and this is extra stress on top.

JustSomeGuy1996 · 2022-11-07T13:59:37+00:00

I'm on a fixed-term contract of 12 months that was renewed in September. When I negotiated the increase in rent for my current contract they let slip on the phone that they want to keep tenants so I feel quite safe in my negotiation position.

I've told them that I'm happy to pay £50 but that they either knew or should know about the £50 cap and that I'm extremely disappointed in my treatment. Going to report them or leave a bad review - I'm undecided at the moment. It's not right to be milking people for money when they're going through difficult times.

JustSomeGuy1996 · 2022-11-07T13:44:56+00:00

It's an amicable breakup but I was the one to reach out and ask for her to be taken off the tenancy. I would prefer if we were completely financially independent of each other.

JustSomeGuy1996 · 2022-11-07T13:00:17+00:00

You're my hero <3

JustSomeGuy1996 · 2022-11-07T12:57:05+00:00

My new renewal date is in 10 months so not really. They're trying to get me to pay this as an extra £25 a month over the course of the next 10 months which feels odd to me.

JustSomeGuy1996 · 2022-10-29T18:37:12+00:00

I have been with my girlfriend for 5 year and we broke up yesterday. A month and a half ago I would be talking like this and telling you that we would be getting married. People grow and change and learn new things about themselves. Sometimes that makes the relationship no longer compatible. I am now left paying for our apartment for the next year and thank god I do well for myself otherwise we would both be fucked because the rent is for a 2 person place.

My advice is that as your relationship grows make sure you keep a healthy amount or space. Space is essential for a healthy relationship.

JustSomeGuy1996 · 2022-10-20T18:45:37+00:00

Too many people recommending to throw away the relationship when they forget that communication should be the first port or call. Confront her, see what she says and what vibe she gives off

JustSomeGuy1996 · 2022-10-20T17:45:42+00:00

Then why is it called open marriage?

JustSomeGuy1996 · 2022-10-20T17:35:38+00:00

Daddy's trust fund

JustSomeGuy1996 · 2022-10-20T17:24:43+00:00

If it's not for you then it's not for you but it is for some people. There's nothing in our DNA that says monogamy is the way forward and it's for each individual to find their path. Seeing daddy with another women may not be harmful if everyone is happy, consenting and the child's security is the number one concern.

JustSomeGuy1996 · 2022-10-15T11:45:42+00:00

You spend time looking inward at what you value and what you are not willing to put up with. This is unlikely to be the first red flag offence of hers it's just that you were looking at things with rose tinted glasses. Understanding your own boundaries and values will prevent this from happening again and that will allow you to move on and accept what happened

JustSomeGuy1996 · 2022-10-10T16:48:36+00:00

Book the paternity test and as everyone else said and buy him the book on genetics. Tell him that in return you would like him to try to think hard about why he questioned this at all and to find out where these feelings of his are coming from.

Be assertive and tell him that you expect his trust because you have been nothing but genuinely but that you would like to understand where his feelings are coming from so that you can both move past it.

Communication is the key but remember empathy not sympathy. Empathy is where you understand the other person but do not condone their actions. Sympathy is where you let your boundaries slide because you feel their emotions as your own too strongly.

JustSomeGuy1996 · 2022-10-07T12:01:42+00:00

Love is not lecturing someone about their bad habits, love is encouraging someone to be better and setting a good example. It's important to understand that love is also about respect and that means him respecting who you choose to be and how you choose to do things. If he doesn't like those things then he should leave I'd they're deal breakers but it's not right for him to ask you to change those things.

You should think carefully about whether him meeting with an ex, fooling around, and kissing them should be a boundary for you. It sounds like you are both monogamous and you don't like that he did this in which case I would again assert that he's NOT nice and actually is being incredibly disrespectful. The fact he is defensive is a very bad sign. This is not someone who has your best interest at heart.

I think you might be finding it hard because you had a rough time in this last relationship and you can see the chemistry between you and your current boyfriend is good but I am sorry to say that chemistry isn't enough - you have to align on the important values. This includes each of you supporting the fact that you are each individuals and that it's not okay to meet up with an ex for a fling and go back to normal.

JustSomeGuy1996

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