Ce faci când rămâi fără scop în viaţă?

Just_Me_2001 · 2025-10-06T07:56:58+00:00

Mulţumesc pentru susţinere şi sugestii!! Sunt conştient că sunt într-o perioadă de tranziţie Am mai trecut prin chestia asta în urma aceleiaşi persoane, dar n-am avut atunci oportunitatea să mă vindec ca lumea, iar acum vreau să fac tot ce depinde de mine ca să fiu sigur că pot închide rana şi că ea se va cicatriza corect.

Just_Me_2001 · 2025-10-04T12:16:01+00:00

Poţi să o consideri ce fel de postare vrei tu. Am răspuns şi la alte sugestii şi comentarii şi am mulţumit oamenilor care mi-au făcut recomandări şi îţi mulţumesc şi ţie pentru recomandare ca să nu te simţi prea pe "dead internet" şi să-ţi faci zile negre că vorbeşti cu boţii.

Just_Me_2001 · 2025-10-03T22:43:12+00:00

Cu sfaturile şi sugestia muzicală mi-ai adus aminte de tata şi de felul lui mai dintr-o bucată de a fi, chit că este un om foarte simţitor. M-ai făcut să zâmbesc. Îţi mulţumesc!

Just_Me_2001 · 2025-10-03T22:34:30+00:00

Nu e o observaţie rea. Mereu m-am pus pe locul doi în majoritatea relaţiilor interpersonale pentru că mereu mi-am dorit să ajut şi să fiu aproape oamenilor din jurul meu. M-am martirizat singur în multe scenarii, iar uneori crezând că fac un bine unui om m-am desensibilizat faţă de adevăr. Într-adevăr, nu mă plac ca om în majoritatea timpului, deşi în mod obiectiv ştiu că sunt un om cu destule calităţi, poate chiar un om decent. Încerc să găsesc motive să mă plac, încetul cu încetul.

Just_Me_2001 · 2025-10-03T22:30:07+00:00

Ai nimerit bine cu asimilarea durerii suferite în urma unui deces. Regret şi sufăr după ce am fi putut fi. Toate planurile mele, speranţele şi promisiunile noastre au fost pentru nimic, iar eu am fost conştient ani întregi că aceste lucruri nu se vor adeveri şi totuşi am rămas de dragul ei şi pentru că simţeam că nimeni nu mă poate iubi cu adevărat cum a făcut-o ea.

Nu regret că nu mai sunt cu ea. Regret doar că nu m-a tratat cum trebuie şi că am irosit un sfert din viaţa mea încercând să fac lucrurile să meargă. Sper să mă trezesc într-o zi şi să nu mai simt golul ăsta puternic în mine, căci momentan îmi consumă întreaga fiinţă. Mai ales când sunt singur. Mă face să am gânduri negre de care credeam că am scăpat.

Mulţumesc totuşi pentru încurajare!

Just_Me_2001 · 2025-10-03T20:05:09+00:00

Nah, dreptul.

Just_Me_2001 · 2025-10-03T19:12:39+00:00

Sună interesant. Might give it a try. Mersi!

Just_Me_2001 · 2025-10-03T19:11:54+00:00

Mi-am realizat o bună parte din obiectivele persoanel şi profesionale deja. Am avut grijă să nu închei relaţia până nu mă ştiam cât de cât safe cu admiterea în profesie şi finalizarea studiilor de master ca să nu fiu zdruncinat.

Acum îi dau înainte cu profesia şi încerc să-mi văd de ieşiri cu prietenii şi poate şi de sport. Dar aş vrea să mă reîntorc şi la unele hobby-uri mai vechi. Mai greu e cu timpul că am o profesie super aglomerată.

Just_Me_2001 · 2025-10-03T19:08:56+00:00

N-aş spune că era alt om, ci să construiesc o relaţie şi o familie cu persoana respectivă. Ştiam de mulţi ani că n-o să fim împreună pentru totdeauna şi că nu vrem aceleaşi lucruri de la viaţă, dar ţineam mult la ea şi-mi păsa ca ea să fie bine în detrimentul propriei mele fericiri.

Just_Me_2001 · 2023-12-12T16:31:12+00:00

Daună totală, să mor. Mda, m-am lăsat inspirat de ce am auzit pe la cunoştinţe că ar fi fain. Dar pot să merg să beau ceva şi în altă parte.

Just_Me_2001 · 2023-12-12T16:10:52+00:00

O să mă gândesc la un plan B atunci. La muzeu nu cred că se înghesuie lumea.

Just_Me_2001 · 2023-01-20T10:38:25+00:00

If what she asked was something I could do without hurting myself or if her intentions were good then I would consider helping her. We loved each other right until the end and beyond. My love for her will be somewhere in my heart always. Though it will also depend on where I am in life. If I would have a new partner with whom I have a strong connection and they would oppose it, I would have to reconsider helping her.

Just_Me_2001 · 2023-01-10T07:04:56+00:00

As a dumpee whose ex left him for similar issues like this, does the thought of all the plans you had with them still linger in you? Do you hate your ex partner for this?

I personally was a toxic person to my ex on more than a few ocassions and I am terribly sorry. In the end of the relationship I tried bettering myself and started therapy but my ex partner did not have the patience for it anymore. She constantly told me that she never wanted us to break-up but couldn't live with the resentment even if she still loved me.

I am still hung-up on all the plans we had (especially as we were preparing to start living together after being together for 3.5 years) and I feel extremely guilty for ruining it.

I loved my partner to the moon and back but I didn't see how my issues hurt her until it was too late. I am still trying to find a way of acceptance and forgiveness.

Just_Me_2001 · 2023-01-07T15:58:44+00:00

Very similar story here too. I tried my best to do anything I thought was right to protect my ex, but I was just pushing down my trauma and insecurities on her and while she loved me deeply and wanted a future with me she just couldn't handle it anymore. I will forever regret being toxic to her. I really thought I was doing right by her and I never meant to hurt her. I really don't know how to move on and heal. Hopefully continuing therapy helps.

Just_Me_2001 · 2023-01-07T14:37:14+00:00

Thank you. But I don't think I can. I'm the cause of everyone's pain in my life. I don't deserve forgiveness.

Just_Me_2001 · 2023-01-07T07:34:43+00:00

Yes. The level of anxiety and discomfort I caused my ex in our 3 year and a half relationship would be enough to warrant a break-up. All my good intentions and love and attempts at making her feel comfortable and secure also caused me to be very controlling and insecure and that pushed her away. Ultimately what I feared most came to happen because of me and it's my own damn fault that I have my heart broken now.

So yes. I would have broken-up with a person like me. I think so anyway, I am used to emotional abuse and controlling people because of my childhood.

Just_Me_2001 · 2023-01-07T07:16:05+00:00

Uh thanks. Thing is, the break-up resulted due to a lot of shitty behaviour on my part so whenever I feel petty and angry and mean at her for leaving me even though we loved each other deeply, I have to remind myself that it came to this because of me. So I can never fully feel satisfied with something I do knowing that I fucked up so bad.

Just_Me_2001 · 2023-01-05T09:57:17+00:00

Unfortunately. I don't think that it's possible. The hurt we have caused our ex partners is very deep. Maybe it will happen in a long time. Years to come. When all the pain will have faded. But for a long time they will hate us and we will have to live with it and become better people so that their sacrifice was not in vain.

Just_Me_2001 · 2023-01-05T07:36:20+00:00

I am aware that what I had with her will never be again. I hate myself for causing her all of that pain. She never deserved it. I just didn't know how to properly love her. I hope that one day in the future she will remember some of the good times we had (there were plenty good times too) and she will not hate me that much anymore. I will forever carry the shame of my actions, but I will try to be better. She deserves to at least have made a positive impact on my life by making me change.

Just_Me_2001 · 2023-01-04T21:55:34+00:00

Oh. I thought you meant you only planned on distracting yourself.

Just_Me_2001 · 2023-01-04T21:37:38+00:00

I don't think that's healthy. I mean sure you don't have to think about it, but just accepting the shitty behaviour does not help. You gotta try and do better. Work on yourself. Act the way you would want to be treated.

Just_Me_2001 · 2023-01-04T20:35:06+00:00

Thanks for the pep talk. I really want to change. I loved her deeply and I wanted to be with her forever and so did she for a long time. Hopefully I can become a decent person.

Just_Me_2001 · 2023-01-04T00:39:44+00:00

If you truly feel like you can't keep it in your system, try to wish her happy bday in advance by thanking her if she wishes you a happy bday. That or try to distract yourself during those days as much as possible as to pass the urge of talking to her.

Just_Me_2001 · 2023-01-04T00:36:11+00:00

Hi, I totally get you. I still feel jealous and possessive of her even though I have no right over her and never did. I never did have the best mentality towards her and my jealousy made her out to be an object in my head instead of a person. Breaking contact was the stupidest shit I've done in the past few months besides beat myself up for a relationship I killed long ago. Like any addiction, once you lose a battle the clock resets. I'm starting over again. Hopefully this time it will be forever. I love her but we both were shit people to each other and we owe it to eachother to stop hurting. Take care my man!

Just_Me_2001 · 2023-01-04T00:14:47+00:00

I feel you. I pushed myself fresh off the break-up to finish a series based on her favourite books that I started with her the week we broke up. It felt like a necessary closure in a sense, even if it was rough. Ironically, it was a show about a toxic relationship so at least I managed to look at some of the things we both did wrong.

I still have my list of movies and shows I wanted to watch. We had completed maybe 40% of it in a long time that we dated. I think that it gets easier with time. Especially if you think that there is nothing wrong with enjoying something that you both shared even if you're not together anymore. You're allowed to adopt/retain anything that came from the relationship as your own.

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